Square One

Steven Rodgers once said, ~Beginnings are often scary, endings are often sad, buts its the middle that counts. You should remember that when you find yourself at the beginning.~ Without a doubt, love is the scariest and most complicated thing that a person can and will ever go through because there are certain aspects of it that one never really wants to see or experience. In some aspect, we tend to look the other way and don't acknowledge the possibility of it being taken away from us because quite frankly we can be scared of facing the truth, which one can't run away from. The truth can be a hard concept to grasp , which is that each of us will go through emotional pain and suffer extreme heartache that one doesn't want to experience but that's how life is no matter how hard you want to try to avoid it.

When it comes to love in a relationship, it can be quite scary in the beginning because you don't want to say anything that would jeopardize what could possibly be a life long partnership. Guys have that innate ability to proverbially stick our foot in our mouths and sometimes we can do it without even knowing about it. Primarily it's because women are so complicated and frustrating to figure out, BUT that is what partly makes a woman have such an attractive appeal about her. When you get right down to it, the wrong words we oftentimes tend to say seem to be the right ones which every guy has fallen victim to when in the company of a woman that we truly would like to get to know on a deeper level.

Let me ask you this question, have you ever thought to yourself when meeting someone new that he or she will never be that kind of person who would ever break my heart into a million pieces; yet, in the end that person does? Every person has had those thoughts and to be perfectly honest I think we avoid that scary and painful thought because we tend to put that person on a pedestal. For it is what we imagine that person to be that can overshadow or mask who he or she actually is once you sit down and get to know that person. Each and every person, including myself, has fallen victim to it and there comes a point where a reality check of one's heart needs to be given by those who care about us the most.

For it can be a sad situation indeed at the possible end of a relationship whether it be a breakup or divorce. It's at that point where one or both people try to recapture what each seemingly had in the beginning and middle of the relationship which was a strong loving bond for each other. Yet, when it comes to recapturing the past, one can find yourself running away from the problem rather than running to it and confronting that problematic situation. Undoubtedly, one wants something to happen so badly that it would merit a reconciliation of the relationship which he or she may not want just yet. It's just a matter of having patience and letting that person have time to himself or herself; for whatever he or she decides one just has to respect it because you love that person enough to let him or her go.

In retrospect, there are no magical buttons to push or levers to pull that can fix or solve one's love life. There are times where a person can get it right one time and one time only; but there are times where a person gets it wrong several times before he or she will get it absolutely right. No matter how scared you are of love, if you continue to move forward rather than backwards then you've already won. If only love came with an instruction manual to show us how to properly assemble each of our hearts that have fallen apart due to the wrong directions being given. In the end, it's not until we find the right directions that we will have all the pieces of our hearts in place that, like an instruction manual, we simply have to go back to square one.