Voice In My Head

NZ Kaminsky once said, ~Negative inner talk is like an unsolicited marketer or a scammer. Once you engage, you’re doomed. You’ll get pulled into a never-ending discussion and be lucky to escape without feeling completely drained.~ Let me ask you this question, do you truly believe each one of us can end up becoming our own worst enemy, especially when we’re constantly in our head? For it can most definitely be a mentally draining situation indeed when you’re heavily involved in one’s internal dialogue, which can certainly cause anyone to experience a plethora of mixed emotions such as anxiety, anger, fear, hatred, embarrassment, disgust, shame, dread, doubt, worry, insecurity, sadness, frustration, bitterness, disappointment, utter contempt, etc.

Without a doubt, the inner voice we all hear in our head has the ability to cause us to second guess any move we’re thinking about making, especially when it comes to matters of the heart pertaining to the dating scene. In some aspect, it’s like having our inner voice relentlessly poking our heart with a stick and questioning whether or not the right decision is being made, which can drive a person to the brink of insanity. Thinking about it further, the one thing we don’t want to end up doing is hesitate, which is a mistake. Why? Essentially, it leads to an internal conversation that involves talking yourself out of something potentially positive because we’re not only overtaken by fear, but by the loud, negative voice of self criticism.

As I mentioned before, it can most definitely be a mentally draining situation indeed when you’re heavily involved in one’s internal dialogue, which can certainly cause anyone to experience a plethora of mixed emotions. I think it’s safe to say we’ve all done or are doing it to the point where it ends up becoming a tortuous form of self sabotage in regard to either our personal and/or professional lives. In other words, the painful torture of overthinking a particular situation so much so there’s a back and forth discussion with our inner voice. Of course, it’s a discussion in which it may seemingly look all cool, calm and collected on the outside, but on the inside it’s incredibly loud/noisy in a mentally chaotic way.

For the question can be asked: when was the last time you self sabotaged yourself because you listened to your inner voice and did you have any unfortunate regrets because of it? Oftentimes, it’s the scenarios we’ve created by imagining the worst inevitably resulting in a ruined moment/situation because of something said or done thus causing you to want to kick yourself. True, our lives would be so much simpler and far less annoying if there was an actual switch that would automatically turn off the voice of negativity in order to avoid hearing, listening, as well as speaking it aloud. What it primarily comes down to is not letting the inner voice win and you do that by taking control of not just the way you’re thinking, but how as well.

In retrospect, one of the biggest and greatest challenges in life is trying to block out the inner voice of negative thinking to where you’re possibly experiencing a Smeagol-like existential mental crisis of sorts. Hey, on any given day we all act like everything is fine and normal but the reality of it all is there is a tremendous amount of difficulty in keeping ourselves from mentally spiraling. Oftentimes, we don’t know what’s going on with someone’s life until you actually sit down to talk and they start mentally unpacking, so to speak, leading them to opening up emotionally. In the end, to those of who are facing/going through an overwhelming mental battle of negativity just repeat the following words: I will not listen to the voice in my head.