Easy At Goodbyes

Someone once said. ~It is better to let someone walk away from you than walk all over you. You don't deserve to be a doormat. Let go of those who hurt you, and make room for those who actually deserve you and want to treat you well.~ If you think about it, when a person experiences constant relationship heartbreak it can most definitely get or has come to the point where walking away is considered to be the easy choice. For it's not that difficult of a decision to make knowing how much you've given and a tremendous amount has been literally, as well as figuratively taken from you while living the single life pertaining to the dating scene. Essentially, the unfortunate experiences of bad past relationships can certainly lead or have left one hardened in such a way you as an individual ends up becoming a different person who doesn't care at all.

Without a doubt, to be the type of person who simply shrugs off a break up and has the ability to completely walk away from any personal, mental, along with emotional attachments reveals pain that runs so deep it leaves you feeling absolutely nothing. Granted, it may have not been easy in the beginning as you're dealing with the thoughts/feelings/emotions so complex, contradictive, and conflicted it drains you in every sense of the word. In other words, the interior scars can plainly be seen on the surface or just below it by those around you. Yet, as you move on it becomes a lot less complex, contradicting and conflicting to becoming more cynically jaded within your own heart. Essentially, the jaded cynicism is in some way like a metaphorical light switch that's never really been switched off for quite some time because he/she/you didn't see a point in ever switching it back on.

As I said before, the decision to walk away from a relationship isn't a difficult one to make for any individual who is just plain fed up with getting hurt as it pertains to matters of the heart involving love/true love. I think it's safe to say it's an unfortunate sad state of affairs indeed when you've found/are finding yourself constantly picking up the pieces of your broken heart, so to speak, leading you to reach a moment where walking away is deemed totally normal as if it were considered to be a rapid reflex response. Women, more of than not, know this seemingly all too well as they've emotionally switched themselves off after reaching their quintessential BS limit so much so it leaves them emotionally and mentally constipated. Of course, the same can be said for some guys too who even though they share somewhat similar situations they didn't really care all that much to begin with I'm sorry to say.

Let me ask you this question to those who have recently walked away in the past or recently from an incredibly toxic relationship, how long did it take to part ways knowing it was the best decision you've made knowing there's someone out there somewhere who you're far more deserving of? True, for a number of people it took a considerable amount of soul searching and not to mention supportive help from one's best buds/gal pals to leave whereas for others they were gone like a fart in the wind. Hey, you have to have perspective when it comes to your own needs and you have every right to be selfish sometimes in wanting true happiness as long as you don't overly obsess over it. What it primarily comes down to is having an innate inner strength and having the determination in wanting to be happy inside and out instead of tirelessly faking it for some many years on both accounts.

In retrospect, don't ever become a person who checks out of a strong worthwhile relationship because you're actually being treated with respect. A far cry from how you've been usually treated in your past relationships that had you feeling the urge to bail immediately. Why? If I fair to guess it's an unfamiliar and uncomfortable feeling of vulnerability not felt in a long time to where the inability to process or even deal with a guy/girl showing the true meaning/qualities of a loving relationship is mind boggling. You see, that feeling shows you actually care. Oftentimes, the knee jerk reaction is to either attack or make fun of him/her for actually being a genuinely, caring guy/girl who is patient and taking the time to allow their/your heavily guarded inner walls to come down. In the end, to my fellow single peeps I hope there comes a point in life where you are easy at goodbyes as you finally say farewell to a past filled with heartbreak and move forward to a future. shared with your future best friend for life.