Etched In Stone

Ursula K. Le Grun once said, ~Love doesn't sit there like a stone, it has to be made like bread; remade all the time, made new.~ Without a doubt, there are times when you're living the single life it can seem as if you're metaphorically standing in front of your own heart with chisel and hammer in hand in order to reshape it like a stone sculptor. For it can most definitely be a tremendously long process indeed to say the least in trying to smoothly shape your own heart to what you imagine it to be, especially when love/true love is involved. Essentially, it takes a considerable amount of patience in working to in all intents and purposes chisel out how its intended to look to what it actually looks like, which is considered at times to be a far better end result than you've imagined.

If you think about it, when you're single you have a tendency to spend a considerable amount of time just taking a step back, in a manner of speaking, visualizing as a whole one's proverbial heart of stone. True, it can sometimes take days, weeks, months, and/or years to get any kind of feeling/idea pertaining to a guy/girl who truly inspires you to start chiseling away piece by piece in hopes it gradually forms into true happiness. Hey, while standing there with a chisel and hammer in hand representing one's thoughts, feelings, as well as emotions there can inevitably be indecisiveness concerning where to start or not even start at all. Thinking about it further, it can get to a point where you'll find yourself continuously walking around your heart, in a manner of speaking, without making any move whatsoever.

As I said before, there's a tremendously long process indeed to try to smoothly shape your own heart to what you want it to be, especially when love/true love is involved. Of course, mistakes will probably be made but not too many to where you'll run the risk of chiseling away too much or you find yourself starting completely over from scratch. Unfortunately, a number of people have found themselves starting over experiencing utter heartbreak whereby important relationship pieces such as trust, hope, faith, respect, honor, intimacy, understanding, communication, commitment, etc. are chiseled off. Sadly, what first started out largely as the potential for endless possibilities would dwindle down to absolutely nothing, so much so there's quite possibly a lack of inspiration to make a move regarding a certain guy/girl in question.

Let me ask this question to those who are artfully inclined in the area of stone sculpting, what is the most difficult part of the process? The answer is don't try to be perfect because once that mentality sets in of wanting absolute perfection it puts more pressure on yourself to where a plethora of mixed emotions like anger and frustration set in. In a sense, when it comes to matters of the heart you have to realize it's the imperfections that make establishing a strong, worthwhile relationship absolutely perfect. In other words, as much as you want to chisel off/smooth out the uniquely weird and not to mention rough aspect of your heart pertaining to who you are, just leave them as is. You see, even though it may not feel/look aesthetically pleasing to one person it does to someone else who will appreciate the imperfections that are seen/felt as considerably special to him/her.

In retrospect, patience does in fact play a big part regarding the stone that is one's own heart and it's summed up by the following two words: don't rush. For the most part, just take your time in carefully figuring out what you want to take shape personally, mentally, emotionally and most importantly spiritually. Oftentimes, by giving yourself the time to get to know yourself that's when you'll be able to get/find that much needed inspiration to chisel away from the inside-out instead of the outside-in. Granted, the finished product that is someday falling in love/being in love with your forever best friend won't necessarily be finished as it will always be a work in progress. In the end, all I can say to my fellow single peeps is keep busy chiseling away doing your own thing having fun and someday without even realizing it you'll meet someone who'll have their name permanently etched in stone on your heart.