The Heart Grow Fonder

Someone once said, ~Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It is for those who are willing to spend a lot of time apart in exchange for a little time together with the ones they love. It is for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough.~ If you think about it, when it comes to matters of the heart there's not just the physical distance one can endure, but there's also the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspect as well. For it can most definitely be a difficult and not to mention frustrating situation indeed in wanting to close the distance of where you presently are to where you so want to be in regards to the happiness within your own heart. What it primarily comes down to is not only having patience, but putting your trust/faith in God knowing the individual path you're taking may seem so very far away.

Without a doubt, there can certainly be a mental distance concerning experiencing true happiness, especially when doubt creeps into one's own mind. True, for those who have suffered constant utter heartbreak they have the tendency to do their very best in distancing themselves from any kind of thinking that involves the possibility of having their dreams of finally meeting their forever best friend for life come true. In a sense, it's as if he/she is thinking, by doing that they're protecting himself/herself by mentally burying/blocking any kind of a bright future to where a bright smile appears, inevitably causing one word to take hold...hope. You see, hope is considered the catalyst in which it can either bring forth absolute joy or utter disappointment depending on his/her past relationships. So the question remains, what has it brought you?

Oftentimes, being emotionally distant is considered a catch 22. Why? Thinking about it further, on one hand backing off from any sort of feelings dealing with a past relationship doesn't necessarily mean they're gone. Essentially, they're still there festering under the surface somewhere stirring within so much so those unresolved feelings boil over exploding on an unfortunate soul who didn't deserve it. However, the flip side to that is making the decision to distance yourself from feelings of a toxic relationship, whereby leads you to be emotionally stress free to where a smile of relief is expressed. In other words, leave it in the past. Free yourself from the unwanted drama leaving you to focus on yourself for the time being, which is the best alternative knowing the person you're walking away from is leading you to the person God has planned for you.

Revelations 14:12 says, ~Here is the patience of the saints: here are they that keep the commandments of God, and the faith of Jesus.~ I think it's safe to say we all spiritually second guess ourselves involving what WE want in love/true love and what GOD wants. It's a sad state of affairs when we become distant with God and are so eager to put our own blind faith in a relationship that He knows isn't right. Of course, He ends up being right. Patience and faith eventually returns but not without a lesson being learned. Ultimately, when we distance ourselves little by little from The Almighty we become weak causing our faith to weaken too. Yet, when we set our sights upon Him, read His word, and pray for guidance/patience that's when our spiritual resolve truly strengthens and the guy/girl we are most deserving of will appear before each one of us.

In retrospect, for a number of people like myself we're a long way from where we want to be as it pertains to falling in love. Granted, spending time apart from your own heart and keeping a distance from it in order to mentally delve into what love/true love/relationships are all about is considerably therapeutic. Unfortunately, it's also a lonely existence where you find yourself without a genuinely strong, heartfelt connection while others around you have established connections that are absolutely worthwhile. Personally speaking, I know God has someone special out there for me somewhere far away in the distance or may possibly be close. I just haven't opened my eyes yet. Who knows? In the end, as the saying goes, distance makes the heart grow fonder as long as you continue on the path God has set for you knowing full well you'll never fully feel alone.