A Heart Of Honor

J.R.R. Tolkein once said, ~ I do not love the bright sword for its sharpness, nor the arrow for its swiftness, nor the warrior for his glory. I love only that which they defend.~ The sword, arrow, and warrior are without a doubt synonymous with each other, especially in regards to matters of the heart. Thinking about it, when it comes to being a proverbial warrior in the relationship battlefield that is the dating scene, we're all intensive purposes armed with the one of the most important weapons, so to speak, in one's arsenal...the words out of our mouth. Yet, no matter how expertly skilled an individual is, the words, if sharply and swiftly spoken with dishonor in mind instead of honor, can most definitely strike a deadly blow to the human heart.

If you think about it, words spoken with genuine sincerity and honesty have the capacity to metaphorically pierce not only a person's heart, but soul as well. Women, more often than not, are greatly affected by a certain guy's words so much so it slices through, so to speak, to them in a deeply emotional way. For it's a touching, heart pounding, and not to mention pulse racing situation indeed for any woman to hear/listen to the words wielded by a guy with such honor, respect, and reverence it's deemed an absolute breath of fresh air to experience. Unfortunately, it's a rarity these days for the female species to come across someone from the male species who honorably defends the morally, ethical code of love/true love.

As I said before, no matter how expertly skilled an individual is, the words, if sharply and swiftly spoken with dishonor in mind instead of honor, can most definitely strike a deadly blow to the human heart. In other words, the deceitful tongue is in some aspect an arrow swiftly passing through to where it's too late to deflect it away whereby a direct hit leads to utter heartbreak. True, it's a sad state of affairs when a guy/girl believes the lies being told lead to the unfortunate death of their heart, in a manner of speaking. Essentially, the number and how deep the arrows of deceit sink in the impact of suffering pain is truly unbearable for those who are/have been trying to remove past heartbreak embedded deep in their own heart for quite some time.

Let me ask you this question to all you single ladies out there in the dating scene, how many of you have encountered or know "warriors" who brag or should I say glorify their conquests? I think its safe to say you have and it's those types of guys who merely view women as notches on their belt and consequently don't defend the women's honor afterwards. Granted, it's seen as a victory for the guy but for the girl it's a considerably disheartening defeat emotionally and mentally because of how she practically felt protected by his seemingly comforting words. However, let me assure you ladies that there are guys out there who are far more concerned about wanting/having the reputation of being a chivalrous, honorable man rather than a dastardly, dishonorable womanizer.

In retrospect, it's difficult these days to meet someone special who doesn't just defend the meaning of honor concerning true happiness, but upholds other values as well. Trust, patience, faith, respect, honesty, intimacy, understanding, commitment, communication, etc. are just a number of values individuals like myself will fight like a warrior for till our last breath. In any case, for any woman to meet and fall in love with this kind of guy is considered to be a true warrior and not a coward in their eyes. In the end, I think what most women want in a forever best friend is for them to have the steel of determination, wisdom of the ages, unwavering strength in every sense of the word, and a heart of honor.