In Your Own Skin

Eustace Budgell once said, ~Love and esteem are the first principles of friendship; it is always imperfect if either of these two are wanting.~ As said before, love and esteem are the principles of friendship, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. For its most definitely an uplifting situation indeed to have your self esteem be metaphorically built up by someone who you're in a potential and/or significant relationship with. Of course, when it is you can't help but have a smile on your face, but within your heart as well. Essentially, you feel better about yourself personally, physically, mentally, and not to mention emotionally as well due to how positive rather than negative he/she has been in your life.

If you think about it, when you experience the overwhelming sense of being comfortable within yourself by a special someone one has a much stronger and healthier self esteem. I think it would be safe to say there's a glow that shines forth witnessed by others causing you to become more confident inwardly, as well as outwardly. Women, more so than men, exude this shining glow when they're with a guy who truly treats her right in every aspect, inevitably making her happy. It's her happiness that brings out her inward beauty leading to self confidence gained outwardly. Hey, when everything is working together personally, physically, mentally, and emotionally there is a swag of positivity that can't be denied.

Without a doubt, one's self esteem can take a very brutal hit in the aftermath of a big break up so much so you're unable to be comfortable within your own skin. Sadly, it's an unfortunate situation quite a number of people have been or are going through because of past relationships. Thinking about it further, it befuddles the mind of how big of a douche a person can be for causing a guy/girl to have a deluded mindset concerning their own physical appearance. True, an ex has the uncanny ability to place a seed of doubt in a woman's mind leaving her to question her worth not just as a woman, but as a human being also. Let me tell you something ladies, if you were ever in a relationship with said douche he didn't realize how special and beautiful you absolutely are.

Let me ask you this question to those in a significant relationship, does your best friend for life continually build up instead of tear down your self esteem? You see, to have a man/woman accept you for who you are, imperfections and all, definitely gives you the greatest feeling one can ever have. In other words, it's considered a breath of fresh air filling one's heart with joy and contentment. Granted, there may be aspects you want to change within reason and it's a decision that lies with you alone. Fortunately, you have the support of your loving partner who will stand by you no matter how you feel about or look at yourself when experiencing those types of days. What it primarily comes down to is being able to accept you’re imperfectly perfect to someone who brings you absolute true happiness.

In retrospect, self esteem is considerably valuable because it allows you to think and cope with challenges involving love/true love. Oftentimes, you have to remind yourself you are worthy of having someone fall in love with you and it always starts with embracing/loving who you are. However, there may be difficulty in that as past relationships caused you to think differently to where a skewed perception has you believing otherwise. Ultimately, a strong self esteem combined with a positive personality will bring about shared success and fulfillment in a worthwhile relationship you're deserving of. In the end, it's just a matter of growing in every sense conveying a positive outlook and with your bf/gf/husband/wife by your side you won't ever be uncomfortable in your own skin.