Friday, January 18, 2013

How Do You Know

Dr. Suess once said, ~You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.~ Without a doubt, each one of us has questioned or is questioning the proverbial tell tale signs of falling in love. For it's most definitely a frustrating and confusing situation indeed for any individual as one attempts to navigate or should I say figure out if their own thoughts, feelings, as well as emotions concerning the guy/girl is truly legitimate. Thinking about it, there are so many things a person goes through whether it be personally, mentally, emotionally, and not to mention spiritually he/she can certainly find himself/herself in absolute disbelief to the point where they're being pushed to the brink of insanity.

If you think about it, a person may not necessarily know if they're in love or merely attracted to him/her by way of the physical sense. You see, the line can be blurred, so much so that it's difficult to ascertain the difference. Essentially, what one views as simply falling in love could be lustful desire for another. As said before, there lies the confusion as it plays a practical role in determining which side of the line you're standing on. The complexities of love or list pertaining to the heart versus the eyes may very well come down to asking one question involving the guy/girl in question. Do you want a worthwhile, romantic relationship building on a strong friendship or one where your desire to just hook up is the only mindset established?

Oftentimes, just being yourself is considered to be one of the most powerful ways to attract the opposite sex. A woman, more often than not, knows with 100% surety as to how genuinely real and comfortable a man is when he's around her than when hanging with his friends. True, a seemingly peaceful calm tends to happen to where the enjoyment of her company leaves the guy to express a smile never before experienced. Granted, it may be a smile in which those around him not only keenly notice, but are aware of his demeanor showing he's much more of an open, relaxed body language instead of being quietly closed off in every sense of the word. Let me tell you something, as a guy, to have that sense of comforting calmness both mentally and emotionally in regards to my future best friend for life is a dream come true.

Let me ask you this question to those who absolutely know what it's like to fall in love, were there ever any tests given to pass so as to reveal his/her capacity of how far/much the individual will gain in true happiness? I think it would be safe to say doing something such as testing a man/woman's dedication shows a total lack of appreciation, admiration, and respect for him/her/you. It's a sad and disappointing state of affairs for those who try to manipulate a potential/significant other's thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions in matters pertaining to their relationship. However, you can't but root for those who fall in love the right way letting nature take its course without any ulterior motives or hidden agendas whatsoever on one another's part, which is rare to experience these days.

In retrospect, there are so many ways a person may possibly know they're falling in love. Of course, it may be a feeling like a knife stabbing you in the heart in a good way mind you. Hey, to have wonderful images of true happiness carved within your heart and soul instead of past scars of utter heartbreak is a feeling you would want to last a lifetime don't you think? In any case, other examples are difficulty in breathing, the quintessential butterflies in the stomach that never go away, the inability to fall asleep causing sleepless nights, saying anything to him/her to where he/she doesn't laugh at you, the small things become a last memory, etc. Frankly, it's just the tip of the iceberg my friends. In the end, so-called experts think they know the signs of falling in love; but really, I ask each and every one of you how do you know?

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