Hole In One

Arthur Daly once said, ~Golf is a love affair. If you don't take it seriously, it's no fun, if you do take it seriously, it breaks your heart.~ In some aspect, love or true love for that matter is like the game of golf as a person can most definitely find himself/herself trying to reach the proverbial 18th hole of true happiness, especially those who are living the single life like myself. Unfortunately, it can truly be a tough and not to mention difficult situation indeed to undertake as one metaphorically plays through within the so-called hazardous areas of the golf course that is the human heart. For it takes a tremendous amount of skill and strategy to have the golf ball of our own feelings, as well as emotions land in a specific location of a guy/girl's heart, which tends to not always work out as planned.

Let me ask you this question to those who not only watched the sport but play it as well, what is the primary objective of the game? If you answered hit the golf ball up the fairway and get it into the 18 individual cups then you would be absolutely right. Thinking about it, the 18 individual cups located within the golf course of each of our hearts are considered a representation of trust, faith, hope, respect, honesty, contentment, commitment, understanding, intimacy, communication, caring, tenderness, compassion, etc. Women, more so than guys, want to be able to sink with ease the golf ball of their own feelings and emotions into each cup regarding a potential/significant other without enduring the harsh hazards causing mental, spiritual, and certainly emotional pain. Yet, love/true love wouldn't be considered such a challenge now would it.

Without a doubt, matters of the heart in regards to true happiness is deemed a considerable challenge to the point where you deal or quite possibly have dealt with unfortunate, painful lows of the hazards of utter heartbreak. If you think about it, every experienced golfer has found himself/herself in a sand trap and it can be very difficult to get out of it to where it can leave you feeling frustrated, angry, confused, disappointed, doubtful, fearful, etc. Essentially, those exact same feelings are felt when you end up finding yourself in the sand trap known as drama. You see, the more "swings" you take at trying to get yourself out of the drama-filled bunker and miss the deeper your heart sinks leading you to unable to be properly focused. Let me tell you something, its a sad state of affairs when a guy/girl is left stuck in the hazardous sand trap called drama so much so he/she just wants to give up completely.

For those question can be asked to those golf enthusiasts who watch the sport on television, when you watch a golfers such as "The Golden Bear" Jack Nicklaus, The Great Arnold Palmer, Phil Mickelson, "The Shark" Greg Norman, Tiger Woods, Nancy Lopez, and rising stars like Rory McIlroy, as well as Michelle Wie who do they consult with? If you said their personal caddie you're correct because they help advise them on what possible golf club to use or whatever the case may be. Oftentimes, when advice is needed concerning a love relationship such as marriage it should be sought from our own personal spiritual caddie...God. Hey, God's advice is never wrong as you use His main golf club that is the bible where you'll be able to properly ascertain the proper way in handling situations involving potential and/or significant relationships through serious prayer and the reading of His word.

In retrospect, we all hold a metaphorical scorecard in our hand showing the shots each of us made concerning a past or even a current relationship. True, it's those particular shots made whether they were par for the course or unfortunate bogeys that brought you to the brink of insanity were considered experiences for you to learn from. Granted, there were probably/have been times where you just wanted to either throw/break your golf club away because the situation wasn't going your way, which is basically most of the time. If you took it seriously, got your heart broken, and inevitably learned from your mistakes then I tip my hat to you and give a celebratory golf clap on your behalf but if not keep practicing. Ultimately, when it comes to the golf course that is our own heart, it's a tricky course to master, in a manner of speaking, but don't give up. In the end, to those who were able to master it and now wear the coveted green jacket known as the wedding ring continue to hopefully sink an eagle or should I say hole in one in your relationship for years to come.