What She Gets

George Eliot once said, ~Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; have neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all the right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.~ Without a doubt, its considered rare these days for any woman to be in a relationship with a guy who can most definitely be and stay faithful. For it's a tough situation indeed for them to truly experience absolute comfort within their heart when it pertains to a guy's faithfulness causing her to be doubtful as to whether they're any good ones left to which I simply yes...but I digress.

Let me ask you this question to you ladies who are in a potential and/or significant relationship, how many of you are certain that the man in your life is faithful to you? Essentially, what I'm asking doesn't just involve being/staying committed to you. You see, it's in the little things he does that shows you he's there for the long haul and oftentimes he doesn't have to say anything but just be there even when you didn't ask him to. Ladies, think back to a particular moment in time when your boyfriend/husband surprised you when you least expected it concerning something important to you. For you to know he was there supporting you can be very touching to the point where it literally leaves you at a loss for words.

If you think about it, when it comes to the faithfulness of a guy a woman doesn't necessarily want the type who is talked about in fairy tales because in their minds they tend to not exist. Thinking about it further, it's those types of guys who are merely dreams conjured up from within their subconscious or a possibly a hopeful wish made at the bottom of a wishing well that has never really come true. It's a sad state of affairs when a woman gets everything she ever wanted from a guy when it comes to material objects but doesn't get what she truly wants from him. Communication, contentment, intimacy, emotional/mental security, faith, hope, honesty, trust, caring tenderness, etc. are the little things she most wants that undoubtedly make a big difference with her.

For the questions can be asked again to you ladies, how many times have you been able to count on your potential and/or significant other to be faithfully by your side when it matters most. Here’s another question for you, are you able to count those times on just one hand, two hands, or there are so many it's difficult to keep track of? You see, to have a guy in her life who doesn't have her thoughts concerning him weighing her down because of his shady actions or cause her to over analyze every word he says that seem suspicious to where it brings her to the brink of insanity is an absolute for any woman to experience. For a certain number of women they currently have that guy in their life while others want to know where he is and to that I say patience is a virtue.

In retrospect, in the faithfulness of love or true love for that matter every person wants to feel the comfort of feeling safe not just physically and mentally, but emotionally as well. Women, more so than guys, want to experience the gentle touch both literally and metaphorically knowing they are absolutely the one woman he is going to spend the rest of his days with. What it comes down to is the comfort of being uncomfortable as you completely open yourself to a guy who is quite possibly feeling the exact same as you are. In the end, for any single woman out who finds herself in a great relationship with a faithful guy because that's not only what she gets to her surprise but it's also what she deserves as well, which is a song by country legends Brooks and Dunn that reflect this thought.