A Thin Line

Alice Walker once said, ~Love is big. Love can hold anger, love can hold pain, love can even hold hatred. It’s all about love.~ Without a doubt, a person can have a love/hate relationship when it comes to matters of the heart, especially for those who are living the single life. For it can be a joyful and exciting situation indeed for those who would like nothing more than to experience the euphoric bliss of true happiness with a guy/girl who brings out all the right emotions within your heart to the point where you always have a smile on your face. However, when heartbreak occurs you're left to deal with all the wrong, unwanted emotions that are considerably dark in nature causing you to express more than just anger and hatred towards a past relationship.

Let me ask you this question to those who are single or have recently become single, if you were given the opportunity to talk no holds barred about the love/hate relationship you have with matters of the heart would you be able to keep your emotions in check? I think it would be safe to say that for the most part one is able to keep their composure in the beginning but will find it increasingly difficult to keep it subdued before emotions run rampant. Frustration, disappointment, irritation, annoyed, bitterness, sadness, confusion, anger, hatred, regret, etc. are a handful of emotions that can well up within your heart reflecting back on a past relationship in which the guy/girl betrayed your trust to where your whole outlook on love progressively changes.

If you think about it, when it comes to the love/hate relationship in regards to matters of the heart involving getting your heart broken you can end up being angry at yourself. Why? You see, even though the cause of the broken relationship isn't your fault, a part you can metaphorically beat yourself up to the point of asking questions that pertain to the who, what, when, how and why's concerning the emotional pain of love, but the mental pain as well. Who will I be able to trust with my heart again? What am I doing wrong? When will I experience the happiness I deserve? How do I end up picking the wrong guys/girls? Why do I set myself up for getting hurt? It's those questions and much more that can lead you to the brink of insanity if you dwell on it. tting hurt? Its those questions and much more that can lead you to the brink of insanity if you dwell on it.

For the questions can be asked to those who have had a painful breakup, how many of you have a love/hate relationship with your ex? Thinking about it, there is a certain amount of hatred you have for the guy/girl you loved with all your heart in the past and yet part of you may possibly love/care about him/her. It's natural to feel that way because on one hand you experienced great memories with someone who made you smile inside and out but on the other hand, it's that same person who caused you great pain, frustration, stress, sadness etc. Essentially, there comes a point where the decision is made to finally break ties with him/her in order to move on from the past and focus on the present leading to a better future for yourself filled with happiness and if kids are involved for them too.

In retrospect, there's always going to be a love/hate relationship for those who are sarcastically cynical people such as myself who hope to fall in love someday but the hope we have tends to have its ups and downs causing our enthusiasm to be considerably affected as well. It can be hard to exude a positive outlook about the possibility of experiencing true happiness for yourself when you're inundated with news of infidelity combined with friends who are in happy relationships. It can get annoying in which it causes you to want to bang your head against a hard surface. In the end, there's a thin line that separates the love/hate relationship with matters of the heart that can initially have us teeter tottering on the side of true happiness or the side of absolute misery, which begs the question what side are you mostly on?