More Than A Friend

Someone once said, ~True love, like many things, can only be seen in the eyes of the beholder. It cannot be jealous, proud,or anxious; it is found in the depths of your heart, and longs only for one whose heart longs for the same things as your own.~ If you think about it, the friendship you share with a guy/girl you're potentially interested in is considered truly special. For it’s within that friendship where you gradually get a glimpse of what he/she hopes for/wants when it pertains to matters of his/her own heart. Thinking about it, it's a rarity these days to have a type of caring platonic friendship where hooking up isn't of great deal of concern to either of you as it's more about enjoying the times spent together having fun to the point where each time you and that certain someone part ways you're always smiling from ear to ear.

Without a doubt, when you have a friendship with a guy/girl you genuinely like, you most definitely look forward to spending time with each other. It's the chances you get to spend with him/her either at a particular eating establishment, activity, and/or event are the ones you happily cherish because you know in the back of your mind he/she could be spending it with someone else who he/she knows is taller, better looking, and quite possibly attains certain physical qualities/features you don't have, which can cause you to experience a bit of jealousy...but I digress. Yet, despite those initial concerns/worries/fears you set them aside getting out of your head in order to just be in the moment with someone who not only makes you feel absolutely comfortable to be yourself around, but be safe around in a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual way as well.

As said before, it's within a friendship that you gradually get a glimpse of what he/she hopes for/wants when it pertains to matters of his/her own heart. Ultimately, what has been seriously lacking for some guys and practically all women who have experienced or are currently experiencing heartbreak is consistency and reliability. You see, for any woman having a guy who can be consistent as you're able to hopefully relate and agree on what he says/does 99.9% of the time. In addition, what women want most is a guy who they can rely on to be there for them emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and even physically in regards to having someone to talk to/vent, listen, or simply to have a shoulder to cry on. Let me tell you something, women are truly fed up with guys who are totally inconsistent and unreliable in the past leading them to make definite changes for the better in pursuit of true happiness.

Let me ask you this question to those who are in significant relationships, when you began as friends was it hard to keep the feelings for him/her on the down low? I think it would be a tough situation indeed to keep how you feel for a guy/girl you're "just friends" with bottled up because there are so many things you want to try to say out loud within your heart that all you can do is just smile. In some aspect, he/she makes your day brighter as you, as well as your heart are metaphorically brought out from being hidden in the dark. Whether its just sitting together having conversations while having a meal, talking on the phone, or whatever the case may be, time just flies by. Essentially, there is an initial fear felt within yourself and maybe within that person too but you don't run away from it because the fact of the matter is you don't want it to go away.

In retrospect, friendship and true love will always be synonymous with each other because you can't have one without the other. It's a sad state of affairs when relationships aren't built on the solid foundation of friendship as it was first built on the oftentimes shaky ground of the physical aspects of it. What it primarily comes down to is not being the type of guy/girl who makes small steps in the wrong direction but the type of person who can make one big step in the right direction all-the-while going at a slow, steady pace instead of rushing things too quickly to where you completely embarrass yourself. In the end, every person who is in this type of close friendship with a particular guy/girl hope, if there is any, to someday hear with a smile on his/her face the words I want to share my life with you as I see you as more than a friend, which is a song that best reflects this though by the group known as Michael Learns To Rock.