Down To You

Robert Sexton once said, ~In a time when nothing is more certain than change, the commitment of two people to another has become difficult and rare. Yet, by its scarcity, the beauty and value of this exchange have only been enhanced.~ Without a doubt, when it comes to matters of the heart in regards to an engagement that moves towards marriage you have to be 100% certain you truly love the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with. For its most definitely a big change in two people's lives and even though there may possibly be a sense of fear being felt they both have committed their lives to each other and nobody else. Thinking about it, of the many values that make a lasting marriage absolutely beautiful the following 3 are considered key: friendship, trust, and faith.

Let me ask you this question to those who are engaged/married, how many of you started off as friends and the physical aspect didn't come into play in the relationship whatsoever? Its an amazing concept indeed to be just friends where talking to each other is actually involved first before ever establishing a relationship that is totally physical. In today's dating scene where hooking up immediately is the norm, you can't get a good grasp of who stands in front of you without knowing what gets one in a lively excited state of mind, which is oftentimes something simple yet thoughtful if you really pay close attention. You see, when you start off as friends you have a smile on your face but as the friendship grows further into something more the smile eventually is seen in your heart.

If you think about it, its rare these days to have one of the most important values needed for a marriage to succeed...trust. Why? The importance of trust plays a pivotal role in a marriage and I think it would be safe when you have someone special in your life you know with absolute certainty you can place your trust in wholeheartedly your worst fears are squashed. To have a guy/girl like that in which it causes you to no longer have any deep concerns leaving you fearfully doubting as to whether or not he/she will hurt you gives you a sense of peace in your mind and heart, which quite a few of you haven't had much of in the past. Let me tell you something ladies and gentlemen, it's hard to trust especially when your heart is on the line, but when time is taken to earn that trust it's all worth it.

Ecclesisastes 5:4-5 says. ~When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed. Better is it that thou shouldest not vow than that thou shouldest vow and not pay.~ Essentially, you have to be certain that the solemn, sacred vows made faithfully to each other, to the people in attendance, and to God as well to where every word leading up to "I do" not only represents Him as it also represents a strong commitment in every sense of the word because if it isn't you're just not fooling yourself you're fooling Him as well. What it primarily comes down to is serious dedication in walking with God who sees, in a sense, two fools genuinely in love for all the right reasons as you both put in the effort of working hard to stay in love instead of being seen by Him as just two foolish people making a big mistake.

In retrospect, you have to wonder how many people are certain they married or are marrying a guy/girl who is their/has been their best friend from the very beginning, a trusting confidant in which what is said between the two of them is kept on the down low, and a Godly spiritual human being who will pray/has always prayed for you when experiencing tough times emotionally, mentally, and/or physically. In the end, to those who are certain you can say to the one you love with a smile on your face that when it comes down to you I have no uncertainty to speak of because there's nothing more certain in my life than you as I give you/have given you my friendship, my trust, and my unwavering faith in you to always lead the both of us on the right path when it involves our spiritual walk with God as we journey together in true happiness.