I Told You So

Pete Koerner once said, ~...Many call common sense, the "wisdom of the heart." Oftentimes, when we "use our heads" we are relying on prejudices and fear-based programming that doesn't allow us to consider certain possibilities that might be available to us if we were to use our heart rather than our head.~ Without a doubt, the ability to use common sense can at times be difficult, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. As said before, it's a difficult situation indeed to make the smartest choice possible when there is a clash between the feelings/emotions within your heart and the analytical intelligence of your mind. For its most definitely a struggle to keep from mentally kicking yourself from making a big mistake whereby experiencing an unfortunate emotional heartbreak.

Let me ask you this question to those who are currently in the dating scene, which gender tends to lack common sense when it pertains to the opposite sex...men or women? As a careful observer, I've not only listened to countless "war stories" of bad past relationships but also have been involved in long, extensive discussions with both sides and I've come to the conclusion that women edge out the men just a bit in the common sense department. Now before I get angry emails commenting on how I've lost my common sense on this particular subject, hear me out before you quickly pass judgment. What it comes down to is being bamboozled by a guy you mentally know is totally wrong for you yet, you're so visually/physically stimulated that you ignore the warning signs anyways.

If you think about it, we all have stories about someone or are that someone who has possibly continued to lack the common sense to where one has gotten their heart broken over and over again. Case in point, my best friend shared a story with me a few weeks ago of how a female friend of his has been in a relationship with his guy who has cheated on her several times. You may be asking yourself how many times has this douchebag cheated on her and the answer to that my friend is at least 10 times. He also informed me that his female friend is still together with this idiot and has tried to get through to her but to no avail. For the question to be asked to you ladies, how many times would it take for you to wake up and kick your man to the curb after cheating on you more than once?

Henry Norman Hudson said, ~Common sense in one view is the most uncommon sense. While it is extremely rare in possession, the recognition of it is universal. All men feel it, though few men have it.~ As a guy, I can tell you what many women already know and agree with which is that all guys lose all common sense when it comes to the female species leading one brain to shut down and the "other brain" to take over. To be perfectly honest, at that point all common sense is thrown out the window and guys will literally make a fool of themselves to either score at least a number or get lucky with that particular female of interest. Let me tell you something ladies, whether they're successful or not it's about the thrill of the hunt with one's boys alongside as backup.

In retrospect, common sense and love go hand in hand as you have to make the best possible choices for the sake of your own heart or you'll end up being hurt so many times over. Oftentimes, the common sense you tend to lack can be provided by your friends who love/care about you and will always have your back even when you refuse to listen to what they're trying to warn you about concerning a certain guy/girl whose bad news. Hey, just remember these words to live by that may help you in the future...be smart, don't be stupid. In the end, nobody wants to hear those 4 words that can be considered an annoying jab at you when you know you've screwed up royally and didn't have the common sense to listen to not only yourself but to those around you...I told you so.