What's The Point

Leon Trotsky once said, ~Life is not any easy matter...You cannot live through it without falling into frustration and cynicism unless you have before you a great idea which raises you above personal misery, above weakness, and above all kinds of perfidy and bareness.~ Without a doubt, life is most definitely hard as each of us go on about our daily lives facing seemingly tough situations all-the-while trying to exude a smile on our face, especially when one of those situations pertains to matters of the heart. You see, when it comes to love you don't necessarily want to have a cynical attitude towards it, but you can't help it due to one's own personal experiences, as well as, the surrounding elements that can truly factor into one's ever growing apathetic outlook.

Let me ask you this question to the single people of the world, how many of you have a parent who "encourages" you to meet someone new and in their own words "make friends" with him/her? As a guy who has been in this particular situation many times you can essentially be cynical at the fact your own mother is not so much pushing you to meet a woman, its the way she goes about it that leads you to give that oh here we again look on your face. For its a frustrating situation indeed to continually look at the person who gave birth to you 31 years ago and politely tell her with as much unenthusiastic enthusiasm to quit with the obvious Jedi mind trick she's trying to pull, which has been quite unsuccessful up to this point and time.

If you think about it, you can't help but be a cynic when it comes to love because you hear by word of mouth or see on television relationships faltering from acts of infidelity or should I say just plan sheer stupidity. I think we can all agree reality type dating shows such as The Bachelor and much of Hollywood give you a glimpse into the absolute dysfunction of what their misguided view on love is. You can't help but laugh at the complete absurdity at the lengths people go in order to be the quintessential last person standing to win the heart of someone like Flavor Flave only to break up months later because things just didn't quite work out. I wonder why that is? What it primarily comes down to is not about love as it more about the love of exposure, getting your name/face out there, and most all ratings.

Personally speaking, I've crossed over to the darkside and have fully embraced my sarcastic, cynical side. However, I am in no way saying that I dislike/despise/hate women because the fact of the matter is I like them a lot. My cynicism simply comes from a combination of past disappointments and talking to female friends of mine who are always complaining that they can never meet any decent guys who know what they exactly want in a relationship. As much as I wanted to tap them on the shoulder and point a bright neon sign directly at me I held back to be the friend who assures them they'll meet him someday. Let me tell you something ladies, you don't have to look far to meet one of those guys who knows what he wants because I am one of those guys.

In retrospect, every person has the capacity to embrace their inner cynic and it can become a battle within ourselves in believing that one of the most important things in a loving relationship is built on trust. Yet, it's trust that tends to get broken from guys, as well as girls who cheat on the one's they supposedly love leaving a person like myself questioning whether or not being in a relationship is worth it. As said before I've crossed over into the darkside and fully embraced my sarcastic, cynical side, but there's a small part of me that still clings to a bit of optimism. In the end, there comes a point where some of you may one day embrace or already have embraced the sarcastic, cynical side to the point where you too throw your hands in the air and just say what's the point.