Heart To Heart

Someone once said, ~Follow your heart, but be quiet for a while first. Ask questions then feel the answer. Learn to trust your heart.~ Without a doubt, when it comes to matters of the heart its oftentimes best to in all intensive purposes walk softly in establishing a potential relationship instead of running full speed ahead to where you possibly end up experiencing an unfortunate fall that leaves you absolutely embarrassed, which I can safely say many of us have been through in the past. What I'm trying to say is you have to take the time to truly get the know the person you're interested in first on a level that doesn't primarily focus on the physical aspect of establishing a relationship, but more on the personal, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspect by doing something that seems foreign to certain people...taking the time to have a one on one conversation.

Let me ask you this question, how many of you took the time to actually get to know your significant other before ever getting together? You see, the old school way of courting has fallen by the wayside as men and women immediately hook up not knowing whether or not they're truly compatible with each other. Of course the outward attraction is most definitely there, but its the all important inward attraction that helps determine not only how very different both of you are, but how much you are also alike as well. Thinking about it further, it's the differences rather than the similarities that are considered to be much more compelling as it gives you a chance to find out certain surprising tidbits/facts about a certain someone like the fact a certain woman enjoys having her piece of cake cold over having it warm any day because the icing tastes so much better.

If you think about it, having that line of open communication with that certain someone you're interested in gives you the opportunity to ask relevant questions that hopefully aren't too personal in nature. For it gives you the chance to feel your way around, in a manner of speaking, on the particular person's reaction concerning the answers to your questions and vice versa making the atmosphere between the two of you comfortable enough to open up yourselves even more. Women, more than anything, want that type of intimacy with a guy who will tread lightly and treat the answers she reveals to him with utmost respect, especially when those certain questions he asks pertain to past love/relationships. Essentially, a woman won't ever be afraid to answer those questions because she knows with a 100% surety he has one of things that means so much to her...trust.

Personally speaking, there has been a woman I've been chatting with on and off for two years who I've gotten to know quite well. She and I have had conversations that would last for hours on end leaving a smile on both our faces inevitably establishing a fairly tight connection, but to my chagrin that connection was halted for quite some time solely on my part because of just plain laziness. In any case, it wasn't until "running into her" on Facebook that the connection was re-established leading us to not only chat with each other once again, but also text to where a gradual closeness happened as we shared more of ourselves and put trust within each other to keep those personal matters on the down low. Do I like her? Yes I do. Do I have feelings for her? I really don't know. Essentially, I'm just going to go with the flow and enjoy every minute that I spend time getting to know her.

In retrospect, matters of the heart are not to be rushed as it can be seen in the context of a marathon instead of an all out sprint being in a place that you want to be in. For some, most, or all people they quite frankly don't have a clue as to what the next logical step is because they skipped a major step entirely leaving both people in an awkward position. When it comes to my own situation I'm taking my time despite the advice from my peers to go for it, but I'm not going to because she's worth taking the time for. To be perfectly honest I would rather lose her to another guy than to blow it by doing or saying something that messes up the close relationship we already share. In the end, I say to you don't rush into things with that certain someone of interest and by taking your time in getting to know him or her you'll gradually develop a strong, cohesive heart to heart connection. sses up the close relationship we already share. In the end, I say to you don't rush into things with that certain someone of interest and by taking your time in getting to know him or her you'll gradually develop a strong, cohesive heart to heart connection.