Realize

Someone once said, ~Love is a strange thing. Not even a thing perhaps. One moment its there, next its gone. Sometimes bringing tears, sometimes a smile. Most times a soft funny feeling in the pit of your stomach. Love is not an object, but a feeling. Not touched, only felt. Those lucky few, who in their lifetime get to know its touch very well are a truly lucky few. Love is a blessing. The realization that you have fallen in love is the strangest emotion to ever overcome a human soul bringing such happiness that cannot be drowned in any kind of sorrow. Remember those whom you have loved even if in the end you lost. True love knows no limit, it is forever, always.~ Let me ask you this question to those in a significant relationship, how long did it take for you to come to your senses knowing your other half was absolutely "the one" for you?

Without a doubt, it's never easy to know exactly the feelings that are stirring within your heart for a particular person in which it causes you to go through high and lows. For the thoughts, feelings, as well as, emotions associated with those highs and lows can most definitely be there one minute, then gone the next to the point where you're affected in such a way by their genuine warmth that you don't have any idea what your feeling causing you to be slowly weighed down by all the emotions that are metaphorically crashing on top of you, in a manner of speaking. It's a tough situation indeed to be in that position as you deal with figuring out if what your personally experiencing is simply just a passing fancy or something more, which can essentially lead you to lose your sanity from constantly thinking about it.

If you think about it, there are certain questions that tend to run through your mind when it comes to a point in the relationship where you no longer wonder/doubt as to whether or not he/she is the one for you. Such questions that come to mind are: Has he/she been there to stand up and defend you when you're being slammed? Has he/she been there for you to be a proverbial sounding board to not only share your personal issues, but also give feedback that hopefully helps resolve the particular situation at hand? Has he/she been understanding to those particular seemingly sensitive issues even though he/she may not truly understand entirely, but is willing to. You see, if those questions and many more like it are answered with a resounding yes then it doesn't take a slap upside the head or your friends to spell it out for you to know you have something special going on.

For the questions can be asked to those in a significant relationship once again, have you ever been in a situation where a fight made you come to your senses? It would be safe to say there are couples out there who have had their tiffs/squabbles leading to both of them to in all intents and purposes "take a break" in the relationship in order to gauge if it's better to part ways or stay together. Thinking about it, it's when he/she temporarily steps out of the picture your friends step in to at least try to take your mind off things so you can have fun and let loose. Whether it's playing cards with "the boys' who talk about how relationships are just a way to trap you or going dancing with "the girls" at a club who want you or should I say push you to hook up with a random guy, which is oftentimes a way to put things into perspective as you stand back and see a life that you don't want to be in anymore.

In retrospect, there is an old saying that goes' you don’t know what you’ve got 'till it’s gone, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Love is never easy or ever really the same for that matter as it can become so complicated that when one person wants to move forward, the other person moves backwards causing frustration. Hey, it's part of what love/true love is all about as you have to meet each other in the middle and then start working from there. Ultimately, every person has this mindset that there is someone out there who is perfect for them and is not like the same old guys/girl who'll end up causing you utter break. In the end, for those who are in a significant relationship I say to you I hope you realize you have a good thing going because you will never find another person like him/her, which is a song by Colbie Caillat that reflects this thought.