When You Love Someone

Someone once said, ~Love is just a word, a label; real love is unexplainable.~ Let me ask you this question, if real love is unexplainable, how do you know you’re truly in love and can you be able to express that love without actually saying a word? For it's a tough question indeed to try to answer because nobody knows the moment when you've really fallen in love and when it comes to being able to verbally communicate that love without actually explaining it in words it can be quite difficult to do. Why? You see, what makes matters of the heart so special is being able to articulate at best your affections for the one you love even if they don't make any sense whatsoever. However, it can most definitely be done in three ways: in our attitude, in our choices made, and in our actions.

If you think about it, it's from our behavior that exudes certain attitudes that can reveal to someone special how your love is real. To be more specific, it's in how you react to particular situations in a relationship that can oftentimes be unforeseen such as having to suddenly cut short celebrating a special event/occasion because of work responsibilities needing immediate attention. If the love you have is real, you wouldn't react by giving a negative look of disappointing anger that reads you don't care about me or this relationship. Instead, the reaction should be a positive look of understanding that reads I love you and if there is anything I can do to help in any way to make your job easier, as well as, less stressful, I'm here for you.

Without a doubt, it's in the conscious choices you make to put the thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, etc. of someone else above your own that shows a level of maturing growth in love. A level of maturity in which that person senses within you a deep awareness as you reveal a mindset geared more towards wanting to provide him/her with as much happiness that can possibly be given rather than providing yourself with as much happiness you can get out of being with him/her. What it primarily comes down to is sacrifice as you make the personal conscious choice of sacrificing every part of your being for someone else and even though it may be seen as a crazy decision to those close to/around you, it shows a willingness to give your all by prioritizing what's most important in a relationship.

For the question be asked to you ladies, have you ever experienced a genuine love in which a guy's actions spoke louder than his words? When I mean actions I'm referring to physically doing something special without being asked or told to do that goes above and beyond the call of duty, so to speak, in regards to possibly having a really bad, stressful day that any woman would love to forget. Essentially, its doing such things like cooking her favorite meal, preparing a bubble bath for her to relax/soak the day away, and/or if there are kids in the relationship he'll offer to take them out while she has her "me time" shows how truly considerate he is towards how she is feeling whereby leaving her with a lasting impression that she's absolutely appreciated.

In retrospect, its oftentimes what you don't say by way of your attitude, personal choices, and actions that can be heard clear as day, in a manner of speaking, within that person's heart. For the most part, you just have to attain a peace within yourself beforehand as you come to terms with placing yourself in the position of service for someone else's well being, which is scary to even think about. Here's something to think about...if someone you love became paralyzed causing him to no longer do anything on his/her own would you put your life on hold to be there at their side to help in any way without any hesitation or explanation? In the end, when you love someone you don't think twice about the responsibilities or the unfortunate experiences you may possibly endure/suffer for that person because you just do it and it's a song by Bryan Adams that reflects this thought.

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