If you think about it, getting to know each other is one of the most important attributes in the marriage relationship and yet there are couples out there who have no earthly idea who their partner for life truly is. It's a sad situation indeed when a husband or even a boyfriend for that matter isn't able to keenly observe the seemingly insignificant things that can touch a woman's heart to no end. For instance, every woman has a certain number of smiles that are initially hidden for a particular emotion or action she's exhibiting and it takes a very observant guy to be able to distinguish what type of smiles those are. Whether it's smiling after hearing/seeing something absolutely funny, thinking about what to do, somebody saying something stupid, talking to/with/about her friends, or just being self-deprecating, a woman will greatly appreciate a man for what he sees from within his own heart.
Oftentimes, what makes a marriage last is the ability to give each other space, whereby giving the bond of love room to grow within one another's heart. When I say space, I am referring to being able to enjoy activities that tend to peak the interest of men and women separately. As a guy, shopping isn't our forte because spending several hours with a woman to look at clothing that she may not possibly buy doesn't appeal to us whatsoever whereas women don't find it appealing to go with their men to look for tools to buy in order to build or fix something. What it basically comes down to is that by having separate interests you run less of a risk of not only avoiding being asked seemingly redundant/inane/stupid questions, but also avoid a double homicide happening because of experiencing anger towards each other.
1 Peter 3:7 says, ~Likewise ye husbands dwell with them according to knowledge giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.~ For the question can be asked to those who have been married for quite some time, how often do you butt heads with each other? Without a doubt, part of being married is going through conflicts and when you have arguments or what women like to refer to their discussions, you have to fight fair, in a manner of speaking. In other words, no low blows that involve reopening old wounds from the past, insulting each other, etc. which are mistakes a couple unfortunately tend to make. Let me tell you something, its better to be wise to where you hopefully learn valuable lessons from the conflicts as you both pray to God rather than to be a wise a** and end up hating each other because of it.
In retrospect, you have to applaud the marriages that have lasted 40,50, 60 years because its those couples that have set the standard of what true love is. These days with marriages lasting only a couple of years it can leave you with a bad taste in your mouth, so to speak, but when you come across an elderly couple who can touch your heart it gives you hope that one day you'll be in their shoes. It's remarkable that a marriage can have the capacity to stand the test of time despite going through some of the worst moments that are ever experienced in life and yet it's those times of utter strife that are, in some aspect, signs that he/she is in this for the long haul. In the end, the golden years of marriage are special as you're able to hopefully see the continued passion within each other's eyes and it's with love that each time both of you reminisce about the past it always begins with two words...remember when, which is a song by country superstar Alan Jackson.
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