I Want To

Brian Tracy once said, ~The quality of love and the duration of a relationship are in direct proportion to the depth of the commitment by both people to make the relationship successful. Commit yourself wholeheartedly and unconditionally to the most important people in your life.~ Let me ask you this question, who is the most important person in your life and can you honestly say you are deeply committed to him/her? Without a doubt, being in a committed relationship is considered a big step as two people make the decision together to take their love they have for each other to the next level and not regret or have any doubts whatsoever afterwards. Thinking about it, when it comes to commitment one should exude the following three qualities: the right attitude, strong character, and a humble spirit.

Essentially, one of the most important keys in being in a committed relationship is having the right attitude because it initially sets the overall tone of what is to come. In a sense, it's like a foreshadowing of what the relationship between two people may possibly be like and it can either be a sign of good things to come or a bad omen where you see dark days ahead, in a manner of speaking. Whether it's in the words being said, the actions taken, or body language given it all comes down to not only how one reacts and handles certain situations in the relationship. In other words, act your age rather than your shoe size when dealing with potentially problematic aspects of the relationship, which establishes a more adult oriented/grown up level of commitment.

As said before, a committed relationship isn't just about having the right attitude its also about building strong character in one's behavior as values such as caring, trust, honesty, respect, etc. are tested. Ethically speaking, a person who is in a committed relationship should know how to always act and do the right thing no matter what even when not in the sight of one's significant other. It's a sad situation indeed when men and women fail that particular test because of temptations that left a person weak causing both mental, as well as, emotional pain to that loved one. Oftentimes, it's hard to truly know how strong a person's character is until a situation arises where the relationship hangs in the balance as one's behavior towards that situation ultimately reflects the level of love and commitment.

1 Peter 5:6 says, 'Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time.' For the question can be asked to those of you in a committed relationship, do you portray a humble spirit as you thank God every single day for being so lucky to have someone who makes you absolutely happy knowing that the happiness you experience can be taken away from you within a blink of an eye? You see, God can most definitely give a reality check in order to humble ourselves, especially in love or true love for that matter. For one must come to the realization that there should be a commitment towards God first because the fact of the matter is without Him the commitment you made with each other means nothing leaving both of you lost within your heart.

In retrospect, the word commitment is scary to some people because in their mind it represents a finality in which they say goodbye to not only the single life, but also the freedoms they thoroughly enjoy. However, commitment is nothing to be scared of, but instead you should look forward to it as you meet a person who gives you a reason to happily end a part of your life spent wondering when true happiness will happen and begin a new one with someone who answers that for you question as a commitment is made with yourself, with each other, and with God as well. In the end, commitment is about saying I want to share my life with you, I want to be there for you, I want to die for you, and most of all I want to grow old with you, which is a song by Westlife that best reflects this thought.