It Doesn't Matter

Someone once said, ~Sometimes I wonder what you think of me...or if you do at all.~ Whether we want to admit it or not, we all have an ego that craves the notoriety of wanting to know how others think, see, and/or feel about us especially when it pertains to matters of the heart. If you think about it, we sometimes don't care about the opinions of people who we love/care about such as our friends and family because quite frankly they can be considered judgemental towards us to the point where a thick skin of armor develops causing us to not really be bothered by what they say. Yet, for some reason someone comes along who is able to the peirce one's thick armor to where you start caring about what he or she thinks about you that it actually bothers you, in a good way of course.

Essentially, when ego gets involved in matters of the heart you don't want to run the risk of having too little or too much of it. What do I mean? It inevitably comes down to a person's self confidence that can determine either a possibly potential relationship forming or a relationship that is unfortunately going anywhere. You see a lack of self confidence can have a person become someone who is so timid, shy, scared, and not able to think for one's self that your peers wonder if you have any backbone at all. Now too much self confidence will have that certain someone of interest be turned off by how much of an arrogant, self absorbed person he or she can be, which most definitely ruins any chance of making any type of heart to heart connection whatsoever.

Without a doubt, we all want to look for a person that has a well balanced ego with the ability to keep it in check at all times because no matter how good things are going with a certain someone, there will be a situation where something said/done will cause you to have him or her to be thrown off one's high horse, in a manner of speaking. For the most part, you want to him or her to be their natural self without putting up of front, which is absolutely appealing because the fact of the matter is in this day and age you don't find too many men or women who are truly for real that you can be around and not consider slapping due to how arrogant they are. However the question remains, do you know someone who, as far as you know, is the real deal and not some arrogant s.o.b. or diva?

Personally speaking, do I really care what your opinions of me are when it concerns the Yodaisms that deal with relationships that I either send/post for you to read even though I have never been in a relationship myself? To be perfectly honest, I do care to a certain extent because it's you guys who gave your own feedback to how it relates to you in a way that it has been informative, inspiring, touching, heartfelt, and funny, which gives me somewhat of an ego boost, but not a lot. It's the feedback that I've received over the years that I’ve earned the respect of my peers, whether they agreed or disagreed with what I wrote. Its through the respect from my peers, that they've seemingly given me the title of mini-Dr. Phil, which is a title that I humbly accept and trust me it hasn't gone to my head.

In retrospect, your ego and heart will always clash, but it takes a special person who is able to put aside one's ego for someone special to where it begins to strips away his or her thick skin of armor leaving one wide open to being hurt, but you're willing to risk it as you put your heart on the line, so to speak. It can be a tough situation indeed to be in as you turn to your friends and possibly members of your own family for opinions on the best course of action to take, if you take it. Ultimately, at the end of the day it doesn't matter what your friends, family, or even that certain someone who is interested in you thinks because in the end, it's what you alone think that matters as you put your ego aside and decide with both your heart, as well as, God's guidance if that person is right for you.