What Hurts The Most

Someone once said, ~It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don't expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their heart. But if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours.~ Without a doubt, women fall for the wrong guys and yet the same can be said for guys as well who fall for the wrong/random women. It would be safe to say that all the moms in the world have told their son(s)to meet, settle down, and marry a real good woman who is truly Ms. Right in her eyes. Yet, the question remains though, what constitutes a real good woman?

Thinking about it, a real good woman is considered to be loyal and supportive not just to the man she loves, but also to her friends that are right alongside her as well. A type of supportive loyalty that goes beyond friendship to where she will not only fight for you, but also defend you when you're being dissed by other people. However, that supportive loyalty is a two way street, so to speak, as her man and friends must be willing to do the same for her at the drop of a hat, because she is absolutely worth it. A worthwhile woman that won't spill any secrets within the relationship to where if any problems occur its handled with utmost respect face to face and not share with anyone else to put their 2 cents in.

When it comes to a real good woman, she most definitely oozes patience with sensibility to match, especially for the man she loves who can drive her to experience/express every emotion in the book. It's most definitely takes a lot of patience for any woman to be with a guy who can turn at times into a stubborn, jealous, egomaniacal, not getting enough attention seeking little boy and it's that same exact guy who can be humble enough to swallow his pride to say I'm sorry even if he knows he's right, which is hard for a woman to find these days. In addition, she exudes a common sense type of smartness to her that says she knows the right things to do and avoid the wrong things, especially when it involves raising kids.

Essentially, a real good woman is strong yet has that delicateness to her, which is a double whammy in my book. A woman who is strong enough to handle/deal with times of heartbreak in the past with her head held high with an equally strong support system by her side helping her to keep from sinking into that deep, dark abyss where she can fall into. It's that same woman who is not afraid to shed some tears to show that even though she is a strong woman, she is still in fact a woman who not only wants to be held and comforted by the arms of her man, but also wants that assurance she will be well protected in those same arms that the tears fade and is replaced with a beautiful smile that just lights up the room.

In retrospect, that is what a real good woman is and you know what, I not only met that woman I am crazy about her. Unfortunately, I messed it up by giving a long diatribe of what I liked about her in an email and not just saying what was in my heart face to face. Why? Plain and simple, it's hard to talk to her because the times I had the chance I just couldn't speak. What I would have said if given a second chance is that she's the type of woman who I can see growing old with and when it comes to kids, I know that I would like to have them someday. She is beautiful in every sense both spiritually, as well as, physically and even though she doesn't see it in herself I have always seen it. In the end, what hurts the most is that she won't know how I really feel, which has just been tearing me up inside and it's a song in which everybody can relate to by the country group Rascal Flatts that best reflects this thought.