Shape Of My Heart

Malcom Steven Forbes once said, ~ To measure the man, measure his heart.~ What in the heart of a man? For a woman, its a question she wants to know because it inevitbaly shows who he really is. Oftentimes, it is difficult for any woman to know what's true in a particular man's heart for the simple reason that he can disguise his intentions, which some, most, or all women have experienced firsthand. Its a constant guessing game for a woman to meet a guy whose words and actions are actually coming from his heart or coming from a place where the sun don't shine. In my own thinking, for a woman to know what true in his heart look at those that he has affected around him and there you the get the true measure of a man.

The litmus test for any woman is to see the interaction between him and children of any age. Trust me when I say kids will tell you if they truly like you within a matter of seconds and though they may not tell you he or she will show you in their own way, but I digress. Connecting with kids is something rare indeed for any woman to see and there are men who have that innate ability to not only make a connection, but also continually hold on to it. For its a connection/vibe that is truly genuine and real to where a woman knows that he is not faking it in order to just get to her or impress her, which probably some, most, or all women have encountered.

Oftentimes, for a woman to known the measure of a man's heart is to talk to people who know him best which are his friends, but more importantly his best friend(s). Who better to get the skinny than from the person or persons he spends the most time with and he, she, or they have seen him at his highest, lowest, as well as, points in between. Essentially, its that same exact friend or group of friends who knows how much heart he has when it comes to certain situations in life that affect him personally to where has that passion deep within his heart and soul, which drives him to never give up. For its through his friend(s) that a woman can truly be touched at what she finds about him and how big of a heart he truly has.

In my own thinking, to truly measure the heart of a man is to see him interact with his family either one on one or as a group. Depending on how tight he is with his family, can for the most part, determine how much love he will share or shares with that special someone in his life. Without a doubt, a woman would like to have the love he shares with his mom mixed in with that loving admiration and respect for his father, and topped off with the protective big brother love he shows for his brother(s) and/or sister(s), which would be considered an awesome mixture to have. So let me ask you this question ladies, have you found a man who has that balanced mixture of love for you in his heart that's not too little or too much?

In retrospect, a woman can never truly know the measure of a man's heart until she gets to know him. Ladies, this may come as a shock to you, but guys do have feelings and if you could open up the chest of any guy you can probably see past scars that run deep from being emotionally hurt. So, what I'm trying to say ladies is don't look past the so called "nice guy" because he undoubtedly has something great to offer you." In the end, a "nice guy" will one day stand in front of you, look you in the eyes, and say this: "Don't measure me by how I look or the amount of money I have in my wallet; but instead measure me by what you see from within the shape of my heart which a song by BSB that kind of reflects this thought.