Do The Right Thing

Erynn Miller said, ~It takes a lot of understanding, time, and trust to gain a close friendship with someone. As I approach a time of my life of complete uncertainty, my friends are my most precious assets.~ Without a doubt, friendships can be tested especially between men and women when that proverbial line appears to where there is no turning back at the decision(s) one makes when it concerns him or her. For its a decision that will truly test one emotionally, mentally, as well as, personally. Whether one passes or fails it's a learning experience as you find out there are limitations and/or boundaries when it concerns a particular guy or girl who you are interested in.

The funny thing about the friendship between men and women when the so-called line is about to be crossed or is crossed is that one will be emotionally tested. Oftentimes there is a proverbial litmus test as to whether one will either fall apart or keep one's composure due to that person. You may ask yourself, what is the litmus test? Well, there are several such as certain scenes in movies/tv shows but mainly it's the songs on the radio, which can make you sick and tired of hearing them. Yet, for some reason you can't turn on the radio when songs such as So Sick by Ne-Yo play on the radio seemingly every minute of the day, which can be considered cruel and inhuman torture, but I digress.

Essentially, when it comes to mentally understanding the possibility of establishing a relationship with someone your friends with, you start rationalizing in your mind to whether or not it was a mistake to move forward. It's that unpredictability of it all as one reveals thoughts, but what's tricky about it is how much to reveal because too much can most definitely make that person feel uncomfortable, which one didn't intentionally intend on doing. For some, most, or all people have been or are in this type of situation with a particular someone to where one jeopardizes the friendship and the best alternative is to leave it be and not take any further action that causes an even greater rift.

In any case, there comes a point where a person realizes they became someone one always said or told himself or herself would never be. It's that someone who gets emotionally attached and it takes either a reality check such as a slap upside the head or looking in the mirror to see yourself to where one severs the attachment, which is the best thing if one wants a friendship to last. If you think about it, you never really see it coming until you find yourself doing or saying things that you apologize for in hopes that balance is restored in a friendship that was built through time to where trust is eventually gained again.

In retrospect, life is a test and even if one fails you pass because life brings you surprises that you never expect to happen like true happiness. For the most part, there is a sense of frustration when it comes to wondering when one's time of uncertainty will be over when it involves a guy or girl. In the meantime, it's just a matter of keeping yourself busy and hanging with friends that you can come to in order to ask the right advice about matters of the heart. In the end, a friend summed it up best with this statement: ~In order to keep a great friendship one must do the right thing and that's not to live within your heart but instead just live as you continue on living life with great friends right alongside you.~