Times Like These

Someone once said, ~Total self-esteem requires total and unconditional acceptance of yourself. You are a unique and worthy individual, regardless of your mistakes, defeats and failures, despite what others may think, say or feel about you or your behavior. If you truly accept and love yourself, you won't have a driving need for attention and approval. Self-esteem is a genuine love of self. Stop all adverse value judging of yourself. Stop accepting the adverse value judgments of others. Purge yourself of all condemnation, shame, blame, guilt and remorse.~ Let me ask you this question, did any past relationship(s) cause your self-esteem to a major blow to where you hide within yourself and keep the feelings you have for someone close to you.

Essetnially, a person's self-esteem is one of the most fragile next to one's own heart which carries your feelings and emotions. When it comes to past love and/or relationships one's self-esteem can be metaphorically beaten up to the point where its left black and blue, so to speak. Its a sad situation indeed when women, more so than guys, have their self-esteem toyed with/chopped down to size by a guy or guys who don't know how to treat them the right way. For any woman to experience that kind of degradation/humiliation which, in some ways, is like having the sun go down on you and your left alone in total darkness to stumble around within their own feelings, emotions, and heart.

If you think about it, when one's self-esteem is lost/misplaced, you permanently or temporarily lose parts of yourself that is considered unique, special, and beautiful. Undeniably, it takes a special someone who is honest and genuine to gradually liven up one's self-esteem to where it will hopefully be fully in tact. Its that particular tguy/girl who brings to life, as well as, give back something that was initially taken away, metaphorically speaking of course, from you. For the question can be asked, is there someone like this who is not only helping your heart heal but also gradually helping your self-esteem heal to where it eventually be at 100% capacity.

For a woman, there comes a point where one's smile will return also that was temporarily lost within not only your heart but also you your self-esteem as well, which inevitably be felt and seen by those close to you. Its that unmistakeable smile that brings out not just one's physical beauty but also one's inner beauty that gives you that proverbial kick in your step. In a sense, the darkness in which you were stumbling around in within your emotions, feelings, and heart is now bright as you are given a brand new day to where you can truly leave past hurts behind you. For its a clean slate within your emotions, feeling and heart as you walk the road of recovery side by side with someone who will potentially give you that fresh start.

In retrospect, when you suffer heartbreak that affects your self esteem you tend to feel sorry for yourself for suffering through that kind of pain. For you have to keep in mind though that it wasn't your fault to begin with, it was primarily that person's fault for putting you through your own emotional rollercoaster which you truly didn't deserve in the first place. In the end, its times like these that you're happy to know there is or will be someone special that will in a way help you learn to live again, learn to give again, and ultimately learn to love again within your own feelings, emotions, as well as heart which is a song by the late 1950's Blues Recording artist Peppermint Harris." When or if you have the time, listen to it and enjoy.