All The Right Reasons

Someone once said, ~It doesn't take a reason to love someone, but it does to like someone. You don't love someone because you want to, you love someone because you are destined to. Its because you fall in love with them that you then try to find a reason, but you always come up with the answer, "No reason!"~ Essentially, every person has many different reasons to find someone attractive, to fall in love, to fall out of love, to break someone's heart, to not let your own heart be broken, not let yourself fall in love, and/or to not let that person fall in love with you. Let me ask you this question, when it comes to love, are you the type of person who gives those reasons or are you the type who unfortunately gets those reasons?

For the most part, there are certain people out there who find reasons to get out of a seemingly great relationship. Reasons that may or may not have any merit, but it really depends on the particular misdeeds that the guy/girl supposedly did to him or her. Personally speaking, did/has anyone ever given you a reason/reasons to get out of a relationship or vice versa such as its not me its you, I need some space, your smothering me, you mental, etc. In some aspect, one can become a Jerry Seinfeld in which every potential relationship his television character was in, he found some reason to break up with her such as man hands, low talker, eating only cereal morning, noon, and night, as well as many other things that were considered either reasonable or unreasonable.

Without a doubt, we've all heard firsthand or by word of mouth reasons that you/he/she fell in love with one's gf/bf/spouse. Reasons such as one's thoughtfulness, caring heart, infectious personality, easy to get along with, an optomistic outlook on life, loves of family, goal oriented, honest, bright, nice, and most of all attaining the #1 quailty which is a sense of humor. For one can also add a bit of mysteriousness to that particular person as well; mysterious in a good way to where you want to learn more about him or her. For the question can be asked, is there a guy or girl that you consider mysterious and he or she is reason enough to solve the so called enygma that has you totally intrigued.

However, one the flipside of that, certain people give shallow reasons as to why they fall in love or fell in love with a particular guy or girl. Inevitably, those particular reasons will pertain to the physical aspect of a person which some, most or all guys are guilty of doing and women know this all too well and have experienced it to some degree. To be perfectly honest, as a guy you can't help but notice and yet it takes a real honest to goodness gentlemenly type guy to look past the physical and fall in love with the qualities that are hidden underneath the surface exterior. Let me give you this challenge to those that are either dating, a couple, or married; ask each other what are/were your reason or reasons for wanting to be at your side in the beginning stage of a potential relationship to the stage of a significant one.

In retrospect, there will be people(mostly guys) who have or will have a deluded perception of what love really is and be in a relationship for the soul reason of personal satisfaction. In a sense, its that selfish mindset that has many women not trusting anything what some, most or all guys say is true which gives women reaon to hate guys even more. For the most part, whether it guys or girls, it takes a truly genuine person to show that special someone reasons or just one reason for that matter that he or she is not like all the rest who have simply disappointed you in the past and even though you may be skeptical, he or she is out there for you. Ultimately, when it comes to love it can selfishly be done for all the wrong reasons; but, if that love is a selfless love then in the end, your doing it for all the right reasons.