Oh, Grow Up

Emmanuel Kant once said, ~Enlightment is man's emergence from his self imposed immaturity. Immaturity is the inability to use one's understanding without guidance from another. This immaturity is self imposed when its cause lies not in the lack of understanding but in the lack of resolve and courage to use your own understanding.~ Undeniably, love is something that most people take for granted and of the reasons why there is such an immature attitude towards its is due to the fact that a person has some unresolved issues or feelings to work through. Whether or not, those issues or feelings will be resolved, there will always be a big question mark above that potential or significant relationship.

Essentially, relationships are hard enough without a person doing something totally immature and embaressing that it hurts him or her in the end. Let me ask you this question, have you ever seen, heard, or been in a relationship where a person's immature side showed by doing something such as flirting with someone right in front of one's own eyes, which can most definitely wound a person's heart. For its loving one person and yet selfishly wanting to be with other people, which every person felt at one time or another. Primarily, love is strong, driving, and very powerful, which makes it such a deadly force. A force that can build you up and break you down either gradually or in an instant.

For the questions can be asked, who is more immature or mature when it comes to love and relationships, guys or girls? To be perfectly honest, I am not going to answer that questions for fear I might get beat up if I do. For the most part, guys and girls can be immature when put into the position of opening their heart to someone that he or she truly feels comfortable being himself or herself with. Its that capacity to actually letting someone get to know us not just on the outside but on the inside which can be considered scary. So scary in fact, that feelings are put on hold and distance is put in between for the simple reason that if we fall in love with that person, we fall hard and.....if we ever fall in love again, we may fall harder and quite possibly not survive the impact, so to speak.

Unfortunately, immaturity can be taken to that proverbial next level which most of you have either been in, done, or witnessed to some extent. Its that immaturity where a person makes that particular guy or girl jealous by hooking up or messing around with someone else just to make him or her mad. Its that deluded perception that if one messes with that person emotionally then possibly he or she will realize that they are better off together than apart, which can backfire on a him or her. Initially, playing head games is considered the most immature thing guys, as well as, girls can do to each other, which shows that he and/or she isn't ready to be in a real relationship just yet.

In retrospect, its all about commitment and being mature enough to handle the emotions and everything else that comes with being in a lasting relationship. A person has to keep in mind that there are two people in the relationship rather than just one and without a doubt, tough times will be encountered to where it will test how far both the guy and/or girl are willing to go. When it comes to committing yourself to someone a person has to get away from the all about me mode and get into the all about we mode. For its the mutual trust, respect, honesty, understanding, and love for each other that flourishes and in turn the relationship flourishes. In the end, if you are with someone who is emotional mature and committed to you congrats; but for those that tend to keep meeting the emotionally immature and are commitment phobic, three words come to mind for them, oh grow up!