The Perfect Man

Someone once said, ~ I am no one special, just a common man with common thoughts. I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me, and my name will soon forgotten. But in one respect, I've loved another with all my heart and soul, and for that has always been enough.~ Undeniably, that how every guy feels as one says that while looking into the eyes of that special someone. For its that sensative side that every guy rarely reveals to anybody and yet, when it is shown by someone who is truly genuine then he is considered a keeper. There comes a point where we know there is a chance that the comman man can find true happiness just look at Lyle Lovett who at one time married Julia Roberts. Who'da thunk it?

In some aspects, it actually gives hopes to the so called "average joes" out there that one might have a chance after all. For its the "nice guy" that tend to receive the short end of the stick, in a manner of speaking, but yet end up in very happy relationships with a woman that he never imagined spending his life with. For its that proverbial long and winding road that guys, as well as girls, travel on until it straightens out and leads to that special someone. It can be a frustrating situation indeed for the "nice guy" to compromise one's own morals and intergrity to become someone that would break a girls hopes, dreams, and inevitbaly her heart, which doesn't fit one's true character and/or personality.

In any case, every guy has made a fool of himself since the discovery that girls don't have cooties and it's not contagious. Much can be said for a guy who knows that he doesn't have a chance with that particular girl but still tries like fictional character Steve Urkel did with Laurra Winslow from the television show Family Matters. However, what about the guy who has absolutely no idea what his chances are with that particular girl of interest. As a guy, there comes a point where it feels like one is completely fooling himself to where the things that he does seems thoughtful and sweet but maybe its just annoying in her eyes. Inevitably, one tends to think about giving up; BUT as stubborn as we are, giving up is never an option.

Let me share something with you ladies, guys go through quite a bit of self analyzation when we are interested in girl or that particular girl is interested in us. Initially, we go through so much to figure out our true feelings and ride an emotional rollercoaster as well.. Emotions such as innate fear that we may have in which we may never fulfill the expectations you are looking for in that so called perfect guy. Though it is considered a myth, there is such a thing as perfect and when you find him or when he finds you don't overthink/overanalyze the day when you may lose him or her; but rather think about what you both will have gained that puts a smile on both your faces.

In retrospect, the quote that started this thought is a true statement indeed for a guy who truly believes that all you can ever give a woman is two things: your heart and yourself. Thinking about it, that's all any guy can ever give and if that isn't enough for her then she isn't worth pursuing. Without a doubt, there is a guy out there who will truly care and love you with all his heart and soul, which you really don't have to look hard for. In some aspect, he has always been right in front of your face either standing next to you, right beside you, or been with you in spirit and you have been too busy to notice him. In the end, once you have your heart truly opened, then you will finally see what you haven't been seeing all this time and that is the perfect man.