Unsolved Mysteries

How do you know when you are really in love? That is the sixty four million dollar question that every person has trouble answering. To be quite honest, I don't think nobody knows for sure including myself because, in a way, it's like trying to solve a mystery that concerns one's own heart for that particular guy or girl. Every potential relationship starts off as a friendship but determining whether or not you actually love that person is in that proverbial gray area called love limbo. In some aspect, each of us can be considered amateur detectives as one searches for that all important answer. It's just a matter of asking questions and looking for clues that will hopefully blow the case wide open, so to speak.

Undoubtedly, love is a powerful feeling as the emotions can be intense to the point where you feel scared and excited at the same time. Yet, is it really love one is feeling or just mere infatuation because the only thing that is affected is a person's emotions which is based solely on the outward appearance. During one's investigation, a person has to question if he or she can be totally real around that person. Little by little the time spent around him or her will bring down one's own wall to the point where personal information is shared. Information such as long term goals, family, and career in great detail that one wouldn;t necessarily share with someone else if he or she felt there was absolute trust.

Someone once said, ~Spiteful words hurt your feelings, but silence breaks your heart.~ Let me ask you this question, have you ever hurt or been hurt by someone, not physically but verbally? Words do hurt and whether it is intentional or just in a joking manner, a person can be offended to the point where he or she is affected emotionally. We all say things we tend to regret and when it involves someone that you're probably in love with, the relationship will either be severed completely or temporarily depending on how harsh the words were. Consequently, one just has to admit being in the wrong by giving that sworn statement/(apology) in which he or she swallows one's pride and says, I'm sorry.

One can truly have a better understanding when you interview parents and grandparents as they share their experiences of how as soon as he or she saw that person, one absolutely knew it was love and both of them were going to get married. But the question is how does one truly know? As far as knowing whether or not you are really in love it comes down to putting the needs of that guy or girl before yours. Giving encouraging words, lifting that person up, respecting one's feelings and emotions, as well as being that person who takes great joy in making you smile and laugh. In other words, putting one's own happiness aside means that person is the center of your world rather than the world centered on you.

In retrospect, it’s when a person says I love you that he or she has to find out if it is the love that the person wants to give you rather than the love that has a hidden agenda behind it. It's that kind of love that just wants you physically and nothing else. Women hear those three little words so often they really don't know whether to believe what a guy is telling her is actually true. If only love came with a lie detector to find out the truth, but it doesn't. Ultimately, when it comes to knowing if you're really in love it can be an absolute mystery. In the end, no matter how many answers a person comes up with, it's a question that will always be considered one of those unsolved mysteries that one may or may not be able to figure out.