The Total Package

Every person, whether he or she is in a dating relationship of a single person, ultimately wants to find that one perfect person to be with and eventually marry. Yet, one can find himself or herself in relationships that don't meet a person's expectations, which he or she can find out too late in the game, in a manner of speaking. It's at that point, a person goes back to that proverbial drawing board where he or she goes through some deep re-evaluation of who one ultimately wants to happily settle down with. Inevitably, we have to ask ourselves three key questions that will hopefully determine if the qualities we are truly looking for in that so-called perfect person have matched up with certain relationships of the past.

The first question that has to be asked is, Does that guy or girl have the ability to truly open my eyes? Undoubtedly, each of us are physically attracted to one another, but it takes someone truly special to hold our attention to where you don't focus on that person's outer beauty at all. One attribute that can be an eye opener, so to speak, is how modest he or she is in appearance. You basically have to ask yourself, would that person still be attractive in your eyes if he or she dressed down and didn't seek to be the center of attention? It's when a person starts to genuinely see what's truly attractive about him or her, that the physical aspects are simply inconsequential.

Secondly, does that person open your mind to where he or she can make you think either intellectually all-the-while be a person who you can absolutely talk with one and one. Let me ask you this question, have you ever met or talked with someone who you were comfortable with and time just flew by because you enjoyed his or her company? Primarily, each one of us wants someone that is a balance of book smarts and streets. For it's a good combination to have because you don't want someone who is smarter than you and yet you don't want someone who is dumb as bricks either. Even though it's a rarity to find that type of person, he or she is out there and hopefully that person will step into one's life someday.

The third and final question to ask ourselves is whether or not that so-called perfect person can open our hearts and keep it open for good. We all know the pain of heartache, which shows that we are human beings with genuine human emotions. Yet, life can lead us to someone who has that hidden gift to re-awaken our hearts to reveal that one is not alone in the feelings he or she is experiencing. It's when we are truly comfortable within ourselves that we share our fears, past heartaches, as well as, our negative attitude about ourselves and others. What that means is one is stepping in the right direction for love to possibly bloom and ultimately what it comes down to is change; but only if you really want it.

Jason Jordan once said, ~True love does not come by finding that perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.~ Let me tell you something, each and every one of us isn't perfect; for we all make mistakes in life that become learning experiences. When it comes to finding the right person you have to stop and realize that you are the right person. For that someone special will find you and God knows who each of us will spend the rest of our lives with, its just a matter of waiting patiently for our time to come. In the end, that guy or girl, who can truly open your eyes, open your mind, open your heart and still love your imperfections is considered to be the total package.