Take It Or Leave It

Wilford Peterson once said, ~The art of being yourself at your best is the art of unfolding your personality into the person you want to be...Be gentle with yourself, lern to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for ony as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right toward others.~ Thinking about it, myself and every red-blooded male never really knows if a female is truly interested in who we really are. It can be difficult to figure out as we meet and talk with a potential female of interest that one has been getting to know or just getting to know. Inevitably, we try to be ourselves as our personality shines through and hopefully that particular female will not be blinded by who she sees in front of her.

Women are an absolute mystery because, as a guy, we have no idea if any of us fit the the endless list of qualities that they are looking for in a potential mate. In a way, it's like trying to create a formula, which will inherently bring one to the answer that leads her to that so called perfect guy. It's within this formula/klist that the question can be asked whether it's looks or personality or both that matter to a woman in the end. Consequently, it's up to her to proverbially weed out the egotistical jerks and find a guy who is abosultely worth give her heart to, which is hard to find these days. It's just a matter of looking int he right places rather than looking in the wrong places.

Let me ask you this queston, what attracts you most about a person when you first meet them? Is it the outward appearance or the inward appearance that compels you to strike up a conversation and in turn become truly interested in him or her. Oftentimes, there is no attraction at first only until he or she gets to know that particular person and get a better understanding of who he or she. In some ways, that attraction can be infected by that person's presence and will leave a lasting impression, in a good way of course. As a guy, it takes me a while to figure out if I am really attracted to someone and if I truly am I will take time to get to know her. The old school ways of courting a woman still work in my book.

In any case, each of us can sometimes have personality issues as we meet someone new that we want to get to know. It's simply part of being human as one tends to have that mindset that we want to meet someone that basically has the same interests. A person with an easy going, laid back attitude who doesn't take one's self too seriously and can laugh at the most stupidest and craziest things that happen in life. A person one can absolutely call a best friend but knows that sometimes space is needed to grow even closer. In some ways that is who I'm looking for and hopefully if she is out there that particular person will one day stand at my door, knock, and will ask to come in.

Last Friday, I sent out a personality test which compares certain personality traits with a certain animal type. I'm a Golden Retriever, but have a little lion and otter in me as well. As a Golden Retriever, I tend to feel deeply for certain things or people which comes with working with kids, but I don't have difficulty saying no to them. I'm an introverted person who likes being by myself at times. I'm also a person of habit and I don't like breaking a set routine that works. I'm a calm, reserved, even keel person which "my kids" might disagree with that, but I do know when to let my hair down, so to speak. Ultimately, do those personality traits consider me an interesting and/or attractive person for any female out there? Who knows, but she has to either take it or leave it because that is who I am and I'm comfortable being myself.