The Hard Way

Someone once said, ~Life isn't supposed to be an all or nothing battle between misery and bliss. Life isn't supposed to be a battle at all. And when it comes to happiness, well, sometimes life is just okay, sometimes its comfortable, sometimes wonderful, sometimes boring, sometimes unpleasant. When your day's not perfect, it's not a failure or a terrible loss. It's just another day.~ Oftentimes life doesn't coincide with one's own expectations of how it should go. In our own ambition to see things that bring joy and pleasure into each of our lives we tend to ignore the things that make one's smile turn upside down. In a way, it's like signing a contract and every now then, the fine print will show up and bit you in the butt.

Growing up is hard enough as it is without having to deal with trying to figure out one's own identity in life. From the minute we are born and into our teenage years, one will try to carve out a niche in life for himself and herself by establishing one's individuality. It's in our own individuality that sets us apart from every other person who wants to be like or dress like the other kids. It's that inner struggle within ourselves that we can sell out and try to be someone whose family and friends will not be able to recognize and probably not like. In some aspects, as kids, we can go through so many contract negotiations with our parents to try to find absolute common ground and be content with the finality of what both have agreed upon.

Undoubtedly, when each of us enters adulthood, the conscious choices one makes will be, at times, costly. For our stress level will go through the roof, in a manner of speaking, when certain obstacles are knowingly or unknowingly put in front of us. It's at this stage of our lives that we learn what it's like to be a responsible adult and when we have those big mess ups, we not only mess it up for ourselves we can mess it up for other people as well. It's these mistakes in life that one has to simply deal with our transgressions with the utmost dignity and grace. If not, one will create an even bigger hole for one to climb out of and that's a part of life which isn't found in one's contract of life; we just have to figure it out on our own.

Consequently, when it comes to falling in love, there is no absolute guarantee that the contract will be with you and that special someone will last. We all tend to ignore the fine print when one falls in love and we're just happy; but when one gets burned that happiness turns to sadness and that fine print will seem clear as day. It's within that metaphorical document written in small bold letters that life is not responsible for one to become angry, bitter, lonely, and depressed when a feeling such as love doesn't quite work out. Initially, it can leave a big hole in one's heart to the point where it hurts when the wind passes through and everytime there is even a slight possibility of falling in love again one will keep in mind the fine print.

In retrospect, a person tends to think that he or she has life's most difficult problems solved. For it's in one's contract that a person can try to find loopholes to get something more out of life. Without a doubt, each of us wants the simple life where we don't have to continually worry where the money is going to come from. Yet, life doesn't work that way as we just have to work with the contract that life gives us, which isn't much. We may not have all the things that life has to offer such as materialistic possessions and someone to share our lives with, but it's a work in progress. In the end, life without question is hard and sometimes it doesn't take the easy way to figure that out, you have to figure that out the hard way.