Black and White

Someone once said, ~Falling in love is easy, it involves only the senses. Staying in love and growing harmoniously with another is truly where love begins. Learning how to love brings us to the happiness and fulfillment we are seeking, because we share and give from what we have, what we feel, when we accept this, we can begin to heal from the past, and start building a loving foundation that won't be destroyed by what others have fone to us, that won't be crushed because we haven't the best partner. Finding a true love, means we must become a true lover, a knower of love, giver of love. Then we will attract them to us, just likes bees are atttracted to a beautiful flower.

In some aspects, when each of us are truly in love, things seem to much brighter and full of color when you are with that particular person. For one can have an extra kick in his or her step, one's demeanor changes, and the frown that he or she usually has is now proverbially turned upside down. But the question is, for how long? Does it really matter though because one doesn't want to think about whether or nothis or her relationship will last. It's a mindset that will, in some cases, ruin a perfectly good relationship in which friends and family are genuinely rooting for it to grow. In a way, every potential relationship starts off in somewhat of a gray area, but through time, hopefully colors will start to be seen clear as day.

Yet, some people can be totally color blind to that fact their is a person in right in front of him or her that is trying to paint a colorful picture of a potential relationship. It can be a frustrating situation indeed for some people when you want that particular person of interest to see the same colored picture you want him or her to see. Though one may be seeing colors that represent a warm tone for that person, he or she may be seeing something different as that person only sees neutral colors, which is otherwise called "just friends." Initially it may take a while for that guy or girl to see those colors, especially guys because you know we are slow at figuring things out.

Every relationship goes through hardships and one of the things that can make it difficult is the green-eyed monster known as jealousy. It can be a person's worst enemy when it pertains to having a relationship with someone that, in your own mind, other people want what you got. One's imagination can get the better of him or her when a plutonic relationship between a girl and a guy is totally innocent. For it takes only one seed to be planted and inevitbaly it can either be uprooted immediately or let it continually grow, at which point trust becomes an issue. It's just a matter of keeping that green-eyed monster in check and have total faith in that person or the colorful picture will turn into something totally unrecognizable.

When you think about it, there are millions of books that teach people how to keep the love going in a relationship. A person, like Dr. Phil who I respect, talk to people who are in troubled relationships and try break through the wall to find some kind of common ground. In reality, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that the most important part of a relationship is communication. Without it, a relationship that started off colorful will slowly fade to black and nobody wants that happening. In retrospect, relationships aren't always solved simply by reading what's in black and white; you simply have to read from the one place that when it is pierced it bleeds crimson red and that is each other's heart.