Thursday, November 14, 2024

Skipped A Step

Brent Allen once said, ~Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. The best times are the times we almost get it right.~ Let me ask you this question, do you think life would be so much easier if the moment each one of us were born we’re automatically provided with an instructional manual to not only help us figure out life, but understand it as well. For it’s certainly a thought provoking situation indeed that once the moment we’re born we been given a book of instructions in being able to possibly help deal with and/or figure out the do’s/don’ts of life without having to experience any of the unfortunate mishaps/mistakes that are considered painful, disappointing, embarrassing, humiliating, etc. Thinking about it further, you can’t help but imagine what sort of instructions, standards/guidelines, troubleshooting ideas/tips, etc. are in there in regard to the following 3 areas: friends, matters of the heart, and spiritual life.

Without a doubt, having an instruction manual at your disposal from the time we’re born is deemed an interesting concept. True, on paper, it may be seemingly plausible to have in our hands a manual in which we’re instructed to follow step by step in order to make/establish a friendship, especially one that ends up becoming lifelong. Of course, reading a manual such as this growing up to avoid/remove the don’ts and follow the do’s would have been very handy during our childhood. In reality though, actually applying and following those same step by step instructions of making a friend can most definitely be thrown out the window, in a manner of speaking. Why? It’s an absolute wildcard to the point where you’ll always feel like you’ve somehow missed reading a step. Essentially, there are in actuality no specific guidelines/steps to adhere to and it’s one of the main reasons how friendships are so unpredictably made.

As I said before, you can’t help but imagine being born and automatically given a book of instructions in order to help deal with and/or figure out the do’s/don’ts of life without having to experience any of the unfortunate mishaps/mistakes that’s considered to be painful, disappointing, embarrassing, humiliating, etc. I think it’s safe to say we all would want/would like to have that quintessential instructional manual pertaining to matters of the heart. Granted, it would be an ideal situation to refer to the love/true section of one’s instruction manual of life and follow the steps in dealing with the failure of utter heartbreak or the success of a strong, worthwhile relationship. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works and you can’t just skip ahead, so to speak, when dealing with the roller coaster of emotions you’re enduring while healing from a broken heart or figuring out if you’re taking the leap of faith with that guy/girl in question.

2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, ~All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.~ If you think about it, when we’re struggling spiritually we have the opportunity to open the instruction manual representing one’s own bible in order to “troubleshoot” problems we oftentimes face and struggle with that leave us absolutely spiritually scratching our heads because we’re feeling lost. Essentially, His advice gives us the determination to honestly challenge us to focus on Him and prove ourselves worthy in our walk with God by taking the necessary steps for a far better spiritual life. What it primarily comes down to is focusing on the most important spiritual manual that has all the right instructions to read and follow rather than the world’s instructional manual.

Annette Christie said, ~No one’s life has an instructional manual. That’s the best damn thing about it. I choose and you choose and everyone makes choices that gave these butterfly effects on everything else - the results are either this exquisite ballet or an avant garde multimedia melee.~ In retrospect, an instructional manual comes with additional parts like screws and nuts that a person may or may not use if any are left over, which is a lot like life. For the most part, those screws/nuts represent individuals in our lives who’ll be there to help keep you stable in case you need it knowing how life can leave us for all intents and purposes either wobbly or uneven to where we’re left leaning off to one side. In the end, we’re all doing our best in figuring out how to put together the life we’re living with the parts that may/may not be useful and whether or not we’ve skipped a step, it’s hopefully a decision we can actually live with.

Thursday, October 17, 2024

Light A Spark

Napoleon Hill once said, ~The starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desire brings weak results, just as small fire makes a small amount of heat.~ If you think about it, achieving any type/sort of personal and/or professional success is like creating a flame you’re trying to ignite that was initially sparked by an idea. It’s an idea you hope doesn’t prematurely fizzle out, so to speak, too quickly before it has been given time to burn. For it’s most definitely not an easy process to undertake as you’re, in a sense, doing it the old school surviving in the wilderness way. A way in which you’re metaphorically rubbing two sticks together in hopes of generating enough heat and friction in not only creating one’s own fiery success, but having the desire to constantly stoke the flames so it won’t ever completely die out.

As I said before, when it comes to achieving any type/sort of personal and/or professional success is like metaphorically rubbing two together in hopes of creating a flame you’re trying to ignite that initially sparked an idea or a number of ideas. Of course, it can certainly be a mentally rather than physically exhausting situation indeed as you’re doing your best in creating the friction needed to produce the sparks of potential rough ideas in order to fully ignite the embers of that one main idea. In other words, finding out through the process of elimination of what either works or doesn’t work. Thinking about it further, once you’re able to focus on that one idea that hopefully works the back and forth friction of being able to find a comfortable groove that doesn’t cause you to end up mentally burning yourself out, in a manner of speaking.

Without a doubt, being able to successfully achieve lighting a fire simply by rubbing two sticks together can certainly be a physically daunting task to say the least. However, it’s absolutely worth it when you’re actually able to do it to the point where you feel a sense of pride and accomplishment that you were able to do it all by yourself. Essentially, it’s that same desire in which a person mentally pushes himself/herself into sparking a potentially successful metaphorical flame in hopes of feeling that same heat of pride and accomplishment. Unfortunately, it’s often not the case as every person has at some point or another failed in achieving to create any sparks whatsoever thus leaving us, for all intents and purposes, with a face full of smoke representing anger, annoyed frustration, as well as mental exhaustion.

Let me ask this question to those who have tried rubbing two sticks together to get a fire going, how long did it take you before it finally lit up? For the most part, there is a tremendous amount of patience one goes mentally through in trying to metaphorically rub the two sticks together in one’s own mind in hopes of sparking up potential ideas, which takes time to heat up. True, you don’t want to mentally overexert yourself that you unfortunately make the mistake of trying to force those aforementioned sparks of ideas to happen. What it primarily comes down to is simply walking away/taking a step back so you can take the time to mentally regroup so that when you’re refocused you’ll be able to not just get a fresh perspective, but possibly figuring out a whole new angle that positively rather negatively works to your advantage.

In retrospect, my personal desire to achieve a mental journey that started nearly 30 years ago still holds strong as it relates to the Yodaisms I’ve written, which has been a challenging experience. Granted, there are a certain number of them that don’t necessarily have as much heat as the ones that continue to burn hotter and brighter, which I’m profoundly proud of. Ultimately, I’ve kept the friction within my own mind going with the two metaphorical two sticks in hopes of setting ablaze a new achievement I’ve patiently set forth for myself as this Yodaism marks my 900th. In the end, although I consider myself a mere amateur writer I have prided myself in being able to somehow mentally and/or emotionally light a spark with those who have felt and continue to feel the heat as I push forward to reach the next desired benchmark…1,000 Yodaisms.

Sunday, September 22, 2024

Be A Goldfish

Marianne Williamson once said, ~ Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.~ Let me ask you this question, what is your greatest fear and I’m not talking about spiders, heights, or any irrational fears involving something weird like the taste/sight/feel of pickles.

Without a doubt, one of the greatest and deepest fears anyone can ever really experience is being alone, especially if you’re going through any sort of mental, as well as emotional turmoil. I think it’s safe to say we’ve all at some point or another have felt or are possibly feeling that way right now. For it’s truly a tremendously challenging situation indeed for a person to find himself/herself in as you’re left struggling/dealing with your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions, which can most definitely be like internally living an absolute tortuous existence. Thinking about it further, it’s the unfortunate power of one’s neurotically insecure thoughts and stressful emotions that can turn incredibly negative to the point where it ends up potentially triggering either a panic or anxiety attack.

If you think about it, it’s one thing to deal with your own issues of being alone but dealing with someone else’s issues in regards to a dating relationship can be absolutely exhausting. Of course, spending quality time together is what helps establish a strong bond between two people. However, when you’re unable to enjoy the comfortable solitude of one’s own “me time” because he/she wants to constantly be by your side it inevitably becomes problematic. In other words, the guy/girl in question has turned very needy or clingy maybe because of abandonment issues. Essentially, it’s considered a major dating red flag to become highly aware of because if he/she wants to always be in your presence you’ll feel so suffocated it’s like you’ve been tightly wrapped in a human version of a straight jacket, which can drive anyone considerably insane.

For the question can be asked: are you more afraid of the thought of being alone or the feeling of loneliness? What’s the difference? Essentially, when it comes to being by yourself without anyone around you’re simply enjoying the meditative solitude while being given the opportunity to soak in the silence of the surrounding environment while at the same time learning about yourself. Personally, speaking I like to refer to it as going into Jedi master hermit mode. In any case, it’s the total opposite of the feeling of loneliness that is solely based on one’s emotions and feeding the need/want/yearning to fill the void within your own heart, so to speak. Unfortunately, that aforementioned void ends up getting filled with the wrong guy/girl thus causing yourself to be locked and isolated in your own sort of self imposed mental/emotional purgatory.

In retrospect, each one of us is powerful beyond measure as we do our best in facing/conquering one of the greatest/deepest fears in life. What it primarily comes down to is focusing on the light of your own strength instead of the darkness that attempts to swallow you whole into the darkness. Oftentimes, whether we’re alone living a life of solitude or experiencing the emotional tapping of loneliness on our heart you have to be reminded that fear is temporary and can be quickly gone like a memory. Speaking of memory, did you know that the happiest animal with a 10 second memory is the goldfish. Thanks Ted Lasso. In the end, heed the following three words of Ted Lasso by simply taking 10 seconds that ultimately helps you happily move on from and avoid the fear of loneliness leading to another bad past relationship: be a goldfish.

Sunday, September 15, 2024

Mystery Unfold

Amanda Foxon-Hill once said, ~Life is like origami, unfold it slowly and observe each twist, turn and crease and you will understand it. Handle it carelessly and all you have is a blank sheet of paper. Your challenge is to see the beauty in every fold. Stay awake, have fun, and enjoy your unique journey.~ If you think about it, life and the art of paper folding otherwise known as origami are synonymous with each other because at first glance they are both seemingly easy to experience. Although life can be perceived as seemingly easy, it’s also considerably complicated and confusingly complex as well. For the most part it depends on the level of skill, patience, and the amount of time you’re willing to put in hoping that aspects of life will fold, so to speak, in such a way it hopefully turns how you actually wanted it to become.

Let me ask you this question to those who are experts and/or at the beginning level of origami, what was deemed absolutely challenging in being able to create something while carefully utilizing an intricate technique of folding sequences to a plain piece of paper? I think it’s safe to say one of the challenges a person faces or has faced is getting the plain piece of paper you’re folding precisely right in hopes of establishing an accurate or close to accurate representation of what you’re attempting to create. Thinking about it further, it’s the same way in regard to life as each of us have our own skill set either as a beginner or expert in trying to create something from the plain piece of paper we’ve been provided with in hopes of somehow creatively turning it into something positively awe inspiring without any visibly negative creases showing, so to speak.

As I said before, one of the challenges a person faces or has faced is getting the plain piece of paper you’re folding it precisely right in hopes of establishing an accurate or close to accurate representation of what you’re attempting to create. Oftentimes, there is an unfortunate mindset of believing your life is just a plain piece of paper and all you’re focusing on is the origami of what other people created for themselves. In other words, the perception of living a boring life that lacks excitement while everyone else is living life to the fullest. What it primarily comes down to is focusing on your own piece of plain paper and patiently creating/folding aspects of your life in such a positive rather than a negative way it gradually changes, as well as excites your overall perception so much so you’ve become a genuinely happier individual.

Without a doubt, it takes time until you’ve mastered the art of origami or at least come close to it, which means there’s a tremendous amount of practice to be had. For it’s a thought provoking situation indeed that like origami a person can spend countless hours trying to figure out their own life. Of course, experiencing a roller coaster of emotions such anger, fear, hatred, jealousy, anxiety, doubt, worry, insecurity, sadness, frustration, bitterness, disappointment, utter contempt, etc. represent each time you’ve found yourself constantly refolding a particular aspect of life so many times that it unfortunately gets torn apart, in a manner of speaking. Ultimately, you just have to keep practicing and learning from your mistakes before you’re able to finally create a relatively awe inspiring origami life design that you’re most proud of.

In retrospect, when it comes to the origami of life it’s a quintessential mystery as there are aspects of our plain piece of paper that haven’t been folded as of yet. True, being able to correctly solve a number of the folded areas we’ve not only made mistakes in, but have been considerably problematic over the years is either a personal or professional victory/achievement whereby leaving us breathing a sigh of relief. Hey, it’s from those aforementioned personal/professional victories that we continue “folding” and each fold brings us closer to solving that one illusive fold that completes one’s origami mystery of life that hasn’t been completely mastered. In the end, enjoy figuring out the origami like process of life and instead of always stressing out simply let the mystery unfold on its own.

Wednesday, September 04, 2024

A Temporary Fix

Jamie Hynerman once said, ~Duct tape is not a perfect solution to anything. But with a little creativity, in a pinch, it’s an adequate solution to just about everything.~ Let me ask you this question to those who have used duct tape to hold together and/or repair something, was it considered a temporary or long term to the issues/problem you were experiencing? In other words, we MacGyvered it and for any of us who are of a certain age we know this pop culture reference. In any case, it’s a thought provoking situation indeed as we do our best in duct taping ourselves together when particular aspects of life or life in general tends to tear us apart, in a manner of speaking. Thinking about it further, life can certainly tear us apart in the following ways: mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Without a doubt, when we find ourselves mentally torn apart we try to, in a sense, duct tape the tears like a band aid in hopes of avoiding not only a mental, but emotional breakdown as well. Unfortunately, trying to achieve that sort of mental/emotional stability isn’t necessarily considered a permanent solution to fix whatever issues you’re dealing with mentally and emotionally. Why? Although you’re, for all intents and purposes, attempting to stop your heart/mind from being completely torn apart, one’s issues are either ignored or refused to be taken care of to the point where it’s simply covered up in duct tape, so to speak. Sadly, there are countless people out there who are covered in so much mental/emotional duct tape that removing it will be considerably difficult, as well as incredibly painful.

Psalm 7:2 says, ~Lest he tear my soul like a lion, rending it in pieces, while there is none to deliver.~ I think it’s safe to say a person can most definitely find himself/herself experiencing a tremendous struggle in their faith in regard to their spiritual walk with God, which can be completely torn apart by the claws of a lion representing the pleasures of the world. Of course, if that person spiritually falters, the duct tape that represents worldly pleasures such as drinking, gambling, etc. won’t help as they’re viewed as an absolute hindrance for one’s spiritual growth and healing process. What it primarily comes down to is reading His word in the bible and through fervent prayer to Him it will solidly hold together your faithful walk far better than the handy go to gray/black adhesive tape that is a representation of the world.

If you think about it, as we get older it’s inevitable that each one of us experience the aches and pains of growing older. For it’s a bittersweet and rude awakening that we aren’t as young as we used to where a significant impact is felt more so for guys than women.. True, one can find the humor in how our own body is falling apart either altogether or in sections and one of the potential solutions we joke about doing is duct taping ourselves together. Truth be told, it’s become a reality with the creation of kinesiology tape that countless pro athletes have on certain parts of their bodies, which helps in supporting and relieving pain in the muscles/joints. For the most part, we just have to take care of ourselves physically by exercising daily and eating healthier in order to avoid the major pitfalls of suffering any sort of serious physical injuries.

In retrospect, duct tape is never really deemed a permanent solution to fix issues/problems because it’s merely covering it up. In some aspects, it’s what a number of individuals are doing when it comes to either their mental/emotional health, being spiritually lost and their overall health. Essentially, they’re covering up their issues/problems without really focusing on how to properly take care of whatever you’re dealing with. Speaking with a therapist, going to church, and/or going to the gym are just some of the initiatives that people should be taking for themselves in making positive steps for improvement when it pertains to your mind, body, and soul. In the end, don’t ever find yourself duct taping the issues/problems you’re facing because it’s considered a temporary fix that will continue to be a problem if not properly taken care of.

Thursday, August 08, 2024

Your Name

Patrick Jones once said, ~That’s life you know. It is all one big waiting room. Sometimes it's good, sometimes it’s bad. And then, like you, sometimes it’s great.~ If you think about it, life sometimes feels like you’re sitting in a waiting room until a door opens and it’s announced your turn is next, especially when it pertains to matters of the heart. It’s a type of waiting that most definitely tests the limits of an individual’s mental and emotional patience. For it’s a thought provoking situation indeed for anyone who waited or is continuing to wait for that metaphorical door representing a strong worthwhile relationship to not only open, but be able to finally be happily welcomed with a smile by someone you’ve patiently wanted to meet for quite some time.

As I said before, life sometimes feels like you’re sitting in a waiting room until a door opens and it’s announced your turn is next, especially when it pertains to matters of the heart. I think it’s safe to say when you’re living the single life your patience is mentally and emotionally tested as one finds himself/herself “sitting” within the quintessential waiting room of your own heart. Of course, being able to “sit” there and wait is considered to be the easy part as you’re doing your best in distracting yourself from completely staring at the metaphorical door representing love/true love. Essentially, the best kind of distraction is simply living your life to the fullest with your best buds/gal pals, which helps pass the time while you’re waiting.

Without a doubt, we’ve all thought or uttered under our breath while sitting in a waiting room the following words: What is taking so long? Oftentimes, when you’ve been sitting in a waiting room for an inordinate amount of time one has probably felt annoyed, irritated, agitated, frustrated, restless and not to mention angery. Thinking about it further, it’s those same feelings previously mentioned that can also be felt in the waiting room located within your own heart, which can drive a person absolutely crazy? Why? Although the space of an actual waiting room is limited, the one located in a person’s heart is vast and never ending to the point where having to wait can become mentally, as well as emotionally unbearable.

Isaiah 40:31 says ~But those who wait on the LORD Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.~ Let me ask this question to those who patiently waited in regard to the Lord’s will involving that special certain someone, how long did it take till the door finally opened pertaining to the waiting room door representing true happiness? In other words, placing all of one’s trust in His will for that door to eventually open. What it primarily comes down to is knowing that it’s all in God’s timing as He knows the person who’ll be opening the door to the waiting room of your heart is going to be well worth the long wait.

In retrospect, there comes a point while “sitting” in the waiting room of one’s own heart, it can seem considerably unfair that other individuals are experiencing their dream come before you. Unfortunately, it doesn’t necessarily help when our own thoughts, feelings, and emotions can push/drive a person to the brink of absolute insanity because we’re so focused on everyone else’s name being called. Ultimately, instead of putting the focus on everyone else one should be focusing on Him. In the end, when that happens the door will finally open, your name will be announced and all the mental/emotional “sitting” you’ve endured gives way to an overwhelming sense of relaxing relief and an absolute relieved smile as well.

Monday, July 15, 2024

Throw Down The Gauntlet

Ray Dalio once said, ~Life is like a game where you seek to overcome the obstacles that stand in the way of achieving your goals. You get better at this game through practice. The game consists of a series of choices that have consequences. You can't stop the problems and choices from coming at you, so it's better to learn how to deal with them.~ Let me ask you this question, have you ever in your life felt as if you were participating in the full contact game that those of us of a certain age grew up watching called American Gladiators. For it’s a thought provoking situation indeed as we’re stepping into the so called gladiator arena of life facing off against/going toe to toe with the gladiators representing our own thoughts, feelings, and/or emotions that are considered to be a force to be reckoned with.

If you think about it, the American Gladiator event known as “Joust”and scheduling time as adults with one’s best buds/gal pals have a tremendous amount of similarities. I think it’s safe to say we’ve all found ourselves standing on a metaphorical platform having a back and forth battle, so to speak, in trying to make time to physically meet up with each other. Although we’re not hitting each other with pugil sticks and knocking off each other’s platform, we can certainly be exchanging hits of frustration and disappointment when we’re unable to mutually agree on a designated time/date/location to get together. Unfortunately, when we reach adulthood not being able to meet up for a much needed gathering can most definitely knock anyone off their platform, but it doesn’t completely eliminate the friendship shared amongst your inner circle.

Without a doubt, the event “Assault” is a perfect representation of not only the single life but the dating scene as well. Of course, the main goal of the event is to avoid getting hit while making your way to different areas with an assortment of “weapons” that will help in trying to hit the red target located right above/behind the gladiator that’s trying to stop you. Thinking about it further, when it comes to matters of the heart pertaining to love/true love you do your best in using the “weapons” you have at your disposal to hit the red target that is a person’s heart in hopes of not getting hit with the proverbial tennis balls of rejection. Hey, it’s an absolute challenge to face and whether you succeeded or failed in establishing a strong worthwhile relationship you at least did your best in making every shot you made count.

For the question can be asked to those who watched American Gladiators and the event called “The Wall”: Did you ever think to yourself while sitting at home you could pull off reaching the top without getting pulled down by a gladiator? Hey, we all did knowing you’re given a 10 second head start. In that same context, climbing the 32ft summit from the show is synonymous with the climbing the ladder of success involving one’s professional career goals. Unfortunately, while making the climb up to reach the next level there are quite possibly individuals you may or may not know who are trying to pull you down and stop you from achieving any sort of success. What it primarily comes down to is keeping your focus on working hard to ascend instead of losing it because you were distracted by someone/something that will pull you down.

In retrospect, there can most definitely be a tremendous amount of pressure placed on our own shoulders to not be on the losing end when we participate in the American Gladiator area known as life. Oftentimes, it seems like the all events you’ve gone through/participated in thus far, whether we won or lost, have led up to one’s own version of the Eliminator, which is especially challenging mentally, emotionally, physically, and even spiritually. For the most part, you do your best in being prepared to contend with the gladiators that we’re familiar with, but it’s the ones we’re unfamiliar with that can be incredibly tough to say the least. Ultimately, we just have to put our quintessential game faces on, step up to those aforementioned tough gladiators we haven’t contended with yet, and without any fear whatsoever throw down the gauntlet.