The Good Life

Sylvester Stallone once said, ~I learned the real meaning of love. Love is absolute loyalty. People fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades. You can depend so much on certain people, you can set your watch by them. And that's love even if it doesn't seem exciting.~ Without a doubt, when you're in a loyal, committed relationship you can most definitely experience a level of excitement that not only thrills your own heart, but the heart of the one you love as well. For its a type of love in which there is an indescribable energy shared either in an emotional, mental, physical, and/or spiritual way between two people who absolut get "it" about love. Essentially, when you truly know the meaning of what love is for yourself and that certain special someone life itself gets just better and better.

Let me ask you this question to those in a significant relationship, what is considered the most exciting aspect of the person you love that tells you there's never really a dull moment whenever you're with and/or around him/her. For it's a question that can certainly put a smile on one's face as he/she thinks of those particular qualities, character traits, and other attributes other people may find quite odd, but to you it's endearing because it represents to a T how you personally know him/her to be. Thinking about it, it's those things that may have embarrassed/annoyed you at first causing you to cringe are now things you're not only used to, but they cause you to laugh because you have someone in your life who brings that excitement by thoroughly entertaining you sometimes without even trying.

If you think about it, when you experience love that is exciting it doesn't necessarily mean you're physically taken on an all out adrenaline rush of thrilling adventures to memorable destinations. Oftentimes, the most exciting places to travel are areas within you and your significant other's heart as quality time is spent together in peaceful tranquility by doing such activities like sitting quietly together reading a book/newspaper, sitting in the front/back porch watching the sun rise while drinking morning coffee, walking hand in hand around the neighborhood, etc. Let me tell you something, its those seemingly insignificant moments that are far more thrilling to experience than going skydiving, going to a concert, bungee jumping, etc. because experiencing the adrenaline rush of true happiness lasts a lifetime.

For the question can be asked to those who have been in a committed relationship for over 30 years, does the person continue to thrill you when he or she gives you that certain unmistakable look? It's a touching situation indeed for any couple well into their latter years of life who are not only able to continually feel excitement within each other's heart, but still see the man/woman they married many years ago. As said before, people fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades and its a true statement indeed because even though he/she may not be what one used to be physically its what in his/her heart that sends a chill down your spine as you look at the unmistakable glint in one's eye, as well as the smile on his/her face that makes you fall in love all over again.

In retrospect, love is never boring unless you make it to be because unless you're in a relationship that's about good looks or the physical aspect of it isn't exciting. Its a sad situation for those couples who weren't able to keep that excitement flowing within a relationship as the rush of adrenaline fades from within each other's heart. You see, when it comes to matters of the heart it's the little things that pertain to a relationship that ultimately pay big dividends to the point where women, more so than guys, appreciate how much the man in their life is paying attention. In the end, to those couples who are bringing excitement of love into each other's life for more than 20 years I say to you I hope you never lose the rush of adrenaline pumping within each other's heart because the both of you are living what people like me dream of...the good life.

A Perfect Pair

A woman once said, ~How can I put it? Love is like searching for the perfect pair of shoes and finding them. But when he loves you back too, well my friend...that's like finding the shoes, you try them on and they're a perfect fit.~ In some aspect, love or true love for that matter is indeed like searching for the perfect pair of shoes that not only metaphorically fits your own heart, but that someone special as well. Yet, for those of us who are living the single life we are, in a sense, holding in our hand one shoe that initially represents half of our heart and somewhere out there is a guy/girl who holds the other half. For it's a tough situation indeed thinking you may have possibly met the guy/girl you match up perfectly with, so to speak, only to find he/she didn't quite match up or fit at all.

Let me ask you this question ladies, when it comes to searching for the perfect pair of shoes do you go for absolute style that possibly gives way to where it leaves you with a feeling of uncomfortable pain or do you look for dependable quality in which you have this feeling of absolute relief that you got your money's worth, in a manner of speaking? For any woman I would fair to say they would most definitely be comforted within the soul of their own heart in knowing they have a guy or will have a guy in their life who doesn't make them feel as if they're going to be replaced or should I say tossed aside like an old pair of tattered shoes. How many women in significant relationships today can honestly say when it comes to true happiness they have a man who comfortably fits in every aspect of their life.

If you think about it, matters of the heart can oftentimes leave you in all intensive purposes worn out in a mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual way. Every person has, in a sense, walked over a million miles within their heart to the point where there is a hole left behind because of the wear and tear from the stress of bad past relationships. It's a sad situation indeed when instead of being able to always experience that seemingly constant fresh new shoe smell one unfortunately experiences the nasty stench of being used so many times over you don't know whether or not your heart will be able to hold together. For a certain number of people their own heart is falling apart held together by just a mere string and no amount of duct tape will help further the longevity of someone who never fit your heart in the first place.

For the question can be asked again to you ladies, are you the type of woman who takes time in making the best selection in regards to picking the right shoe for your feet or are you impulsive in picking shoes that visually stimulates your eyes? For some, most, or all women they make the mistake of impulsively picking a guy who on the outside looks too good to be true, but when they essentially try him on by talking with him they experience that pinching discomfort within their heart. In other words, a guy may have the flashy style of good looks and a great body on the outside, but on the inside there isn't any substance to him whereby a woman continues to look until she finds one of the things that is most important in a relationship and makes her happy in the long run...commitment.

In retrospect, we're all wanting a type of love that is not only comfortable, but there is also a versatility to it in which you want to experience certain things for every situation in life and love. What do I mean? If you think about it, a woman wants a guy who can make her feel magnificent, sexy and attractive instead of plain, frumpy and unattractive. Plus, he is able to be durable in the oftentimes unpredictable terrain of her heart, which is to be expected in a relationship. Thinking about it, no woman wants to ultimately regret making a poor investment on a guy who isn't able to provide her with everything she needs/wants. In the end, I say to you ladies who are still searching/looking/hunting for the other half of your heart I hope you find him and ultimately become a perfect pair for each other.

The Big Bites

Someone once said, ~Life is like a sandwich. Sometimes you eat the sandwich, and sometimes the sandwich eats you.~ As said before, life can be compared to a footlong subway sandwich and the more you add to it the better it becomes whereby each bite you take is simply enjoyable. Yet, there are times where many of us may possibly bite off more than we can chew when it pertains to aspects of life such as work, friendship, family, love, and/or marriage. Hey, its what life is all about as we, in a sense, mix it up with the best ingredients that are before us in order to make a seemingly tasteful combination worthy enough to be considered of great value. Essentially, when it comes to fulfilling your appetite in life do you live it healthy, spicy, or with reckless abandon?

Let me ask you this question, are you the type of person who prefers ordering the Veggie Delite subway sandwich? For in this increasingly health conscious society there are those individuals who look to not only eat healthy and watch their calorie intake in the foods they eat to the point where meat is cut out leading one to possibly become a vegetarian, but they also stay fit by exercising daily. It's most definitely a challenging situation indeed for those who have been able to successfully trim the fat, so to speak, of certain aspects of life, to where they continually experience for themselves a fervent energy within. What it comes down to is having the willpower to avoid indulging in the proverbial guilty pleasures of life that you know are wrong for you.

William Cowper said, ~Variety is the spice of life.~ Without a doubt, there are people out there who enjoy the taste of a spicy subway Italian sandwich and in turn they like to spice things up when it comes to their own life as well. Thinking about it, a person considers life a bit more interesting when it changes often and with so many different, exciting, memorable, strange, etc. flavors of life you experience over a period of time you can't help but be in awe when you look back on it all. Oftentimes, by making those experiences happen for yourself you're for all intents and purposes sinking your teeth into the so-called hot peppery unknown of life that can surely leave your taste buds burning with desire to make an impact both personally and professionally.

For the question can be asked, how many of you could care less about counting calories or being burned by hot peppers as you partake in the Big Philly Cheesesteak Subway sandwich? Thinking about it, if you're like me you're the type of carnivorous person who tears into the sometimes tough meaty goodness of life by not only making certain aspects of life happen by doing something totally insane like skydiving for instance, but also waiting in God's time for that someone special to appear in your life. You see, it can be frustrating to keep chewing on life's toughest situations, in a manner of speaking, and feel like you're not going anywhere, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Let me tell you something, just keep chewing or should say praying to God because He answers prayers.

In retrospect, there are times where life isn't that fulfilling as you're left feeling hungry and then there are times where it is absolutely fulfilling as you experience moments that leave you stuffed beyond belief. If you think about it, each one of us is provided with a plethora of rich ingredients like our friends, family, career/job, strong marriage, faith in God, etc. that help make our own life savory and sweet. I think we can all agree nobody wants a life that ends up being stale to the point where the ingredients didn't mix well at all leaving you to experience the bitter/sour aftertaste of heartbreak, drama, frustration, anger, disappointment, etc. In the end, whatever ingredients you have in your own personal sandwich don't waste your time nibbling at life because it's no fun and instead just enjoy the big bites.

Let It Flow

Someone once said, ~Some people say love is like fire, but I say no. Fires burn and die. Some fires are hot, and others cold. True love is more like water, it never dies, it never ends, it just changes.~ When it comes to true love it is indeed more like water than fire as it has the capacity to never die or should I say evaporate but changes in ways that is considered to be truly refreshing. To have a natural, genuine, resource such as true love "bottled" within a particular guy or girl's heart is considerably scarce these days to where it can leave with you an overwhelming thirst, so to speak, within your heart. For its quite a soothing experience to all intensive purposes have your heart quenched by the absolute purity of what can most definitely bring you to life.

As said before, true love has the capacity to change in ways that's considered to be truly refreshing as you can feel it wash over your own heart. I think it would be safe to say for those who have "tasted" for themselves the pure richness of something so indescribable you're left speechless and the only response you can give is a smile because you finally sense your holding in your heart true happiness. However, it's a sad situation for those who instead of experiencing the tantalizing, rejuvenating, sensation poured out from a special someone's heart into their own whereby energizing them they've unfortunately experienced the polluted, contaminated, disease infested impurities that leave a bad taste in their mouth, in a manner of speaking.

Let me ask you this question ladies, have you recently immersed yourself in water like in a tub/spa of some sort and how was the overall experience soaking in it? You see, for any woman, its undeniably therapeutic to relax in a cool or warm/hot environment possibly with bubbles, soothing music, and/or scented candles. In any case, a woman would certainly want a guy who is able to in a way cool her off and take the physical, emotional, and mental stress away from a plethora of possible heated situations. Essentially, a woman would also want a guy who is able to warm her up with encouraging words, a comforting embrace, hold her hands in order to lift her up when she's down, give his shoulder to cry on, and gives you the time for him to listen when the coldness of life slaps her in the face.

If you think about it, love or true love for that matter is like swimming in water as you have this innate feeling as if you're floating/gliding peacefully along within your heart. Yet, when you swim in water there is the danger of drowning and when you're experiencing true love you become frightened of the feelings/emotions you have for a certain guy/girl causing you to feel like you're drowning with yourself and you do your best to keep your heart above water. However, true love is about not fighting or struggling as to who God has planned to be your swimming partner for life and what it comes down to is just completely letting go in order to become completely vulnerable to someone that will be your potential partner who will never let your heart drown in heartbreak, which is a deeply rewarding experience.

David Kam said, ~Love is the only water that can quench the heart's thirst.~ In retrospect, there are people out there who are, in a sense, dehydrated and have constantly found themselves experiencing the bitter aftertaste of disappointment, sadness, frustration, anger, frustration, etc. For people like myself, we've been thirsty for quite some time as we wait for our chance to have our own heart filled with the albeit refreshing taste of true happiness, which is something you tend to think is never going to come to fruition. Yet, you know there's something in the water when you look around at your friends who are in strong, happy, significant relationships. In the end, its in God's hands as He will someday quench the thirst within my heart concerning true love and He will let it flow in His own time.

Face In the Crowd

Jon Bon Jovi once said, ~ Each one of us has something no one else has or has ever had: your brain, your heart. Be an individual. Be unique. Stand out. Make noise. Make someone notice. That's the power of individuals.~ If you think about it, we spend much of our life looking for a way to stand out and be considered someone special, especially when it pertains to matters of the heart. For it's a tough situation indeed to try to stand out and be noticed as a unique individual who is totally different from any of the guys or girls out there that are seemingly carbon copies of each other. Oftentimes, the "noise" we make in order to be seen can unfortunately be drowned out, inevitably getting lost among the crowd of men and women who are for all intents and purposes much louder than you are.

Without a doubt, it can be difficult at times to set your heart apart from the heart of those around you to be able to catch the attention of someone you're potentially interested in. Why? Thinking about it, a person may not be as "vocal" about it as others who instead of being subtle in their approach to being noticed are totally up front as they in a sense have no problem "exposing" themselves by the outright flirtatious manner being directed towards that certain someone of interest. Hey, to not be the type of person who stands out by exhibiting peacockish qualities and character traits that don't necessarily fit who you truly are shows one isn't willing to sell out to the pressures of adhering to the status quo in regards to having your heart catch his/her attention.

Let me ask you this question, what do you think is the biggest risk you can ever take to have your heart be noticed? Essentially, the biggest you can ever take is simply being yourself and even though you may exude a quiet, sweet, "nice guy/girl" demeanor that tends to be deemed as unappealing/boring to some it does in fact work for you instead of against you. I think it would be safe to say any woman would rather be intrigued by the subtle charm of a guy who, in his own way. shows her not only his individuality in which there is no ego involved but how truly genuine he is without compromising his morals, ethics, and beliefs. What it comes down to is being a guy who has the self respect of knowing the type of woman he wants to share his life with instead of a woman he's just willing to settle for.

Personally speaking, I ask the question what makes me special to where it enables me to stand out among countless guys who have qualities, characteristics, and/or physical attributes that I could never compete with. Yet, what I've been able to learn over the years from careful observation of relationships is that love isn't a competition in which you treat a woman as a prize you hold above your head in victory because you ultimately won her. If a guy thinks that is what love is then he's a totally misguided fool who needs to be slapped upside the head. Let me tell you something, love is the greatest prize given to us by God himself and to have the purest/truest kind of love within your heart clearly stand out among a crowd of impure hearts shows that you do in fact win out for being you.

In retrospect, a person can pass by true happiness so many times over that one can be totally oblivious as to who is truly standing out in front of him or her. To say love is blind is an understatement because we value the friendship with a certain guy/girl and to see where/if it goes anywhere is a risk you're willing to take with your heart. For the question can be asked, has there been or is there someone who you've passed by countless times and is trying to stand out with his/her heart to get your attention? In the end, when it comes to love or true love for that matter you don't want to be seen as just another face in the crowd and hopefully someday I'll catch the attention of someone special who is able to clearly see the love that stands out for her within my heart.

Someone

Someone once said, ~Love may come in all kinds of strange, unexpected ways. Yet, once love comes, it comes to stay.~ Without a doubt, the purest and oftentimes the truest kind of love happens when it comes unexpectedly between two people who didn't get along at first or started out as friends. For it’s a type of relationship where a man and a woman share a platonic friendship where the love they have for each other doesn't involve any kind of sexual tension whatsoever and is built on mutual respect. I think it would be safe to say that when it comes to the simple act of giving your time and just enjoying each other's company to where you don't feel obligated to give anything back in return you're left absolutely comfortable in talking with him/her in personal matters of the heart.

Let me ask you this question ladies, did you ever at some point think you found the guy you had in your mind for your heart only to unfortunately find out he wasn't what quite you expected? It's a frustrating and sad situation indeed for any woman to not have come to fruition their ideal man who she's been longing to see and is able to be such a positive influence in a physical, mental, emotional, personal, and even spiritual way. All too often, when it comes to to a bad past relationship or past relationships for that matter a woman tries her hardest to forget the mistake she made in being with a guy who wasn't truly real and completely honest with her to the point where she feels as if she's lost within her own heart not knowing where the right path is that leads to true happiness.

As said before, a woman can feel as if she's lost within her own heart not knowing where the right path leads to true happiness. If you think about it, that feeling of being lost within herself can be a representation of an innocent lost lamb that has gone astray. In a sense, like a lost lamb a woman can most definitely experience sadness, worry, doubt, anger, frustration, panic, loneliness, etc. Essentially, it takes a guy who can in all intents and purposes shepherds her way gradually back from the emotions that could not only tear away at the innocence of her very being as a person, but could also be easily manipulated to follow the wrong path. Let me tell you something ladies, when you meet a guy like this your eyes, heart, and yourself are opened to something totally unexpected.

For the question can be asked to the ladies in a significant relationship, is the man you're in love with handsome? When I say handsome, I mean is he stunningly good looking like Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. It's these particular men who in their own right are considered by women to be handsome or whatever guys are described these days. Yet, they don't compare to your man who you believe to be the sexiest man alive in your heart and is far beyond in good looks to the above mentioned men. For some women, it's not about being superficial as it is about finding out the unexpected things about a man that makes him absolutely attractive in their eyes to where he holds the right key, in a manner of speaking, that opens up a slew of infinite possibilities causing you to smile from ear to ear.

In retrospect, love happens unexpectedly when you're not even looking for it. You go about your daily life doing your usual routine and then one day a person comes along who doesn't stand out at first, which makes love so special. For a woman, it can sneak up on her in the smallest of ways and no matter how hard she tries to ignore it she can't as there are moments that are shared that are so undeniable it tugs on her heartstrings. Think about this ladies, you will come face to face with a guy you never thought you would fall in love with who may not be what you expected. In the end, you can say to yourself or to that guy thanks for finally showing up because I've been hoping, wishing, praying, and waiting for you to be that someone to watch over me, which is song by Ella Fitzgerald and George Gershwin that was performed in the movie Mr. Holland's Opus.