Someone once said, ~Life is dull only to dull people.~ Without a doubt, there are people out there who exude a less than enthusiastic mindset whereby the positive vibe you and/or your circle of friends are experiencing is considerably lowered leaving you bummed out as the level of excitement is suddenly sucked out from the once joyous atmosphere. I think it would be safe to say each one of us are friends with or at least know someone who is the proverbial glass half empty cynical type person and no matter how hard you try to put a positive spin on certain aspects of life he/she focuses on the negative. For it's these types of people who you try to avoid on a semi-daily basis so that you won't in all intents and purposes crossover into the darkside.
Let me ask you this question, have you ever had someone completely ruin your morning, noon, and/or night simply by saying something negative. It's a type of negativity you tend to take personal offense to because before you ran into/talked with this particular person you had a smile on your face with a noticeable spring in your step. We've all quite possibly been in this situation and your whole attitude can most definitely change within a blink of an eye. The nice, calm , sweet seemingly gentle demeanor you started out with has now instead been replaced with a grumpy, irritated, sour, significantly harsh individual whose demeanor reflects that of either Ebenezer Scrooge from Charles Dickens classic A Christmas Carol or Dr. Seuss' The Grinch.
As said before, your whole day can be ruined by one person saying and/or doing something whereby planting the tiny grudge seed within you. Thinking about it, the tiny grudge seed can fester inside you and as time passes it grows causing you to lose focus mentally. We've all at some point been thrown off our game, so to speak, to where it just doesn't affect us mentally as it can affect us in a physical, emotional, and even spiritual way as well. Essentially, your left physically tense not being able to relax, emotionally stressed out because you let the words he/she get to you, and you end up losing yourself spiritually holding on to the anger you’re feeling, which is quite possibly many of us have experienced or are currently experiencing at the moment.
For the question can be asked, do you consider yourself to be a dull person but have no way of knowing if you actually are? If you think about it, there are certain tell tale signs that may possibly confirm your infinity to being a dull person. 1.) Have you ever been excited about arranging furniture because you wanted to change things up? 2.) Has a friend ever told you that he/she would rather watch paint dry than hang out with you? 3.) You think photoshop is the greatest thing ever invented and creates works of art to display for others to see. 4.) Does sitting in front of a computer on Friday/Saturday night and logging into either Friendster, Myspace, Facebook, and/or Twitter for hours on end sound enjoyable? Of course, I'm just kidding on # 1, 3, and 4.
About 2 weeks ago, one "my kids" at work stepped off the school bus and walked up me with a smile on his face asking me why I was so dull. It was a question that I took personal offense to leading to a stern lecture for the young man. In any case, when you work with kids they want to have fun and yet there is difference in defining what kids see as fun whereas an adult sees it as dangerous to the point of hurting themselves. For a couple of days, I stewed about it and let what he said get to me to where I not only kept my focus on that rude comment, but I took a survey among the rest of "my kids" at work, which was a big mistake. In the end, if I've learned anything concerning that particular situation its that I should take comments like his and brush them off like dirt off your shoulders.
Monday, April 27, 2009
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Just Say No
If you think about it, we all have succumbed to certain fashion trends growing up and depending on the particular decade you quite possibly regret what you thought was the so-called hip style at the time. Bell bottom jeans, platform shoes, members only jackets, fanny packs, pegging the bottom of your pants, leaving the tags on your new shoes, etc. were just some of the many trends that would come and go. For it’s those particular trends that were considered tolerable back in the day and yet when it comes to one specific fashion trend I just have to shake my head at it because of the pure absurdity of it all. Essentially, the fashion I'm speaking of that has become quite popular among young males is the act of sagging their pants.
Without a doubt, we've all seen the boxers/underwear...not by choice mind you...of many young males who proudly sag their pants with pride. It befuddles my mind how these kids today think it's cool, fly, off the chain, off the hook, pimpin', or whatever lingo is being used to describe the absolute travesty of what being easily influenced has done to a certain number of young people in America. What has it done you may be asking? It has basically turned them into human penguins who shuffle/waddle around in a relatively slow pace holding their pants up to keep it from falling. It's a humorous situation indeed to witness saggers who run and at the same time try to keep from tripping/falling because their pants are down to their ankles.
As said before, it's absurd how sagging has become somewhat accepted as the norm in today's society to where there is a cultural crossover. The influence the United States has on other countries when it pertains to certain things such as television, music, and most definitely fashion styles as well. Thinking about it, young people all across the globe adopt a seemingly ridiculous trend not oftentimes not knowing its true origins or how it does't particularly suit their own culture to dress that way. What it comes down to is following the status quo and exuding a swagger in which you have this wannabe gangsta persona that causes you to act, as well as talk like an utter fool. Let me tell you something, a good slap upside the head would work wonders for them who truly need it.
Let me ask you this question ladies, how many of you actually find guys who sags their pants attractive? To perfectly honest, I don't see how any woman can be attracted, around, or in a relationship with a guy who doesn't properly respect her by dressing in a way that shows a lack of consideration on his part. I will apologize ahead of time for saying this but as much as I want to believe all women have the common sense to avoid guys who every 10 seconds have to pull their pants while talking with them it has gradually fallen by the wayside. Out of curiosity ladies what is the first thing you notice about a guy that is considered a turn on for you? Is it his eyes? Is it his smile? Is it his overall physique? Or is it the sight of his boxer clearly displayed for the public to negatively marvel at?
About a week ago or so, Mayor Stan Wright of Bayou La Batre, Alabama passed an ordinance making it illegal to wear sagging pants that expose their boxers/briefs or too much skin below the waist. According to the law, a first-time offender who fails to pull up his or her pants faces a fine up to $100 and eight hours community service. The punishment escalates up to 150 and 16 hours for a second offense, and up to $250 and 32 hours for a third offense. In my opinion, its good to see/hear someone like Mayor Wright taking the initiative to primarily voice what many of us are thinking...PULL UP YOUR PANTS AND FOR CRYING OUT LOUD USE A BELT! In the end, I think the whole sagging pants situation should go a step further by doing public service announcements and I have the perfect slogan...Just Say No To Crack.
Without a doubt, we've all seen the boxers/underwear...not by choice mind you...of many young males who proudly sag their pants with pride. It befuddles my mind how these kids today think it's cool, fly, off the chain, off the hook, pimpin', or whatever lingo is being used to describe the absolute travesty of what being easily influenced has done to a certain number of young people in America. What has it done you may be asking? It has basically turned them into human penguins who shuffle/waddle around in a relatively slow pace holding their pants up to keep it from falling. It's a humorous situation indeed to witness saggers who run and at the same time try to keep from tripping/falling because their pants are down to their ankles.
As said before, it's absurd how sagging has become somewhat accepted as the norm in today's society to where there is a cultural crossover. The influence the United States has on other countries when it pertains to certain things such as television, music, and most definitely fashion styles as well. Thinking about it, young people all across the globe adopt a seemingly ridiculous trend not oftentimes not knowing its true origins or how it does't particularly suit their own culture to dress that way. What it comes down to is following the status quo and exuding a swagger in which you have this wannabe gangsta persona that causes you to act, as well as talk like an utter fool. Let me tell you something, a good slap upside the head would work wonders for them who truly need it.
Let me ask you this question ladies, how many of you actually find guys who sags their pants attractive? To perfectly honest, I don't see how any woman can be attracted, around, or in a relationship with a guy who doesn't properly respect her by dressing in a way that shows a lack of consideration on his part. I will apologize ahead of time for saying this but as much as I want to believe all women have the common sense to avoid guys who every 10 seconds have to pull their pants while talking with them it has gradually fallen by the wayside. Out of curiosity ladies what is the first thing you notice about a guy that is considered a turn on for you? Is it his eyes? Is it his smile? Is it his overall physique? Or is it the sight of his boxer clearly displayed for the public to negatively marvel at?
About a week ago or so, Mayor Stan Wright of Bayou La Batre, Alabama passed an ordinance making it illegal to wear sagging pants that expose their boxers/briefs or too much skin below the waist. According to the law, a first-time offender who fails to pull up his or her pants faces a fine up to $100 and eight hours community service. The punishment escalates up to 150 and 16 hours for a second offense, and up to $250 and 32 hours for a third offense. In my opinion, its good to see/hear someone like Mayor Wright taking the initiative to primarily voice what many of us are thinking...PULL UP YOUR PANTS AND FOR CRYING OUT LOUD USE A BELT! In the end, I think the whole sagging pants situation should go a step further by doing public service announcements and I have the perfect slogan...Just Say No To Crack.
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Love Remains The Same
William Shakespeare once wrote, ~Love is not a love which alters when alteration finds. It is an ever-fixed mark that looks on tempest and is never shaken. Love alters not with time's brief hours and weeks, but bears it out even to the edge of doom.~ Let me ask you this question, have you ever stood back and looked at a couple and thought to yourself those two are going to make it because you have this innate feeling in your gut they actually will? It's a feeling you can't explain and yet you somehow know they will not become another sad statistic of broken relationships. I'm sure we've all had that feeling and whether it's two people you have known for quite some time or just met you know they'll defy the odds that can possibly change the course of both their lives forever for better or worse.
If you think about it, there is a sense of hope and safety when you look at a couple that you somehow know will make their relationship last. For its a type of hope and safety in which your personal life in regards to dating is filled with so much drama or lack thereof you can always count on those two to be your proverbial fortress of solitude to show things are going to be okay, whereby giving hope within your heart. Its a tough situation indeed to get frustrated when it comes to matters of the heart but when you have the opportunity to talk to a couple who are in a happy, significant relationship you're seemingly put at ease. Thinking about it, within the safety of their relationship you're comforted in knowing the fears, worries, doubts, etc. may have fallen by the wayside.
Without a doubt, every couple has had their fair share of arguments or should I say discussions concerning significant, as well as insignificant aspects of a relationship. I think it would be safe to say men and women get angry to where an argument occurs to the point where they both can be driven completely insane. We've all been in a situation where we witnessed a couple having a discussion putting us in an awkward position but during that discussion you see something truly amazing happen. It's through one simple gesture. possibly verbal, that inevitably turns the mood of the whole situation around from being tense to one where they embrace each other apologizing for their attitude. Let me tell you something, to witness this in person is a sight to behold.
For the question can be asked to those in a significant relationship, has there ever been a point where you've experienced a rough patch when it pertains to your marriage? Essentially, all couples face the same difficulties and yet the circumstances are different for each one of them. For a number of couples, they've endured being separated when problems arise resulting in living apart bringing unwanted changes, giving time for both people to think and have a breather from the pressures resulting from the drama that in all intents and purposes smothered them. When enough time has passed a step towards a reconciliation is taken and it doesn't matter who takes the initiative to do it first as long as both have the willingness to fight/work to help heal the relationship from the inside out.
About a week ago a friend of mine said to me in regards to a past yodaism, ~Love is purely good and perfect. It is humans, however, who are not so good and perfect. Because of that, we have a tendency to mess things up" In retrospect, I agree with her because when it comes to a significant relationship such as marriage it isn't perfect as mistakes are made that can mess up the dynamic of what two people created together. As long as we learn from those mistakes and not continue to not repeat them the relationship has a chance to become perfect in an imperfect way. In the end, relationships are bound to change as a couple may screw up, have arguments to the point where they drive each other up the wall, and possibly deal with rough patches, but love remains the same, which is a song by ex-Bush frontman Gavin Rossdale that reflects this thought.
If you think about it, there is a sense of hope and safety when you look at a couple that you somehow know will make their relationship last. For its a type of hope and safety in which your personal life in regards to dating is filled with so much drama or lack thereof you can always count on those two to be your proverbial fortress of solitude to show things are going to be okay, whereby giving hope within your heart. Its a tough situation indeed to get frustrated when it comes to matters of the heart but when you have the opportunity to talk to a couple who are in a happy, significant relationship you're seemingly put at ease. Thinking about it, within the safety of their relationship you're comforted in knowing the fears, worries, doubts, etc. may have fallen by the wayside.
Without a doubt, every couple has had their fair share of arguments or should I say discussions concerning significant, as well as insignificant aspects of a relationship. I think it would be safe to say men and women get angry to where an argument occurs to the point where they both can be driven completely insane. We've all been in a situation where we witnessed a couple having a discussion putting us in an awkward position but during that discussion you see something truly amazing happen. It's through one simple gesture. possibly verbal, that inevitably turns the mood of the whole situation around from being tense to one where they embrace each other apologizing for their attitude. Let me tell you something, to witness this in person is a sight to behold.
For the question can be asked to those in a significant relationship, has there ever been a point where you've experienced a rough patch when it pertains to your marriage? Essentially, all couples face the same difficulties and yet the circumstances are different for each one of them. For a number of couples, they've endured being separated when problems arise resulting in living apart bringing unwanted changes, giving time for both people to think and have a breather from the pressures resulting from the drama that in all intents and purposes smothered them. When enough time has passed a step towards a reconciliation is taken and it doesn't matter who takes the initiative to do it first as long as both have the willingness to fight/work to help heal the relationship from the inside out.
About a week ago a friend of mine said to me in regards to a past yodaism, ~Love is purely good and perfect. It is humans, however, who are not so good and perfect. Because of that, we have a tendency to mess things up" In retrospect, I agree with her because when it comes to a significant relationship such as marriage it isn't perfect as mistakes are made that can mess up the dynamic of what two people created together. As long as we learn from those mistakes and not continue to not repeat them the relationship has a chance to become perfect in an imperfect way. In the end, relationships are bound to change as a couple may screw up, have arguments to the point where they drive each other up the wall, and possibly deal with rough patches, but love remains the same, which is a song by ex-Bush frontman Gavin Rossdale that reflects this thought.
Friday, April 03, 2009
Count Me In
Someone once said, ~Love is a strange emotion. When one thinks of it, a conflicting multitude of thoughts arise. Love is pitiful and marvelous, empowering and parasitic. It is hideous, it is beautiful. It is weak and strong at the same time. Love has started wars, ended wars, caused the depression and death of millions, as well as caused uncountable others to be thrown to the height of ecstasy. So is love truly such a pure, lively thing? I think it is a mixture of both. Just as nothing is purely good or evil, so is love.~ Let me ask you this question, why do we subject ourselves to this seemingly fleeting notion of love or true love for that matter knowing full well how much physical, emotional, and mental pain it can most definitely bring into our lives?
If you think about it, love does more harm than good as you start out a moderately happy person but as time goes on you become absolutely miserable. Miserable in the sense you can't function the way you normally do as eating, sleeping work, etc. are considerably affecting you in such a physical way to the point where it progressively saps the strength right out of you. I think every person has been in a situation where they've either experienced for themselves or witnessed a friend going through their own personal misery and in turn you become miserable because of how utterly, as well as pathetically "happy" he/she is, which makes you either want to puke, slap them around in order to get it together, or punch him/her in the face.
Without a doubt, love can be emotionally draining to your system as you can go through so many highs and lows within your own heart to where it hurts to even breathe. It's a sad situation indeed to see someone you know and/or care about become an emotional wreck/mess over a guy/girl who one is either interested in, in love with, or had their heart broken by him/her all-the-while being the supportive friend comforting that person during their lowest point. Yet, as you comfort him/her you find yourself somewhat disconnected because of how the person is acting as love has caused the loss of control of their own emotional faculties. What love has effectively done is turn him/her into a shell of one's former self leaving in its place a sad, weak-willed, depressed individual.
For the question can be asked, do you believe love can cause a clear and rational normal human being to become insane? I believe so because under normal circumstances a rational person knows exactly what they're doing but when love is involved you do certain things that just don't make any sense at all. A rational person wouldn't call someone to talk hours on end when he/she just got done spending time all day with him/her. A rational person doesn't play who hangs up first and waits in silence if he/she is going to hang up before you do. A rational person wouldn't fly/drive across the U.S. or world for that matter to see someone who may not feel the same way as you do. It's these irrational aspects of love that just leave you dumbfounded as to how much of the population needs psychiatric help.
In retrospect, it's a sad state of affairs on how love is no longer what it used to be as forever has now become a few months/years. You come to a point where you scratch your head on the many reasons why men and women can't seem to make it work with each other that you find yourself tearing your own hair out because you see the answer clear as day but they unfortunately don't. It's because of this that I've become a cynic when it pertains to matters of the heart and part of me doesn't want to experience the physical, emotional, and mental torture of what love can do. Ultimately, what it comes down to is being a glutton for punishment for something so stupid you're willing to be a totally insane, depressed, irrational individual in which the other part of me says...count me in.
If you think about it, love does more harm than good as you start out a moderately happy person but as time goes on you become absolutely miserable. Miserable in the sense you can't function the way you normally do as eating, sleeping work, etc. are considerably affecting you in such a physical way to the point where it progressively saps the strength right out of you. I think every person has been in a situation where they've either experienced for themselves or witnessed a friend going through their own personal misery and in turn you become miserable because of how utterly, as well as pathetically "happy" he/she is, which makes you either want to puke, slap them around in order to get it together, or punch him/her in the face.
Without a doubt, love can be emotionally draining to your system as you can go through so many highs and lows within your own heart to where it hurts to even breathe. It's a sad situation indeed to see someone you know and/or care about become an emotional wreck/mess over a guy/girl who one is either interested in, in love with, or had their heart broken by him/her all-the-while being the supportive friend comforting that person during their lowest point. Yet, as you comfort him/her you find yourself somewhat disconnected because of how the person is acting as love has caused the loss of control of their own emotional faculties. What love has effectively done is turn him/her into a shell of one's former self leaving in its place a sad, weak-willed, depressed individual.
For the question can be asked, do you believe love can cause a clear and rational normal human being to become insane? I believe so because under normal circumstances a rational person knows exactly what they're doing but when love is involved you do certain things that just don't make any sense at all. A rational person wouldn't call someone to talk hours on end when he/she just got done spending time all day with him/her. A rational person doesn't play who hangs up first and waits in silence if he/she is going to hang up before you do. A rational person wouldn't fly/drive across the U.S. or world for that matter to see someone who may not feel the same way as you do. It's these irrational aspects of love that just leave you dumbfounded as to how much of the population needs psychiatric help.
In retrospect, it's a sad state of affairs on how love is no longer what it used to be as forever has now become a few months/years. You come to a point where you scratch your head on the many reasons why men and women can't seem to make it work with each other that you find yourself tearing your own hair out because you see the answer clear as day but they unfortunately don't. It's because of this that I've become a cynic when it pertains to matters of the heart and part of me doesn't want to experience the physical, emotional, and mental torture of what love can do. Ultimately, what it comes down to is being a glutton for punishment for something so stupid you're willing to be a totally insane, depressed, irrational individual in which the other part of me says...count me in.
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