Leon Trotsky once said, ~Life is not any easy matter...You cannot live through it without falling into frustration and cynicism unless you have before you a great idea which raises you above personal misery, above weakness, and above all kinds of perfidy and bareness.~ Without a doubt, life is most definitely hard as each of us go on about our daily lives facing seemingly tough situations all-the-while trying to exude a smile on our face, especially when one of those situations pertains to matters of the heart. You see, when it comes to love you don't necessarily want to have a cynical attitude towards it, but you can't help it due to one's own personal experiences, as well as, the surrounding elements that can truly factor into one's ever growing apathetic outlook.
Let me ask you this question to the single people of the world, how many of you have a parent who "encourages" you to meet someone new and in their own words "make friends" with him/her? As a guy who has been in this particular situation many times you can essentially be cynical at the fact your own mother is not so much pushing you to meet a woman, its the way she goes about it that leads you to give that oh here we again look on your face. For its a frustrating situation indeed to continually look at the person who gave birth to you 31 years ago and politely tell her with as much unenthusiastic enthusiasm to quit with the obvious Jedi mind trick she's trying to pull, which has been quite unsuccessful up to this point and time.
If you think about it, you can't help but be a cynic when it comes to love because you hear by word of mouth or see on television relationships faltering from acts of infidelity or should I say just plan sheer stupidity. I think we can all agree reality type dating shows such as The Bachelor and much of Hollywood give you a glimpse into the absolute dysfunction of what their misguided view on love is. You can't help but laugh at the complete absurdity at the lengths people go in order to be the quintessential last person standing to win the heart of someone like Flavor Flave only to break up months later because things just didn't quite work out. I wonder why that is? What it primarily comes down to is not about love as it more about the love of exposure, getting your name/face out there, and most all ratings.
Personally speaking, I've crossed over to the darkside and have fully embraced my sarcastic, cynical side. However, I am in no way saying that I dislike/despise/hate women because the fact of the matter is I like them a lot. My cynicism simply comes from a combination of past disappointments and talking to female friends of mine who are always complaining that they can never meet any decent guys who know what they exactly want in a relationship. As much as I wanted to tap them on the shoulder and point a bright neon sign directly at me I held back to be the friend who assures them they'll meet him someday. Let me tell you something ladies, you don't have to look far to meet one of those guys who knows what he wants because I am one of those guys.
In retrospect, every person has the capacity to embrace their inner cynic and it can become a battle within ourselves in believing that one of the most important things in a loving relationship is built on trust. Yet, it's trust that tends to get broken from guys, as well as girls who cheat on the one's they supposedly love leaving a person like myself questioning whether or not being in a relationship is worth it. As said before I've crossed over into the darkside and fully embraced my sarcastic, cynical side, but there's a small part of me that still clings to a bit of optimism. In the end, there comes a point where some of you may one day embrace or already have embraced the sarcastic, cynical side to the point where you too throw your hands in the air and just say what's the point.
Friday, September 19, 2008
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Picture Perfect
Someone once said, ~Love is like a painting. In the beginning its only an idea, but over time it is built up through errors and correction till you have a breathtaking work of art for all to see.~ If you think about it, when it comes to the art of love each of us, in some aspect, can be considered artists who have the ability to in all intensive purposes paint an absolute beautiful masterpiece. However, for a masterpiece to develop you have to start off with a blank canvas that is a representation of the infinite possibilities of what can be created with another person using together your hearts as the proverbial paintbrushes. Yet, the question remains what possible style will be produced for others to see...Expressionism, Abstract Expressionism, or Romanticism?
Without a doubt, the possible style of Expressionism can show forth in the process of painting together a portrait that speaks to you. It's in this particular style the artist seeks the subjective emotional responses that are felt or being felt such as the style of Pablo Picasso, who expressed in his work during his Blue Period. For it was during his Blue Period that he depicted scenes of sadness, misery, anguish, loneliness, etc. and within those scenes you can most definitely have an emotional connection as it relates to your relationship situation. Thinking about it though, those same emotions mentioned above can leave you in a depressive state, but at the same time it's part of what makes a love a strong, expressive artform.
Oftentimes, the portrait being painted can at times leave not only you scratching your head, but also others scratching their head as well. It's the style of Abstract Expressionism in which two people can have that Jackson Pollock mentality where it's all about energy, abstract shapes, and the colors are highly visible to the eye. In other words, the relationship is just one big confusing mess and every person at least knows someone or is that someone to where you have no idea what to make of the relationship. It's that type of relationship, where you don't know where you stand with that particular guy or girl leaving you squinting your eyes and trying to see something within that painting that you can hopefully recognize.
Let me ask you this question to those in a potential and/or significant relationship, is the style you're possibly painting together one of Romanticism? When I say Romanticism, I'm referring to the style of an artist like John Constable where the emphasis is on the beauty of nature God created. Those scenes of nature in all its wondrous glory depict a sense of peaceful, serene calmness that can simply put you, as well as, the one you love in a comfortable sense of ease essentially showing the quality of God's everlasting presence. Let me tell you something, that is the type of portrait every couple wants to create as they put their paint brushes in God's hands, whereby bringing a peaceful, serene, calmness in each other.
Voltaire said, ~Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.~ In retrospect, when it comes to love its about time and patience as you create something with someone that when you both stand back to look at it you both are seeing the same message being communicated. It's a sad situation indeed when one person sees one thing while the other sees something totally differently leading to a painting that doesn't give off the right impression, so to speak. Ultimately, it's just a matter of experimenting with the right tools in hand and not being afraid to make mistakes that help in the creative process. In the end, I say to those who are working hard together in correcting the mistakes in painting a masterpiece I hope it turns out for both of you picture perfect.
Without a doubt, the possible style of Expressionism can show forth in the process of painting together a portrait that speaks to you. It's in this particular style the artist seeks the subjective emotional responses that are felt or being felt such as the style of Pablo Picasso, who expressed in his work during his Blue Period. For it was during his Blue Period that he depicted scenes of sadness, misery, anguish, loneliness, etc. and within those scenes you can most definitely have an emotional connection as it relates to your relationship situation. Thinking about it though, those same emotions mentioned above can leave you in a depressive state, but at the same time it's part of what makes a love a strong, expressive artform.
Oftentimes, the portrait being painted can at times leave not only you scratching your head, but also others scratching their head as well. It's the style of Abstract Expressionism in which two people can have that Jackson Pollock mentality where it's all about energy, abstract shapes, and the colors are highly visible to the eye. In other words, the relationship is just one big confusing mess and every person at least knows someone or is that someone to where you have no idea what to make of the relationship. It's that type of relationship, where you don't know where you stand with that particular guy or girl leaving you squinting your eyes and trying to see something within that painting that you can hopefully recognize.
Let me ask you this question to those in a potential and/or significant relationship, is the style you're possibly painting together one of Romanticism? When I say Romanticism, I'm referring to the style of an artist like John Constable where the emphasis is on the beauty of nature God created. Those scenes of nature in all its wondrous glory depict a sense of peaceful, serene calmness that can simply put you, as well as, the one you love in a comfortable sense of ease essentially showing the quality of God's everlasting presence. Let me tell you something, that is the type of portrait every couple wants to create as they put their paint brushes in God's hands, whereby bringing a peaceful, serene, calmness in each other.
Voltaire said, ~Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.~ In retrospect, when it comes to love its about time and patience as you create something with someone that when you both stand back to look at it you both are seeing the same message being communicated. It's a sad situation indeed when one person sees one thing while the other sees something totally differently leading to a painting that doesn't give off the right impression, so to speak. Ultimately, it's just a matter of experimenting with the right tools in hand and not being afraid to make mistakes that help in the creative process. In the end, I say to those who are working hard together in correcting the mistakes in painting a masterpiece I hope it turns out for both of you picture perfect.
Saturday, September 06, 2008
Handle With Care
Joseph G. Holland once said, ~The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman's heart.~ Without a doubt, a woman giving her heart freely to a man is considered something truly special as she trusts him to treat it as if it were, in some aspect, an absolute treasure. A treasure in which there isn't a cash value attached to it because no amount of money can ever equal something so priceless within a woman's heart. Thinking about it, it's within the so-called treasure chest that is her heart there lies vast amounts of wealth that are highly valuable and it's not the type of wealth you spend or put in a vault. For the wealth I'm speaking of consists of trust, communication, love, intimacy, security, tolerance, forgiveness, tenderness, compassion, patience, caring, understanding, respect, and so much more.
Let me ask you this question ladies, when it comes to a bad past relationship or relationships for that matter how many of you believe the treasure within your heart has lost its luster/sparkle because of the way a particular guy treated the considerably valuable contents inside? Its a sad situation indeed when a guy is fortunate enough or should I say lucky enough to hold in his hands the heart of a woman and yet makes the mistake of tarnishing it for one's own personal gain. You see, the times a woman's heart is broken brings her to a point where it's essentially hard to establish the issue of trust, which can quite possibly lead or had already led to the loss of the bright, shiney glow exuded from the heart leading it to be replaced by the unfortunate dark smudges of bitterness, as well as, scratch marks of anger/utter contempt.
If you think about it, the untold riches that are in a woman's heart and are placed in a particular guy's hands by her he can be at times be greedy to where he doesn't share the most amazing person he has in his life with others. Why? Looking at it from a guy's perspective, its that innate desire to not only to keep what is now his all to himself, but also spend time simply being in awe of what he has in his possession. That innate desire can become a complete obsession leading the guy to turn into a jealous, paranoid, fearful, schizophrenic individual somewhat like the character Smeagol from the movie Lord of the Rings who referred to what he desired as his precious. What I'm trying to say is when it comes to the precious that is a woman's heart its not something you possess for yourself, but rather cherish and nurture so others may experience the wealth inside as well.
As I've said before in a previous Yodaism, security is one of the many things women are looking for from a guy as she wants that assurance from him that her heart is always going to be well protected. I think many women would agree it's hard to open their heart after experiencing times of frustration, disappointment, heartbreak, confusion, etc. to where they guard their heart and put a protective wall in order to not have a crown jewel such as respect be taken away from them by a guy who somehow slipped past their internal security sensors. Whether it's happened once, twice, or many times over, a woman just has to learn from those past experiences all-the-while not letting herself become too vulnerable giving another possible thief, in a manner of speaking, the opportunity to take the one thing that above all else hopefully continues to remain secure...her dignity.
Lamar Cole once said, ~Being rich in love can be more lasting and fulfilling than being rich in material possessions.~ In retrospect, a man is truly rich when a woman gives her heart to him giving him a better reason to live. However, a man can in all intents and purposes go bankrupt if he doesn't properly invest his time to make a woman feel happy and loved instead of feeling as if all her assets in her heart are absolutely worthless. A woman's heart can be absolutely fragile like glass and depending how a guy deals with certain relationship situations can very well either lead to having it easily shatter into a million pieces in his hands leading him to let slip through his fingers all the valuable contents within. In the end, when it comes to love a man has to handle with care matters of the heart with patience and deep understanding or he'll end up losing it all.
Let me ask you this question ladies, when it comes to a bad past relationship or relationships for that matter how many of you believe the treasure within your heart has lost its luster/sparkle because of the way a particular guy treated the considerably valuable contents inside? Its a sad situation indeed when a guy is fortunate enough or should I say lucky enough to hold in his hands the heart of a woman and yet makes the mistake of tarnishing it for one's own personal gain. You see, the times a woman's heart is broken brings her to a point where it's essentially hard to establish the issue of trust, which can quite possibly lead or had already led to the loss of the bright, shiney glow exuded from the heart leading it to be replaced by the unfortunate dark smudges of bitterness, as well as, scratch marks of anger/utter contempt.
If you think about it, the untold riches that are in a woman's heart and are placed in a particular guy's hands by her he can be at times be greedy to where he doesn't share the most amazing person he has in his life with others. Why? Looking at it from a guy's perspective, its that innate desire to not only to keep what is now his all to himself, but also spend time simply being in awe of what he has in his possession. That innate desire can become a complete obsession leading the guy to turn into a jealous, paranoid, fearful, schizophrenic individual somewhat like the character Smeagol from the movie Lord of the Rings who referred to what he desired as his precious. What I'm trying to say is when it comes to the precious that is a woman's heart its not something you possess for yourself, but rather cherish and nurture so others may experience the wealth inside as well.
As I've said before in a previous Yodaism, security is one of the many things women are looking for from a guy as she wants that assurance from him that her heart is always going to be well protected. I think many women would agree it's hard to open their heart after experiencing times of frustration, disappointment, heartbreak, confusion, etc. to where they guard their heart and put a protective wall in order to not have a crown jewel such as respect be taken away from them by a guy who somehow slipped past their internal security sensors. Whether it's happened once, twice, or many times over, a woman just has to learn from those past experiences all-the-while not letting herself become too vulnerable giving another possible thief, in a manner of speaking, the opportunity to take the one thing that above all else hopefully continues to remain secure...her dignity.
Lamar Cole once said, ~Being rich in love can be more lasting and fulfilling than being rich in material possessions.~ In retrospect, a man is truly rich when a woman gives her heart to him giving him a better reason to live. However, a man can in all intents and purposes go bankrupt if he doesn't properly invest his time to make a woman feel happy and loved instead of feeling as if all her assets in her heart are absolutely worthless. A woman's heart can be absolutely fragile like glass and depending how a guy deals with certain relationship situations can very well either lead to having it easily shatter into a million pieces in his hands leading him to let slip through his fingers all the valuable contents within. In the end, when it comes to love a man has to handle with care matters of the heart with patience and deep understanding or he'll end up losing it all.
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