Someone once said, ~Love is trust and contentment. To trust in the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. To be able to sit happily in silence with that person. The ability to be yourself around that person, no airs and graces. To be accepted for who you are. To feel warmth when you lay next to each other. To not have desire for anyone else.~ Let me ask you this question to those who are in a significant relationship, are you content with the person you're with? The reason I'm asking is because there are guys/girls out there who aren't content with who one has in their life leading him/her to break the trust that has been established. You see, the type of contentment I'm speaking of is one in which you're truly satisfied within your heart and no longer have a yearning/craving to want something more with someone else.
Without a doubt, being able to have someone in your life who you not only trust, but also makes you feel absolutely content in every sense of the way is something each one of us wants to have. For it's the certain special someone who permanently rather than temporarily fills your heart with warmth of appreciation, admiration, joy, gladness, happiness, respect, laughter, friendship, excitement, love, etc. to the point you're always seen with a smile on your face. Essentially, it's these particular attributes/qualities mentioned above that can most definitely be experienced in times of peacefulness shared together. Curled up on the couch doing a crossword puzzle, reading a book, sitting outside on the porch looking up at the stars, or simply taking a nap together are considered to be moments of contentful bliss for two people.
As said before, guys and girls seemingly can't quite get a good grasp on truly being content these days when it comes to being in a relationship because when you get right down to it one word best describes these kinds of people...greedy. If you think about it, they have the greatest person in their life standing in front of them and yet he or she throws it all away because of their craving for more. More of what you might be asking yourself? Oftentimes, it's the thrilling excitement that tends to be in that particular person's mind totally unfulfilling as their lustful desire takes over causing him/her to look elsewhere in order to have their mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical need met by someone else. What it basically comes down to is that innate self gratification for personal gain that will constantly leave a person empty both in their heart and soul.
For the question can be asked again to those in a significant relationship, does your husband/wife/bf/gf accept you for who you are and vice versa? Thinking about it, to be content in a relationship you fully accept the quirks, habits, eccentricities, of the one you love even though they can be at times embarrassing. I think many wives/gf can agree there are certain things their husbands/bf do that have them give "The Look" like making strange sounds/sound effects, singing, dancing, eating, or simply call it...being a guy. Hey, we all have our own quirks/habits/eccentricities that can not only get some strange/weird looks, but also can get under one's skin. However, it's those same quirks that you learn to live with and eventually fall in love with maybe not right away because keep this in mind it's the things that generally annoy you that you will miss the most.
Lin Yu-t'ang said, ~The secret of contentment is knowing how to enjoy what you have, and to be able to lose all desire for things beyond your reach." In retrospect, it’s all about having gratitude as you give thanks to God as he forever opens your eyes to someone you genuinely enjoy being around as you laugh, talk, and possibly sit quietly together doing absolutely nothing all-the-while slowly letting your guard down. It's just a matter of getting out of that 'I want more' mindset and getting into the mindset of 'I have more than enough.' Once you do that everything primarily falls into place to where you have this sense of relief because there weren't any expectations to live up to. In the end, always reaching for more in a relationship can always leave you feeling empty inside with a bitter aftertaste, but if you just enjoy the relationship for what it's worth without making it complicated then my friend its sweet satisfaction.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Take Me There
Someone once said, ~Life is a journey and love is what makes that journey worthwhile.~ Without a doubt, when it comes to love you're in a sense traveling a long and winding road within your heart as you're taken to areas/places that you've not only may have been before, but also takes you to areas/places where it's difficult to drive down, so to speak, because of how closed/guarded off that particular section of your heart is. For its the difficult, closed off/hidden sections of the heart are considered roads less traveled for those who would rather take the easier way in establishing a relationship with a certain someone instead of taking the harder, scarier way. Essentially, it's by going down the proverbial back roads within a person's heart you get a sense of truly knowing him/her personally, mentally, and/or emotionally.
As said before, a person who is able to go down the proverbial back roads of someone's heart shows there is a genuine interest in getting to know him or her on a more personal level, especially when it involves their adolescent years. It can most definitely be difficult at times to open up and revisit the road of your youth as a guy or girl asks questions concerning your past that may possibly lead him/her to a possible future into your heart. Such questions are: Who was your first real kiss? Who was your first true love? Where did you grow up? Who were you friends with? Did you have a place growing up that was considered your safe haven to just get away from the world? You see, it's these particular questions and others like it that you're inevitably heading in the right direction instead of the wrong one.
If you think about it, part of what makes journeying the back roads of the human heart so thrilling and yet scary at the same time is being able to have him or her share their thoughts with you. Thoughts that can weigh heavily on his or her mind to the point where the mental journey starts off smoothly but gradually turns rough and rugged like your driving on a gravely road. Oftentimes, you have to endure being hit by those rocks of fear, doubt, skepticism, etc. that person of interest is metaphorically kicking up because love is primarily about trying to understand as to why he/she is thinking that way, which is a tough situation indeed. What it comes down to is not turning around/bailing out when he/she is mentally putting himself/herself out there because the road conditions were just either too harsh, treacherous, and/or dangerous.
Let me ask you this question, is there someone you were close to in your life that may or may not have passed away and when you think about him/her you get emotional to where tears are shed? Husband, wife, mother, father, sister, brother, best friend, son, daughter, grandmother, and/or grandfather are people who have a special place in your heart and it's a place that not too many people rarely visit. Why? The simple answer is that nobody bothers to because there are times when establishing a relationship where you can become focused more on the person rather than the people behind the person. Let me tell you something, you can really appreciate a guy or girl who takes the turn into an area of your heart that is heavily protected and is able to handle a touching, heartfelt subject matter as losing a family member with such delicate ease you grow closer to each other.
In retrospect, the road of love is never an easy one as you can in all intents and purposes find yourself driving the same path all over again. It can be absolutely frustrating not being able to locate the right road within your heart that leads to true happiness and yet it's there as it's a matter of meeting someone along your journey who unknowingly takes you off the beaten path. In other words, you as the driver/passenger just enjoy the ride with the guy/girl without having to worry about flirting, if there is any kind of attraction, or whatever the case may be. Women, more often than not, want a guy who takes the time to travel every road, both seen and unseen, within their heart giving them the opportunity to finally be on the path they've always wanted to be on. In the end, as a guy you let the woman drive you around her heart and when a turnoff or back road presents itself you ask her can you take me there, which is a song by People's Choice Awards Favorite Group of 2008 Rascal Flatts.
As said before, a person who is able to go down the proverbial back roads of someone's heart shows there is a genuine interest in getting to know him or her on a more personal level, especially when it involves their adolescent years. It can most definitely be difficult at times to open up and revisit the road of your youth as a guy or girl asks questions concerning your past that may possibly lead him/her to a possible future into your heart. Such questions are: Who was your first real kiss? Who was your first true love? Where did you grow up? Who were you friends with? Did you have a place growing up that was considered your safe haven to just get away from the world? You see, it's these particular questions and others like it that you're inevitably heading in the right direction instead of the wrong one.
If you think about it, part of what makes journeying the back roads of the human heart so thrilling and yet scary at the same time is being able to have him or her share their thoughts with you. Thoughts that can weigh heavily on his or her mind to the point where the mental journey starts off smoothly but gradually turns rough and rugged like your driving on a gravely road. Oftentimes, you have to endure being hit by those rocks of fear, doubt, skepticism, etc. that person of interest is metaphorically kicking up because love is primarily about trying to understand as to why he/she is thinking that way, which is a tough situation indeed. What it comes down to is not turning around/bailing out when he/she is mentally putting himself/herself out there because the road conditions were just either too harsh, treacherous, and/or dangerous.
Let me ask you this question, is there someone you were close to in your life that may or may not have passed away and when you think about him/her you get emotional to where tears are shed? Husband, wife, mother, father, sister, brother, best friend, son, daughter, grandmother, and/or grandfather are people who have a special place in your heart and it's a place that not too many people rarely visit. Why? The simple answer is that nobody bothers to because there are times when establishing a relationship where you can become focused more on the person rather than the people behind the person. Let me tell you something, you can really appreciate a guy or girl who takes the turn into an area of your heart that is heavily protected and is able to handle a touching, heartfelt subject matter as losing a family member with such delicate ease you grow closer to each other.
In retrospect, the road of love is never an easy one as you can in all intents and purposes find yourself driving the same path all over again. It can be absolutely frustrating not being able to locate the right road within your heart that leads to true happiness and yet it's there as it's a matter of meeting someone along your journey who unknowingly takes you off the beaten path. In other words, you as the driver/passenger just enjoy the ride with the guy/girl without having to worry about flirting, if there is any kind of attraction, or whatever the case may be. Women, more often than not, want a guy who takes the time to travel every road, both seen and unseen, within their heart giving them the opportunity to finally be on the path they've always wanted to be on. In the end, as a guy you let the woman drive you around her heart and when a turnoff or back road presents itself you ask her can you take me there, which is a song by People's Choice Awards Favorite Group of 2008 Rascal Flatts.
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