Charles Dudley Warren once said, ~One of the best things in the world to be in a boy; it requires no experience, but needs some practice to be a good one.~ Boys will be boys, It's a saying that seemingly is used when there is no other logical explanation or reasoning as to the sheer acts of random stupidity and/or mischievousness boys will get themselves into, which was/still is considered to be the best part of any young man's adolescent childhood. For its those random acts of sheer stupidity and/or mischievousness that were done/experienced in the past are still remembered today as if it just happened yesterday to the point where we share stories, as well as, the possible scars of our exploits deeming them to be badges of honor in the so called battlefield of life.
Without a doubt, one of the things we as young boys tend to do on occasion is fight, especially if you grew up with mainly brothers. Whether you were older, younger, or the middle child it basically became a game of survival where horsing around with each other turns into an all out WWE battle royal anything goes type wrestling match. If you ask any guy what they most enjoyed doing when wrestling with their brother(s) it would most definitely be jumping off something high such as a dresser and channeling your inner Jimmy "Superfly" Snuka or Jeff Hardy for the younger generation to splash on whoever was on the bed/floor. Let me tell you something, despite suffering a bloody nose and possibly broken body parts it was absolutely worthwhile.
As said before, jumping off something high is a characteristic that is essentially ingrained in our DNA because quite frankly when you're a young boy you have this mindset that you're absolutely invincible. It's the daredevil mentality that immediately kicks in at around age 5 or younger leading us to do totally ridiculous things such as tying a towel around your neck, climbing up on your couch, home entertainment system, stairs, and then jump off thinking you can fly like Superman only to fall flat on your face. Did we get hurt from it? Maybe. Did we cry? Possibly. Did we get punished for doing it? Yes. Did we learn anything afterwards? Absolutely not. Why? What it comes down to is an innate drive to keep trying until we either kill ourselves or eventually get bored trying.
Growing up in the 80's and the early 90's the crazy sport back in the day was BMX biking and although guys like myself couldn't perform death defying moves done on professionally built ramps we tried to the best of our ability with the next best thing...stuff lying around the backyard. Thinking about it, you put your own life in your hands or in the hands of your friends building something that’s not structurally sound, you either experience the thrilling victory of a successful landing or the agony of defeat by completely wiping out suffering a plethora of injuries like landing wrong on to your family jewels. Hey, you worked with what you got and sometimes it wasn't much as a wide piece of plywood propped up by blocks of wood or several bricks gave you a little bit of air time as you felt somewhat like a pro.
In retrospect, I may be prejudiced in saying that it's better being a boy as it is to be a girl and for many of you girls out there you may disagree. In any case, when you're a young boy you have the freedom to act/be mildly retarded which is perfectly acceptable among the male species whereas a girl you're expected to act ladylike with a certain amount of decorum. Girls, you can have your tea parties, sleepovers, dress up in costumes, play with my little pony, strawberry shortcake, create endless lists that make no sense whatsoever, and other girl related stuff. As for us, we'll stick with our g.i. joes, transformers, playing king of the mountain, staying up until 2 am beating a certain level on a video game, and much more. In the end, 4 words come to mind that best sum up this whole thought...boys rule, girls drool.
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Thursday, February 14, 2008
A Sense of Wonder
Helen Keller once said, ~The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched. They must be felt with the heart.~ In some aspect, a person can be considered blind when it comes to love inevitably leaving him/her in a state of perpetual darkness, so to speak. For it's not so much a literal blindness that I'm speaking of as its more metaphorical where one has this perception that love is something completely tangible to the point where you have the capability of always being able to see, hear, smell, touch, and/or even taste it, which is a deluded mindset. Oftentimes, relying on your five senses to in all intensive purposes be in tune with love can lead to false assumptions. You see, all it ever takes is just an open heart that will essentially help you see clear as day.
Let me ask you this question, have you ever been blindfolded and had someone take you by the hand leading you to a particular destination all-the-while trying to keep you safe? It would be safe to say we've all experienced it and I think many would agree it's a scary situation indeed because you're not only unaware of your surroundings, but you basically put your life in the hands of someone who may or may not have the best of intentions for you. If you think about it, that is how love is as you close your eyes to the visual distractions that are all around you as you put your trust in someone you don't even know to gently guide you with care and attention, which is something many women want when it comes to matters of the heart.
As said before, the best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched; they must be felt with the heart. Without a doubt, things such as security, trust, commitment, loyalty, respect, honor, etc. are aspects of love that can't be seen, and yet you know it exists. However, it's a sad and frustrating situation when bad past relationships cause you to be blinded by anger, bitterness, resentment, disappointment, heartache, etc. leaving you in some ways just instinctively feeling your way through within your own heart. What it comes down to is having faith in that person to help truly open your eyes and show you that love has a much deeper meaning than just the look of their appearance, the sound of their voice, the smell of their scent, the touch of their embrace, or the taste of their kiss.
For the question can be asked, how many considered yourself to be blind and trusted solely on your five senses to build a relationship with someone in the past? For its a so called "condition" every person has suffered or is currently suffering from and to be perfectly honest you can't help it because certain things can influence in what you "see" in a guy or girl like the way one smiles or how he/she looks at you causing a brain fart that seemingly last for a long period of time. Ultimately, there comes a point where instead of seeing someone in a lustful way, you'll begin to "see" him/her in a way in which you're genuinely understanding the person who is leading you by the hand and at the same time giving you the chance to feel with your heart rather than to have it be abused.
Today is Valentine's Day and for most, some, or all people they tend to be blinded by the memories of past heartbreak leaving them to see red, which is a color associated more with anger than with love. If you think about it, Valentine's Day gives you the opportunity to find the innocence that tends to be lost these days as there is so much commercialism behind it that quite honestly its as if the love you have for a potential and/or significant other is measured by how much money you can spend on him/her...but I digress. In the end, I say this to those who have experienced the ugly side of love causing you to be visually impaired within your heart; I hope the twinkle in your eyes returns as you're able to truly regain a sense of wonder that you've either lost or have been missing for quite some time.
Let me ask you this question, have you ever been blindfolded and had someone take you by the hand leading you to a particular destination all-the-while trying to keep you safe? It would be safe to say we've all experienced it and I think many would agree it's a scary situation indeed because you're not only unaware of your surroundings, but you basically put your life in the hands of someone who may or may not have the best of intentions for you. If you think about it, that is how love is as you close your eyes to the visual distractions that are all around you as you put your trust in someone you don't even know to gently guide you with care and attention, which is something many women want when it comes to matters of the heart.
As said before, the best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched; they must be felt with the heart. Without a doubt, things such as security, trust, commitment, loyalty, respect, honor, etc. are aspects of love that can't be seen, and yet you know it exists. However, it's a sad and frustrating situation when bad past relationships cause you to be blinded by anger, bitterness, resentment, disappointment, heartache, etc. leaving you in some ways just instinctively feeling your way through within your own heart. What it comes down to is having faith in that person to help truly open your eyes and show you that love has a much deeper meaning than just the look of their appearance, the sound of their voice, the smell of their scent, the touch of their embrace, or the taste of their kiss.
For the question can be asked, how many considered yourself to be blind and trusted solely on your five senses to build a relationship with someone in the past? For its a so called "condition" every person has suffered or is currently suffering from and to be perfectly honest you can't help it because certain things can influence in what you "see" in a guy or girl like the way one smiles or how he/she looks at you causing a brain fart that seemingly last for a long period of time. Ultimately, there comes a point where instead of seeing someone in a lustful way, you'll begin to "see" him/her in a way in which you're genuinely understanding the person who is leading you by the hand and at the same time giving you the chance to feel with your heart rather than to have it be abused.
Today is Valentine's Day and for most, some, or all people they tend to be blinded by the memories of past heartbreak leaving them to see red, which is a color associated more with anger than with love. If you think about it, Valentine's Day gives you the opportunity to find the innocence that tends to be lost these days as there is so much commercialism behind it that quite honestly its as if the love you have for a potential and/or significant other is measured by how much money you can spend on him/her...but I digress. In the end, I say this to those who have experienced the ugly side of love causing you to be visually impaired within your heart; I hope the twinkle in your eyes returns as you're able to truly regain a sense of wonder that you've either lost or have been missing for quite some time.
Saturday, February 09, 2008
Realize
Someone once said, ~Love is a strange thing. Not even a thing perhaps. One moment its there, next its gone. Sometimes bringing tears, sometimes a smile. Most times a soft funny feeling in the pit of your stomach. Love is not an object, but a feeling. Not touched, only felt. Those lucky few, who in their lifetime get to know its touch very well are a truly lucky few. Love is a blessing. The realization that you have fallen in love is the strangest emotion to ever overcome a human soul bringing such happiness that cannot be drowned in any kind of sorrow. Remember those whom you have loved even if in the end you lost. True love knows no limit, it is forever, always.~ Let me ask you this question to those in a significant relationship, how long did it take for you to come to your senses knowing your other half was absolutely "the one" for you?
Without a doubt, it's never easy to know exactly the feelings that are stirring within your heart for a particular person in which it causes you to go through high and lows. For the thoughts, feelings, as well as, emotions associated with those highs and lows can most definitely be there one minute, then gone the next to the point where you're affected in such a way by their genuine warmth that you don't have any idea what your feeling causing you to be slowly weighed down by all the emotions that are metaphorically crashing on top of you, in a manner of speaking. It's a tough situation indeed to be in that position as you deal with figuring out if what your personally experiencing is simply just a passing fancy or something more, which can essentially lead you to lose your sanity from constantly thinking about it.
If you think about it, there are certain questions that tend to run through your mind when it comes to a point in the relationship where you no longer wonder/doubt as to whether or not he/she is the one for you. Such questions that come to mind are: Has he/she been there to stand up and defend you when you're being slammed? Has he/she been there for you to be a proverbial sounding board to not only share your personal issues, but also give feedback that hopefully helps resolve the particular situation at hand? Has he/she been understanding to those particular seemingly sensitive issues even though he/she may not truly understand entirely, but is willing to. You see, if those questions and many more like it are answered with a resounding yes then it doesn't take a slap upside the head or your friends to spell it out for you to know you have something special going on.
For the questions can be asked to those in a significant relationship once again, have you ever been in a situation where a fight made you come to your senses? It would be safe to say there are couples out there who have had their tiffs/squabbles leading to both of them to in all intents and purposes "take a break" in the relationship in order to gauge if it's better to part ways or stay together. Thinking about it, it's when he/she temporarily steps out of the picture your friends step in to at least try to take your mind off things so you can have fun and let loose. Whether it's playing cards with "the boys' who talk about how relationships are just a way to trap you or going dancing with "the girls" at a club who want you or should I say push you to hook up with a random guy, which is oftentimes a way to put things into perspective as you stand back and see a life that you don't want to be in anymore.
In retrospect, there is an old saying that goes' you don’t know what you’ve got 'till it’s gone, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Love is never easy or ever really the same for that matter as it can become so complicated that when one person wants to move forward, the other person moves backwards causing frustration. Hey, it's part of what love/true love is all about as you have to meet each other in the middle and then start working from there. Ultimately, every person has this mindset that there is someone out there who is perfect for them and is not like the same old guys/girl who'll end up causing you utter break. In the end, for those who are in a significant relationship I say to you I hope you realize you have a good thing going because you will never find another person like him/her, which is a song by Colbie Caillat that reflects this thought.
Without a doubt, it's never easy to know exactly the feelings that are stirring within your heart for a particular person in which it causes you to go through high and lows. For the thoughts, feelings, as well as, emotions associated with those highs and lows can most definitely be there one minute, then gone the next to the point where you're affected in such a way by their genuine warmth that you don't have any idea what your feeling causing you to be slowly weighed down by all the emotions that are metaphorically crashing on top of you, in a manner of speaking. It's a tough situation indeed to be in that position as you deal with figuring out if what your personally experiencing is simply just a passing fancy or something more, which can essentially lead you to lose your sanity from constantly thinking about it.
If you think about it, there are certain questions that tend to run through your mind when it comes to a point in the relationship where you no longer wonder/doubt as to whether or not he/she is the one for you. Such questions that come to mind are: Has he/she been there to stand up and defend you when you're being slammed? Has he/she been there for you to be a proverbial sounding board to not only share your personal issues, but also give feedback that hopefully helps resolve the particular situation at hand? Has he/she been understanding to those particular seemingly sensitive issues even though he/she may not truly understand entirely, but is willing to. You see, if those questions and many more like it are answered with a resounding yes then it doesn't take a slap upside the head or your friends to spell it out for you to know you have something special going on.
For the questions can be asked to those in a significant relationship once again, have you ever been in a situation where a fight made you come to your senses? It would be safe to say there are couples out there who have had their tiffs/squabbles leading to both of them to in all intents and purposes "take a break" in the relationship in order to gauge if it's better to part ways or stay together. Thinking about it, it's when he/she temporarily steps out of the picture your friends step in to at least try to take your mind off things so you can have fun and let loose. Whether it's playing cards with "the boys' who talk about how relationships are just a way to trap you or going dancing with "the girls" at a club who want you or should I say push you to hook up with a random guy, which is oftentimes a way to put things into perspective as you stand back and see a life that you don't want to be in anymore.
In retrospect, there is an old saying that goes' you don’t know what you’ve got 'till it’s gone, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Love is never easy or ever really the same for that matter as it can become so complicated that when one person wants to move forward, the other person moves backwards causing frustration. Hey, it's part of what love/true love is all about as you have to meet each other in the middle and then start working from there. Ultimately, every person has this mindset that there is someone out there who is perfect for them and is not like the same old guys/girl who'll end up causing you utter break. In the end, for those who are in a significant relationship I say to you I hope you realize you have a good thing going because you will never find another person like him/her, which is a song by Colbie Caillat that reflects this thought.
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