Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, ~He is who in love is wise and is becoming wiser, sees newly every time he looks at the object beloved drawing from it with his eyes and his mind those virtues which it possesses.~ In some aspect, love is considered one of THE toughest teachers to learn from because you have to suffer some seemingly all-too-familiar mistakes that can leave you feeling embarrassed, stupid, and simply dumbfounded as to what the correct answers are when it comes to matters of the heart. If you think about it, there is an innate wisdom within love that men and women most certainly want to attain to avoid possibly making any kind of mistakes in a potential and/or significant relationship and yet its those same mistakes that you to endure in order to help you in the learning process as you hopefully become personally, as well as, emotionally wise within your heart.
Let me ask you this question to those who consider themselves so called repeat offenders at making the same mistakes of the heart, have you learned anything? Women, more so than guys, tend to place themselves in situations where no matter how many times they thought they've gotten the answer to love or true love for that matter right it turned out to be the wrong one. For each mistake of the heart a woman makes and apologizes ahead of time for saying this lowers the common sense level to the point where if she doesn't wise up she'll be seen as failure in the eyes of love, so to speak. What it comes down to is the sometimes shallow choices made with her eyes in which she supposedly sees all the answers she ever wanted based on the outside, but the end result is usually tears of sadness as they feel disappointed for not being a better student, in a manner of speaking.
Without a doubt, there comes a point where a person encounters so many bad relationship experiences in the past that there are expectations to fail in a future relationship even before it has a chance to even start. It's a sad situation indeed and whether you want to admit it or not you've done it to someone who probably didn't deserve it. In any case, men and women prejudge a particular guy/girl even before he/she opens their mouth, which shows that there is a lack of understanding all the information presented to him/her in the meeting process causing them to miss out on discovering tremendous amounts of knowledge to not just learn from, but also have it initially taught to those who are willing to have their eyes, ears, and mind opened whereby leaving you with a rich, deep, satisfaction within your own heart.
For the question can be asked, how many people believe that love is perfect and that there is someone out there who exudes that same perfection as well? In my opinion, it's a mistake to believe that love is perfect and there is a person who is seen as absolutely perfect because it's these same people who are always looking for the next best thing to come along. In their own minds, they want to continually experience excitement, spontaneity, passion, etc. from him or her and when it starts to disappear the relationship gets boring to where one eventually looks for someone who can fulfill those qualities. Essentially, you just have to appreciate the person you're with, not take him/her for granted, and work hard to make the love you share as close to perfect as you can or you'll end up left behind while those close to/around you exceed ahead of the curve.
In retrospect, we're all students of love and the wisdom it gives is something you don't easily become a master of in an instant. It's just a matter of continually learning and not being frustrated at what love can teach us even though one may think that there is nothing left to learn that they already know, which is a mistake in itself. Hey, that's part of life as mistakes will/are going to be made and it's up to each one of us to be there as a friend, mentor, and teacher for someone who feels like dropping out or about to drop out of the school of love. In the end, for many people they have this mindset that love doesn't give them any chances at all for finding love/true love because of past mistakes that have brutally hurt their heart and yet chances are those past mistakes will truly lead to someone special who will unknowingly help them become wise beyond their years.
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Saturday, July 14, 2007
I'm Too Sexy
Antonio Porchia once said, ~Without the ridiculous vanity that takes the form of self display, and is part of everything and everyone, we would see nothing, and nothing would exist.~ You have to admit that we as a society can consider ourselves to be a vain, narcissistic people to the point where it can either be viewed as extremely funny or annoying. Hey, it's part of our human nature to think highly of ourselves when we feel and look good, giving the opportunity to strut our stuff down the so-called runway of life for others to see. In some aspect though, each of us can have the proverbial Austin powers mentality in which you can exude a seemingly arrogant yet comical confidence towards themselves to where you have the perception of yourself as one sexy beast.
Let me ask you this question, who tends to look in the mirror more times during one given day to check if they still got it going on in their appearance as a whole, men or women? For it can be a difficult question to answer being that both men and women have the capacity to be equally self absorbed when looking at themselves in the mirror, but if I had to make a choice I would say women. Why? Looking at it from an observational standpoint, women tend to check if their hair, make-up, clothes, jewelry, and/or shoes are working to perfection because the fact of the matter is that they want to always be fully prepared for the event of being checked out by a possibly cute, hot, fine, drop dead gorgeous or whatever adjective women describe guys these days.
As said before, guys can be equally narcissistic as women and yet they can be a bit more full of themselves, especially when it pertains to lifting weights that inevitably enhance the upper, as well as, lower part of the body. If you are the type of person who goes to the gym to work out, you'll probably always see those guys not only lifting weights in front of the mirror, but also flexing in front of it was well.You can most definitely be impressed by their hard work and dedication, but too much lifting can cause physical harm, especially if drugs are used such steroids. In any case, it would be safe to say that there are women out there who unfortunately dated these kinds of guys and it may not have worked out because he was more into himself than into the relationship.
For the question can be asked, have you ever in your life referred to yourself or met someone who has referred to himself/herself in the third person? Without a doubt, its a weird, strange, and an absolute unbelievable situation, deeming it what I like to refer to as a wtf moment because you find yourself in the presence of a person who has by far the biggest ego on the entire planet, so to speak. You can never really take a person who calls themselves by their own name such as The Todd seriously unless he is a character in one of the funniest television shows ever Scrubs or a once professional WWE wrestler now turned actor The Rock. Let me tell you something ladies, if you even meet a guy who does simply smile, start backing up, turn around, and immediately run the other way.
Blaise Pascal once said ~Vanity is so secure in the heart of man that everyone wants to be admired: even I who write this, and you who read this.~ In retrospect, nobody is really immune to being a vain, narcissistic person who only thinks about one's self or as I like to call it being Paris Hilton. You see, it takes just one thing or situation to have you go from a humble person to someone you just want to slap upside the head. Hey, we all need an ego boost every now and then, but too much of it can have you not being able to stick your head in the door to enter or leave a room because it's so big, so to speak. In the end, when it comes to being a vain, narcissistic person one tends to think or say these three familiar words out loud...I'm too sexy. It's a song by 80's British Pop group Right Said Fred.
Let me ask you this question, who tends to look in the mirror more times during one given day to check if they still got it going on in their appearance as a whole, men or women? For it can be a difficult question to answer being that both men and women have the capacity to be equally self absorbed when looking at themselves in the mirror, but if I had to make a choice I would say women. Why? Looking at it from an observational standpoint, women tend to check if their hair, make-up, clothes, jewelry, and/or shoes are working to perfection because the fact of the matter is that they want to always be fully prepared for the event of being checked out by a possibly cute, hot, fine, drop dead gorgeous or whatever adjective women describe guys these days.
As said before, guys can be equally narcissistic as women and yet they can be a bit more full of themselves, especially when it pertains to lifting weights that inevitably enhance the upper, as well as, lower part of the body. If you are the type of person who goes to the gym to work out, you'll probably always see those guys not only lifting weights in front of the mirror, but also flexing in front of it was well.You can most definitely be impressed by their hard work and dedication, but too much lifting can cause physical harm, especially if drugs are used such steroids. In any case, it would be safe to say that there are women out there who unfortunately dated these kinds of guys and it may not have worked out because he was more into himself than into the relationship.
For the question can be asked, have you ever in your life referred to yourself or met someone who has referred to himself/herself in the third person? Without a doubt, its a weird, strange, and an absolute unbelievable situation, deeming it what I like to refer to as a wtf moment because you find yourself in the presence of a person who has by far the biggest ego on the entire planet, so to speak. You can never really take a person who calls themselves by their own name such as The Todd seriously unless he is a character in one of the funniest television shows ever Scrubs or a once professional WWE wrestler now turned actor The Rock. Let me tell you something ladies, if you even meet a guy who does simply smile, start backing up, turn around, and immediately run the other way.
Blaise Pascal once said ~Vanity is so secure in the heart of man that everyone wants to be admired: even I who write this, and you who read this.~ In retrospect, nobody is really immune to being a vain, narcissistic person who only thinks about one's self or as I like to call it being Paris Hilton. You see, it takes just one thing or situation to have you go from a humble person to someone you just want to slap upside the head. Hey, we all need an ego boost every now and then, but too much of it can have you not being able to stick your head in the door to enter or leave a room because it's so big, so to speak. In the end, when it comes to being a vain, narcissistic person one tends to think or say these three familiar words out loud...I'm too sexy. It's a song by 80's British Pop group Right Said Fred.
Sunday, July 08, 2007
The Truth Is Out There
Someone once said, ~The truth of love is the truth of the universe: it is the lamp of the soul that reveals the secret of darkness.~ Without a doubt, each of us are in search of a seemingly all important truth that can be considered alien to one's own existence, especially when it pertains to matters of the heart. When it comes to seeking the truth of love from someone truly special you can oftentimes feel as if the information you ever really received from past relationships are a bunch of lies inevitably leading you to metaphorical dead ends within your heart. For there will be situations where the truth leaves you feeling skeptical, but if you truly believe that there is a guy or girl whose heart holds all the answers you've been searching for your entire life then continue investigating, so to speak.
As said before, the truth of love can be considered alien to those who have never been given the chance to not only see it, but also hear it from someone you know you can put your utmost confidence and trust in. However, when your so-called partner betrays the confidence and trust you worked hard to build with him or her over a period of time, it can feel as if the life, as well as, love you have within yourself has all been drained out leaving you absolutely vulnerable. For the highly classified information you once shared with your now former partner may, at some point, be used against you causing you to constantly watch your back or should I say guard your heart to the point where you can become paranoid whenever a potential new partner comes along.
If you think about it, when it comes to seeking the truth you want to associate yourself with good people who will not let you become brainwashed, in a manner of speaking, into thinking you are a complete loser and that what you have been searching for has just been a waste of your time. It's a frustrating situation indeed to be in as you can't help but feel alone fighting a losing battle to reveal the truth of love in which two things are initially brought back to life that were thought to have died or were about to die...hope and faith. In any case, it's these groups of people, who I like to refer to as your very own lone gunmen, encourage you to not let what others may say or try to do deter you from your intended objective and possibly help guide you in the right direction within your heart.
Let me ask you this question, do you believe in any conspiracies like the Apollo moon landing was faked or there was a second gunman when JFK was assassinated are true? The reason I'm asking is because there are times that while in search for the truth of love or true love for that matter you can sometimes feel like there is a conspiracy against you to not ever be able to experience true happiness. In some aspect, the proverbial powers that be want you to continue living the single life because in your own mind, being happy is something that interferes with his, her, their plans...whatever they may be. Whether or not the supposed conspiracy against you reaches the highest level of government, which is highly unlikely, you just have to keep a mature, level head about yourself.
In retrospect, we all can be considered fictional X-Files characters Fox Mulder or Dana Scully who try to bring to light the truth that tends to be hidden in the darkness never to be seen or heard. Essentially, the truth of love is something that very few people hold on to because of how easily its debunked by focusing on the cruel, hard facts of how dark and destructive it can be rather than focusing on how beautiful it can become with someone who can genuinely open wide not just your eyes, but also heart as well. In the end, during the darkest of hours love will shine brightly for those who haven't given up hope/faith and be rest assured for those who are still searching for answers of the heart that have unfortunately led you nowhere all I can say to you is the truth is out there.
As said before, the truth of love can be considered alien to those who have never been given the chance to not only see it, but also hear it from someone you know you can put your utmost confidence and trust in. However, when your so-called partner betrays the confidence and trust you worked hard to build with him or her over a period of time, it can feel as if the life, as well as, love you have within yourself has all been drained out leaving you absolutely vulnerable. For the highly classified information you once shared with your now former partner may, at some point, be used against you causing you to constantly watch your back or should I say guard your heart to the point where you can become paranoid whenever a potential new partner comes along.
If you think about it, when it comes to seeking the truth you want to associate yourself with good people who will not let you become brainwashed, in a manner of speaking, into thinking you are a complete loser and that what you have been searching for has just been a waste of your time. It's a frustrating situation indeed to be in as you can't help but feel alone fighting a losing battle to reveal the truth of love in which two things are initially brought back to life that were thought to have died or were about to die...hope and faith. In any case, it's these groups of people, who I like to refer to as your very own lone gunmen, encourage you to not let what others may say or try to do deter you from your intended objective and possibly help guide you in the right direction within your heart.
Let me ask you this question, do you believe in any conspiracies like the Apollo moon landing was faked or there was a second gunman when JFK was assassinated are true? The reason I'm asking is because there are times that while in search for the truth of love or true love for that matter you can sometimes feel like there is a conspiracy against you to not ever be able to experience true happiness. In some aspect, the proverbial powers that be want you to continue living the single life because in your own mind, being happy is something that interferes with his, her, their plans...whatever they may be. Whether or not the supposed conspiracy against you reaches the highest level of government, which is highly unlikely, you just have to keep a mature, level head about yourself.
In retrospect, we all can be considered fictional X-Files characters Fox Mulder or Dana Scully who try to bring to light the truth that tends to be hidden in the darkness never to be seen or heard. Essentially, the truth of love is something that very few people hold on to because of how easily its debunked by focusing on the cruel, hard facts of how dark and destructive it can be rather than focusing on how beautiful it can become with someone who can genuinely open wide not just your eyes, but also heart as well. In the end, during the darkest of hours love will shine brightly for those who haven't given up hope/faith and be rest assured for those who are still searching for answers of the heart that have unfortunately led you nowhere all I can say to you is the truth is out there.
Sunday, July 01, 2007
Angels Brought Me Here
William Shakespeare once said, ~They do not love that do not show their love. The course of true love never did run smooth. Love is familiar. Love is a devil. There is no evil angel but love.~ Let me ask you this question, when it comes to walking your own personal journey to experiencing for yourself love or true love for that matter, do you believe an angel of God watches, guides, and tries to protect you from being hurt within not only your heart, but also your soul as well? In my opinion, I truly believe so and if you think about it, love and angels have some similarities as they both seemingly exude a bright, glowing, warmth that can most definitely put your and soul at peace, which is what every person wants when it pertains to a potential and/or significant relationship.
Without a doubt, there are times where you just meet someone for the very first time and for some reason you have the feeling as if you've known him or her for years. For it's simply one of those unexplainable situations in which you easily and comfortably clique/connect with a particular guy or girl to the point where there is a nice, steady flow in the conversation being shared without any awkward silent pauses in between. In any case, it's that unknown familiarity that inevitably has you throwing caution to the wind, so to speak, whereby opening yourself and leaving you vulnerable to being hurt both personally, as well as, emotionally. Yet, you take the risk anyway because love or true love means that even though you're absolutely scared out of your mind, you keep your heart focused on that person who you consider to have the face of an angel.
However, the angelic face of love can oftentimes be the devil in disguise as the bright, glowing, warmth being exuded is considerably deceptive. Women, more so than guys, know the all too well feeling of falling for a supposedly trustworthy handsome face only to find themselves in utter heartbreak whereby having that particular guys face thoroughly engrained both in her mind and heart, which is an ugly image they try to erase, as well as, forget from ever thinking about again. Why? Essentially, when a woman thinks about a past heartbreak that initially causes pain and suffering it, in some ways, can feel like the devil himself is stabbing her deep within her heart with a pitchfork, metaphorically speaking of course, which is a truly tortuous experience to personally go through.
Someone said, ~Love expects no reward. Love knows no fear. Love divine gives - does not demand. Love thinks no evil; imputes no motive. To Love is to share and serve.~ Thinking about it, it's hard to know as to whether or not the one you'll meet is the same person who'll have evil intentions or plans for your heart. It's a sad situation indeed when certain people use love to manipulate/play with one's heart for their own sick and twisted amusement. In their own mind, it's a game that unfortunately attaches anger, fear, hate, bitterness, and whatever emotion one may feel leaving you always on guard. Let me tell you something, it's not love that is evil, but it's the person who is that is considered to be a cold, heartless, emotionless S.O.B, and ultimately you never really win when you play games with someone's heart.
In retrospect, the journey of love or true love is not without its hardships as you may have to go through the fires of hell in order to someday be in a place that feels like you're in heaven with that special someone. For some, most, or all people, they're tired of getting burned countless times from guys or girls in their past to where they give up on their guiding light who failed in one's eyes inevitably becomes a proverbial fallen angel and left them not only picking up the pieces of their broken heart, but also left them to not be able to fill the emptiness that's within as well. In the end, it’s when you're finally at the altar looking at the face of the one you love you can say with a smile on your face that my prayers have been answered, my dreams came true, my journey is over, and I am eternally grateful that angels brought me here, which is a song by former Australian idol contestant/winner Guy Sebastian.
Without a doubt, there are times where you just meet someone for the very first time and for some reason you have the feeling as if you've known him or her for years. For it's simply one of those unexplainable situations in which you easily and comfortably clique/connect with a particular guy or girl to the point where there is a nice, steady flow in the conversation being shared without any awkward silent pauses in between. In any case, it's that unknown familiarity that inevitably has you throwing caution to the wind, so to speak, whereby opening yourself and leaving you vulnerable to being hurt both personally, as well as, emotionally. Yet, you take the risk anyway because love or true love means that even though you're absolutely scared out of your mind, you keep your heart focused on that person who you consider to have the face of an angel.
However, the angelic face of love can oftentimes be the devil in disguise as the bright, glowing, warmth being exuded is considerably deceptive. Women, more so than guys, know the all too well feeling of falling for a supposedly trustworthy handsome face only to find themselves in utter heartbreak whereby having that particular guys face thoroughly engrained both in her mind and heart, which is an ugly image they try to erase, as well as, forget from ever thinking about again. Why? Essentially, when a woman thinks about a past heartbreak that initially causes pain and suffering it, in some ways, can feel like the devil himself is stabbing her deep within her heart with a pitchfork, metaphorically speaking of course, which is a truly tortuous experience to personally go through.
Someone said, ~Love expects no reward. Love knows no fear. Love divine gives - does not demand. Love thinks no evil; imputes no motive. To Love is to share and serve.~ Thinking about it, it's hard to know as to whether or not the one you'll meet is the same person who'll have evil intentions or plans for your heart. It's a sad situation indeed when certain people use love to manipulate/play with one's heart for their own sick and twisted amusement. In their own mind, it's a game that unfortunately attaches anger, fear, hate, bitterness, and whatever emotion one may feel leaving you always on guard. Let me tell you something, it's not love that is evil, but it's the person who is that is considered to be a cold, heartless, emotionless S.O.B, and ultimately you never really win when you play games with someone's heart.
In retrospect, the journey of love or true love is not without its hardships as you may have to go through the fires of hell in order to someday be in a place that feels like you're in heaven with that special someone. For some, most, or all people, they're tired of getting burned countless times from guys or girls in their past to where they give up on their guiding light who failed in one's eyes inevitably becomes a proverbial fallen angel and left them not only picking up the pieces of their broken heart, but also left them to not be able to fill the emptiness that's within as well. In the end, it’s when you're finally at the altar looking at the face of the one you love you can say with a smile on your face that my prayers have been answered, my dreams came true, my journey is over, and I am eternally grateful that angels brought me here, which is a song by former Australian idol contestant/winner Guy Sebastian.
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