Anais Nin once said, ~You care away with you a reflection of me, a part of me. I dreamed of you. I wished for your existence. You will always be a part of my life. If I love you, it must be because we shared at some moment the same imaginings, the same madness, the same stage.~ In some aspect, the human heart is like a mirror in which a person tries to reflect a part of one's self within the heart of someone truly special. Yet, when it comes to love or true love for that matter it can be difficult to know as to whether or not the feeling and emotions being reflected are real or merely an illusion. For the most part, you want to leave a lasting image of yourself to the point where a positive presence within his/her heart is felt, which others can see by the smile on your face.
Without a doubt, when you look into a mirror you most certainly see a reflection of yourself and all that you are. In a sense, that is how love is as you want to see a mirror image of yourself and all that you are or ever want to possibly be both in that person's heart, as well as soul. A woman, more than anything, would love to be able to not only see herself in the heart of the man she loves, but also see if he reflects the same qualities within her own heart such as patience, kindness, truth, caring, a nurturing nature, honesty, trustworthiness, sensibility, sincerity, love of God, etc. For it would be a dream come true to have all that she's imagined as a little girl become a reality and not have those precious images in her heart end up shattered like pieces of mirrored glass.
As said before, when it comes to matters of the heart, it can be difficult to know as to whether or not the feelings and emotions being reflected are real or merely an illusion to where it can be absolute insanity to figure out. Let me tell you something, every person has been in that type of situation and it makes you want to either scream, tear your hair out, or both. For the insanity can turn to madness as you can be fooled into thinking what you are seeing and/or feeling from that certain someone is real, but in fact it's all smoke and mirrors making it impossible to clearly visualize sharing a part of yourself with him or her. However, be rest assured someone out there can make sense of the madness that is love and will be able to show the clearest reflection of true happiness from his/her heart to yours.
Let me ask you this question, do you think a person can reach the same stage of love with someone who makes you want to completely step through the so called looking glass of your heart and into the euphoric wonderland you always wanted to be in, which is a place you never thought actually existed, except within the your vivid imagination? My opinion is yes because there comes a point where love asks you a question for you alone to answer which is: 'How far and deep are you willing to go down the rabbit hole to follow your white rabbit?' In other words, how committed are you to follow your heart down the dark unknown knowing that at some point you may get scared and turn around because the deeper in the relationship you go the harder it is to sometimes see where you're going?
In retrospect, a person can spend so much time trying to see an image of themselves in the heart of someone who one feels will make him or her happy that they end up losing a part of themselves because of it. The funny thing is the image you want to see shouldn't be a reflection of yourself staring back at you as you look into that person's heart, but rather a reflection of God whose love and understanding makes you whole. A guy can oftentimes be blind in knowing how truly lucky he is to have a woman who is a reflection of God's love and understanding, which should not to be taken for granted. In the end, taking away that love and understanding can make a man see what he is truly missing to where he can humbly say to a woman with love in his heart now and forever I will be your man, which is a song by Richard Marx that best reflects this thought.
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Monday, March 05, 2007
I Want To
Brian Tracy once said, ~The quality of love and the duration of a relationship are in direct proportion to the depth of the commitment by both people to make the relationship successful. Commit yourself wholeheartedly and unconditionally to the most important people in your life.~ Let me ask you this question, who is the most important person in your life and can you honestly say you are deeply committed to him/her? Without a doubt, being in a committed relationship is considered a big step as two people make the decision together to take their love they have for each other to the next level and not regret or have any doubts whatsoever afterwards. Thinking about it, when it comes to commitment one should exude the following three qualities: the right attitude, strong character, and a humble spirit.
Essentially, one of the most important keys in being in a committed relationship is having the right attitude because it initially sets the overall tone of what is to come. In a sense, it's like a foreshadowing of what the relationship between two people may possibly be like and it can either be a sign of good things to come or a bad omen where you see dark days ahead, in a manner of speaking. Whether it's in the words being said, the actions taken, or body language given it all comes down to not only how one reacts and handles certain situations in the relationship. In other words, act your age rather than your shoe size when dealing with potentially problematic aspects of the relationship, which establishes a more adult oriented/grown up level of commitment.
As said before, a committed relationship isn't just about having the right attitude its also about building strong character in one's behavior as values such as caring, trust, honesty, respect, etc. are tested. Ethically speaking, a person who is in a committed relationship should know how to always act and do the right thing no matter what even when not in the sight of one's significant other. It's a sad situation indeed when men and women fail that particular test because of temptations that left a person weak causing both mental, as well as, emotional pain to that loved one. Oftentimes, it's hard to truly know how strong a person's character is until a situation arises where the relationship hangs in the balance as one's behavior towards that situation ultimately reflects the level of love and commitment.
1 Peter 5:6 says, 'Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time.' For the question can be asked to those of you in a committed relationship, do you portray a humble spirit as you thank God every single day for being so lucky to have someone who makes you absolutely happy knowing that the happiness you experience can be taken away from you within a blink of an eye? You see, God can most definitely give a reality check in order to humble ourselves, especially in love or true love for that matter. For one must come to the realization that there should be a commitment towards God first because the fact of the matter is without Him the commitment you made with each other means nothing leaving both of you lost within your heart.
In retrospect, the word commitment is scary to some people because in their mind it represents a finality in which they say goodbye to not only the single life, but also the freedoms they thoroughly enjoy. However, commitment is nothing to be scared of, but instead you should look forward to it as you meet a person who gives you a reason to happily end a part of your life spent wondering when true happiness will happen and begin a new one with someone who answers that for you question as a commitment is made with yourself, with each other, and with God as well. In the end, commitment is about saying I want to share my life with you, I want to be there for you, I want to die for you, and most of all I want to grow old with you, which is a song by Westlife that best reflects this thought.
Essentially, one of the most important keys in being in a committed relationship is having the right attitude because it initially sets the overall tone of what is to come. In a sense, it's like a foreshadowing of what the relationship between two people may possibly be like and it can either be a sign of good things to come or a bad omen where you see dark days ahead, in a manner of speaking. Whether it's in the words being said, the actions taken, or body language given it all comes down to not only how one reacts and handles certain situations in the relationship. In other words, act your age rather than your shoe size when dealing with potentially problematic aspects of the relationship, which establishes a more adult oriented/grown up level of commitment.
As said before, a committed relationship isn't just about having the right attitude its also about building strong character in one's behavior as values such as caring, trust, honesty, respect, etc. are tested. Ethically speaking, a person who is in a committed relationship should know how to always act and do the right thing no matter what even when not in the sight of one's significant other. It's a sad situation indeed when men and women fail that particular test because of temptations that left a person weak causing both mental, as well as, emotional pain to that loved one. Oftentimes, it's hard to truly know how strong a person's character is until a situation arises where the relationship hangs in the balance as one's behavior towards that situation ultimately reflects the level of love and commitment.
1 Peter 5:6 says, 'Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time.' For the question can be asked to those of you in a committed relationship, do you portray a humble spirit as you thank God every single day for being so lucky to have someone who makes you absolutely happy knowing that the happiness you experience can be taken away from you within a blink of an eye? You see, God can most definitely give a reality check in order to humble ourselves, especially in love or true love for that matter. For one must come to the realization that there should be a commitment towards God first because the fact of the matter is without Him the commitment you made with each other means nothing leaving both of you lost within your heart.
In retrospect, the word commitment is scary to some people because in their mind it represents a finality in which they say goodbye to not only the single life, but also the freedoms they thoroughly enjoy. However, commitment is nothing to be scared of, but instead you should look forward to it as you meet a person who gives you a reason to happily end a part of your life spent wondering when true happiness will happen and begin a new one with someone who answers that for you question as a commitment is made with yourself, with each other, and with God as well. In the end, commitment is about saying I want to share my life with you, I want to be there for you, I want to die for you, and most of all I want to grow old with you, which is a song by Westlife that best reflects this thought.
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