Show Me The Meaning of Being Lonely

Keith Haynie once said, ~ Loneliness, the clearest of crystal insight into your own soul , it's the fear of one's own self that haunts the lonely.~ If you think about it, every person is feeling or has felt that cold, empty, powerful force from within one's heart known as loneliness. For its within loneliness you find your sense of self, which tends to be lost as times of want or heartbreak leaves you searching for that essence of being fully whole. Its an essence that certain people are lucky to have with someone who gives your life meaning, but for some people they're missing that meaning to the point where one has time to think about, as well as, best explain/describe what loneliness means to them.

Without a doubt, loneliness can be at times simply indescribable and yet at the same time there can be so many words to describe how one feels. In a sense, its like a silence in your heart that you just can't stand and all you hear is a constant echo bouncing off within that empty space. A seemingly haunting silence you absolutely want to stop hearing, in a manner of speaking, as you truly want to replace the empty space within your heart and fill it with something you haven't felt in a while with someone such as joy and laughter. For some, most, or all people it's been a terrible, heavy, and painful burden to carry around, so to speak, to where a person experiences a sort of crazy frustration that leaves at a loss for words.

In some aspect, loneliness can be considered like an unwanted friend who follows you around and no matter how hard you try to avoid it, it's always there at every turn just nagging you to no end. Nagging in a way that reminds you of how lonely you are by hearing news of someone you were once interested in is getting engaged/married or showing you that you're the last one of your circle of friends who has not gotten married, which can be a very depressing situation indeed. However, you live it the best you possibly can even though it hurts to see those around, who are in relationships, doing the little things that can most definitely mean so much such as holding hands or being given a smile that brightens your day.

Oftentimes, waking each day can be a tough situation as it adds on more feelings and emotions that can be completely different from the days before. We've all breathed out a familiar sigh of not so much relief but rather a sigh of utter frustration not only within your heart but within your soul. Essentially, you wish to be anywhere but where you are at mentally, personally, as well as, emotionally and just be at the side of that special someone who can break one's long, steady gaze into the seemingly long desolate road within one's heart. However, you just have to keep distracting yourself and not let the loneliness control you to the point it completely runs your ever waking life, which is something you don't want to have ever happen.

David Foster Wallace said, ~We're all lonely for something we don't know we're lonely for. How else to explain the curious feeling that goes around feeling like missing somebody we've never even met?~ In retrospect, loneliness is a dark and dreary place that you can easily get lost in as you try to find that something missing within your heart. The funny thing though is that something/someone will find you and shed a warm light into the empty space within your heart to where you will be able to finally see the person who you will be able to give your whole heart to. In the end, that is what loneliness means to me, but if you have a better interpretation then please by all means show me the meaning of being lonely, which is a song by the group known as BSB.

Something To Talk About

Franklin P. Jones once said, ~One advantage of talking to yourself is that you know at least someone is listening.~ Without a doubt, we all talk to ourselves both inwardly and outwardly on a semi-daily basis, which is considered normal unless you're completely crazy in the head. If you think about it though, aren't we all crazy in the head as its just a matter of the degree of crazy as you converse with yourself with what has happened, is happening or will happen in your life that has you becoming your very own therapist who you don't have to pay a service charge to, which is most definitely a good thing. Let me ask you this question, how do you feel afterwards when you're finished with your one on one session, better or worse?

Women, more so than guys, talk to themselves more nonverbally than verbally, which can be considered both confusing and dangerous. Why? When it pertains to a guy, it can start out general, but then it takes a leap into something so out there that they are blamed for something we've done or said within their own mind. Every guy, whether he is in a potential and/or significant relationship, the girlfriend/wife is staring at him and he knows a conversation is going on in her head about something he did or didn't do that turns into an argument to where it eventually ends in him apologizing. Ladies, now you know why guys like myself are bold or going bald as we pull out our own hair due to not only being so confused but also frustrated as well.

In any case, when it comes to relationships or the lack thereof both men and women talk to themselves when trying to figure out the feeling within their own heart about that certain someone. It would be safe to say that each and every one of us have stared up at the ceiling while in bed and just started quietly talking with yourself to the point where you can't fall asleep because thoughts of him or her have gotten to you in such a way that you start arguing with yourself. Let me tell you something, its not a fun experience whatsoever as you not only lose sleep from psycho-analyzing yourself, but also that particular person as well, which can bring or has already brought many people like myself to the brink of insanity.

Personally speaking, when it comes to thinking up and writing Yodaisms, talking to myself in my head, as well as, out loud is how I do things. For its a process that is both entertaining and interesting for others to where I can get so focused that I don't realize I'm muttering under my breathe or thinking out loud words to say that it's considered a comical situation for my friends who have gotten used to my rain man type actions, but when complete strangers witness me doing it they think I need psychiatric help. Essentially, whether I do or I don't as long as the reader is able to interpret what I've been trying to say to myself in my head then on to paper and inevitably shared for you to read its a personal victory that I can be proud of.

In retrospect, talking to yourself is perfectly normal and healthy as well because you get the chance to go in depth into who you are as individuals. Questions such as: Who am I? What is my soul purpose in life? Where do I belong in this crazy mixed up world? When will my time for true happiness arrive? Why do I always seem to go for the guys/girls who break my heart? How emotionally and physically strong can I be when true love finally comes my way? In the end, each of us will always have something to talk about as we try to come up with the answers to the question we ask ourselves about life, love, and everything in between, which may make perfect sense or no sense at all.

The Rules

Anatole Broyard once said, ~There was a time when we expected nothing of our children but obedience, as opposed to the present, when we expect everything of them, but obedience.~ Working with kids for the past 10 years, you see and experience many things on a semi-daily basis that you can't help but reflect back on your own childhood. For the endless amounts of energy still remains the same, but what has changed are the attitudes, which may not relate to all kids. You see, back in the day there were certain things today's generation of kids do or say to their own parents that if my generation did or said the exact same thing to our parents we would either be knocked out or have the life choked out of us.

Let me ask you this question to any parents out there, are you in charge of your kid(s) or are they in charge of you? Well, working in the insane asylum you see and hear many things when parents arrive to pick up their child or children. One of those things you tend to witness is a child holding up their finger to tell their parent(s) to wait while they finish something that is fairly non-important such as a video game he or she just started. Its a sad situation to see a parent, who is not only tired from work but also has places to go, as well as, people to see and he or she actually waits for him or her to finish playing. Let me tell you something, knowing my mom or dad I wouldn't make them wait to the point one's full name was called or the look was given.

Growing up, many of us were taught to respect our elders by not saying or doing things that were considered disrespectful, which reflects back on our own parent(s). Saying thank you, yes/no sir, yes/no ma'am, excuse me, etc. were words that have come second nature to us because it was ingrained in our minds at an early age and yet to certain kids its words that seem foreign to them to where words such as "huh" and "what" are usually heard coming from their mouths. For the question can be asked of you, were you the type of child that continues to say these particular words to this day thank you, yes/no sir, yes/no ma'am, excuse me, etc. to people even though they may not deserve to have your respect?

Without a doubt, there was one thing that was expected of us when we went out in public with one's parent(s) as kids and that was not to act as if you didn't have any common sense at all. For it's a truly embarrassing and humiliating experience for any parent to be in as all eyes are seemingly focused on not only the parent but the child/children who probably broke the verbal agreement made beforehand at the house in which they would promise not make a scene or suffer the consequences afterwards. Consequences such as a public beat down or leaving wherever you were immediately even though you just got there and announcing out loud to get in the car now or somebody will get left behind.

In retrospect, we've all become better people because of what our parents or parents did for us or tried to do for us and even though we may have whined, pouted, or threw temper tantrums for doing or saying things each of us didn't agree with. Essentially, back then we couldn't understand why or what they were trying to get through to us and why it was relevant. Now as an adult, you understand why they did what they did to the point that you can’t help but laugh because you're probably doing the same thing with your kids and if you don't have any kids you will instinctively do it. In the end, those were the rules my generation lived by that our parents set forth and for the most part we turned out okay...some of us anyway.

Poetry In Motion

Charles Stanley once said, ~Romantic love reaches out in little ways, showing attention and admiration. Romantic love remembers what pleases a woman, excites her, and surprises her. its actions whisper: you are the most special person in my life.~ Thinking about it, every man is given the opportunity to share his softer side with a woman who truly inspires him to be one with his inner poet. As a so-called poet we try to find the universal meaning of what love is all about when it pertains to that special someone. In a sense, a woman is our proverbial muse as we try to hopefully find out and make a reality the things that pleases, excites, as well as, surprises a woman, which I may have the answers to.

Without a doubt, nothing pleases a woman more when a man is actually listening to what she is saying to him and not just pretending to listen to where he responds back at the information given to him. One of the most important things in a relationship to a woman is being able to listen and understand whatever message she is trying to get across to him loud and clear, whether it's hidden or straight forward. Sometimes we may get it and other times we may not, as it is just a matter of picking up the clues she tends to drop every so often. By giving your full and undivided attention to what she is saying, it shows her not only how much he has respect for you as a woman, but also as a person.

Oftentimes, a man showing his appreciation in his own way to a woman can bring her to a point of indescribable excitement. Countless stories can be told of women doing something heartfelt, as well as, thoughtful for a guy she was potentially interested in or in a significant relationship with, he reciprocates by giving a small gift or taking her to dinner as a token of his appreciation. However, it's a sad situation indeed when a guy doesn't appreciate what she did, which says something to her. It says to her he's not considerate enough to appreciate the thought, time, and effort I put into something special, which I was happy to do, but now I see you're just an inconsiderate jerk who doesn't deserve my attention or me for that matter.

Let me ask you this question ladies, do you like surprises, especially when it comes from a guy you're either potentially interested in or in a relationship with. As we all know, guys tend to lose the ability to remember certain dates/events that are considered to be special such as an anniversary or a birthday. Yet, a guy can most definitely surprise a woman by not only remembering those important dates/events, but also finding out that he put a lot of planning into what he was going to do for you days, weeks, and/or even months in advance touches the cockles of her heart. Let me tell you something ladies, you're absolutely lucky to have a guy who goes out of his way to show how much he loves you that you just love him even more.

W.B. Yeats once said, ~Out of the quarrel with others we make rhetoric; out of the quarrel with ourselves we make poetry.~ In retrospect, every man has written within their own heart words that are considered deeply poetic, as well as, romantic, and it take a woman who is truly special to finally let the words he has been wanting to share flow free from his lips to her heart. Its words of genuine honesty, that when a woman hears it from the man she loves either for the 1st time or 101st time its absolute pure poetry. In the end, it's when a man's acts and words of love, which remember how to please, excite, as well as, surprise her in different ways, continue to move her both personally and emotionally, it's poetry in motion.

Too Little, Too Late

Henry Ward Beecher once said, ~I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a canceled note-torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.~ I'm sorry. Its two words both men and women say to each other either in a potential and/or significant relationship. Oftentimes, men say it more than women because to be quite honest we say or do something absolutely stupid seemingly every day and apologizing is the only alternative than having an argument. Anyways, when it comes to significant relationships that have encountered times of unfaithfulness, asking or pleading for forgiveness is something that can be either taken seriously or as a joke.

Let me ask you this question, have you experienced the pangs of not only being cheated on but also the post apologies that came afterwards? Without a doubt, finding out that your significant other has been unfaithful can leave you feeling absolutely betrayed as the trust placed in his or her hands is broken. Of the many mixed emotions one experiences during one's unfortunate crisis, anger tends to be the driving force that fuels the hatred you have within your heart for him or her. Whether or not the hatred you felt was temporary or permanent really depends on not only the particular situation, but also the person as well who spoke from the heart or spoke from his or her buttockal region.

As said previously, men oftentimes do the most apologizing to get back into the good graces of their wife or girlfriend when they're caught cheating. Sometimes the apologies given are genuine and sincere to the point a reconciliation is established, but the trust that was once there in the beginning has to be earned all over again. However, it's a sad situation indeed for a woman when guys, who have repeatedly been unfaithful, give apologies that sound genuinely real, sincere, as well as, heartfelt; but in fact are fake, shallow, and totally meaningless. I apologize ahead of time for saying this, but there are women out there who are gullible as they're not able to truly see these guys for who and what they really are, which are complete losers.

If you think about it though, it's not just men who tend to apologize for being unfaithful, it's women as well when it involves a boyfriend or husband. For it’s that same trust that women have for a guy also applies for men also as they put one's trust in the hands of women, who can most definitely toy with their feelings and emotions. Yet, it's good to know that not all women treat or have treated their man as if he was like a ball of yarn swatting it around for their own pleasure. As a guy, it's disappointing to see a friend or best friend for that matter be so gullible as to accept an apology from a woman who has constantly done him wrong to where you wonder if he has any backbone or the cojones to break up with her for his own good.

Someone once said, ~Forgiveness does not always lead to a healed relationship. Some people are not capable of love, and it might be wise to let them go along with your anger. With them well, and let them go their way.~ In retrospect, the words I'm sorry can be said so many times by a guy or girl who tries to weasel their way back into someone's life that it inevitably becomes two words that aren't believable anymore. For the respect that he or she had for you is no longer there as you gave him or her plenty of chances to change, but didn't. In the end, there comes a point where you're absolutely fed up with being disrespected that when he or she asks you for one more chance to be forgiven, you say it's just too little too late and it's a song by Jojo that best reflects this thought.

I Swear

Someone once said, ~Love is the greatest feeling you will ever have, yet it is also one of the greatest sorrows. There is so much suffering, but then there are times when the crying, pain, and headache is worth it. Those moments are perfect, they are right. Those moments make all the suffering worthwhile. It's those moments we should live for.~ Without a doubt, one of the most difficult things in life to experience is not knowing if the person you feel so strongly for has those same feelings for you. For it's a tough and frustrating situation indeed to be in because the longer you talk to, are around, and/or hang with that person one's feelings grow increasingly stronger to the point where every beat of your heart absolutely hurts.

If you think about it, a woman more so than a guy, has that proverbial intuition in which they know when a certain amount of attention is focused on her. Yet, there is an uncertainty as to whether or not the attention she is receiving is positive or negative, which can most definitely be seen by the look in her eyes. Eyes that are considered windows to the soul that if a guy looks hard enough can read countless questions, which weigh heavily on not only her mind, but also in her heart as well. Questions such as: Will I be able to trust him? Will he make promises he intends to keep? Will he treat me with respect? It's these questions, plus a whole lot more that all women want answered and hopefully some guy out has all the answers.

Oftentimes, as a guy, you feel as if you're always going to be two steps behind that special someone of interest and the only thing you're going to be to her is just a mere shadow. A shadow that tends to have hidden with the darkness heartbreak, tears of sadness, frustration, anger, and the sometimes flickering hope that is initially kept alive by her smile, which just illuminates the seemingly dreary, as well as, empty void felt not just in your heart, but also in your soul. Let me tell you something, every guy has been in or continues to be in that type of situation to where it's considered a neverending cycle that completely overshadows the possibility of ever experiencing the glowing light of true happiness.

Essentially, a guy like myself will realize that no matter how much you want to be right there by her side both personally and emotionally, just being there as a friend is what's most important, which is to say something to her. For it says that even though you want to be the guy that squashes every doubt in her mind, fills in the cracks of past heartbreak within her heart, makes her believe that dreams do really come true, and re-builds her world that crumbled around her in the past it takes a back seat to just appreciating the fact she is in your life. Trust me when I say its hard to let go of how you feel, but you eventually do as it takes time to move on with your heart to where it doesn't hurt anymore when you see, talk to, or are around her.

In retrospect, love or true love for that matter sometimes means hoping that special someone you wanted to be with finds true happiness even if it means it isn't with you, which hurts, yet you cope the best you can. Whether he or she is in a long lasting stable relationship or living the single life to its fullest, as long as that person is happy by seeing a smile on her face or laughter being heard then life goes on as usual. In the end, it's with genuine honesty you say to the one you love/care about that no matter what happened in the past, what is happening now, or may happen in the future between you and me, I swear to always be there by your side whenever you need me, which is a song by All 4 One that tends to reflects this thought.

The Dance

Elizabeth Kabler-Ross once said, ~ It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it were the only one we had.~ The tragic events of September 11, 2001 five years ago continue to resonate to this day and remembered as, for my generation, our Pearl Harbor. For we all know where we were and what we were doing when the Twin Towers were hit to the point that it affected you even though you weren't personally there. Let me ask you this question, when you remember back to that fateful Tuesday morning what feelings and emotions were you going through at the time?

Without a doubt, when each of us saw it happen or heard about it we experienced a stunning shock to our system because you couldn't believe it was actually happening. In some aspect, it was like you wanted someone to pinch you because it may just be a horrible nightmare, but it wasn't. For we all were glued to the television or listened intently on the radio as it was considered a moment in time that nobody will or won't ever forget. It was in that surreal moment you didn't know what to do as you wanted to go on with life as usual but instead probably stayed in the safety, as well as, comfort of your own home and watched the unfortunate events unfold before your very own eyes on televisions live.

Essentially, the stunning shock to our system eventually wore off to the point anger set in. It would probably be safe to say that many of you were completely and utterly angry at the actions among the middle eastern community overseas as they celebrated, which you may have seen on television or heard on the radio. Most definitely, it not only made my blood boil but hopefully yours as well when you saw or heard guns being shot in the air as they celebrated the fact we as a nation were going through a time of pain and suffering. The anger felt within prompted many Americans to be motivated to where they joined the military to not only either get payback, show their patriotism, or just get involved in some way, shape, or form.

Ultimately, the anger we all felt inevitably turned into sadness as you started reading or hearing news of how many lives have been lost in not just the three flights, but also in the World Trade Center and the Pentagon. It was a sad situation indeed to see people, who were trapped in the buildings, jump for their lives knowing they weren't going to make it, which has been ingrained to the minds of many. Initially, it wasn't just the people in New York City or the Pentagon for that matter who were suffering. For we all suffered as well because countless people had family and/or friends who were in New York City and trying to contact them was an impossibility. For the question can be asked, did you personally lose someone that was close to you on that day?

In retrospect, the events of on that particular day taught and revealed to us the following things: #1.) It taught us that life can end in just a snap of a finger.(Proverbs 27:1 - Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring) #2.) It taught us what's most truly important in life. #3.) It revealed to us there is an evil out there who hate us with a passion because of all the freedoms we enjoy. #4.) It revealed to us the resiliency of a nation that wasn't going to show fear but rather continue on with life as usual. In the end, it's the dance known as life that when we remember back on our own life we all hopefully didn't miss out on living it to the fullest by spending it with the people we love and care about, which is a song by Garth Brooks.

Man Law

Diane Johnson once said, ~Men are generally more law abiding than women. Women have the feeling that since they didn't make the rules, the rules have nothing to with them.~ If you think about it, men and women most definitely go by a different set of unwritten guidelines when it comes to certain things we all do on a semi-daily basis. When it comes to how guys do things, women just scratch their head and no matter how much its explained to give a better understanding it just confuses them even more. Anyways, even though it seems to women that the entire male species is considered idiotic and immature, we do have rules that all men adhere to, which I will share with you now.

Without a doubt, men have been conditioned since the dawn of time to not cry, but there are circumstances in which it's okay for us to shed some tears. The following circumstances are: #1.) The death of man's best friend is cause for tearful mourning due in part to the close bond established. #2.) A particular sports team winning a major championship for the first time in a number of years is cause for tearful celebration, which many male fans of the Boston Red Sox did 2 years ago. #3.) Getting hit, punched, and/or kicked below the belt hard gives guys the right to cry and not only that we can also take as much time to compose ourselves as possible. Note: If you find a guy who is crying for no reason at all just leave....IMMEDIATELY!

Men aren't generally into fashion and that is why there are rules when it pertains to the clothes we wear. Women, as they often tend to do, share clothes and clothing related accessories, which is perfectly acceptable among females. Guys, on the other hand, are prohibited fro ever sharing any clothes because quite frankly it's not how we roll. One of the main reasons sharing clothes is not such a good idea in our book, so to speak, is because guys generally sweat...a lot. Let me tell you something, any guy can agree with me on this and that is if for some off chance a friend or best friend for that matter borrows your clothes and sweats in them then its theirs to keep as their own.

Believe it or not, there are set guidelines that all men go by when using a public bathroom, whether it's crowded or not. The following guidelines are: #1.) Unlike women, there is absolutely no socializing with each other because we're there to do business and we need to concentrate as much as possible. #2.) If a guy is using the standing urinals he must look straight forward or up, but if he starts looking around then there is a possibility of being severely injured. #3.) There must always be a buffer zone separating you and another guy when it involves the standing urinals. Ladies, if you don't know what I'm talking about, ask a guy and he'll try to explain it for the best he can.

In retrospect, there are countless number of rules that guys go by in life that can be considered strange, weird, and/or completely stupid. Rules such as: It's perfectly okay to eat food off the floor it was there for less than 5/10 seconds; A guy must wait six months before asking out the girl that your friend or best friend broke up with; A guy must not spend more than 30 minutes in a store or a mall; Men don't use twist ties to close a bread bag, we spin the bag around and tie the bag; Every guy is obligated to watch Scarface, The Godfather 1-3, and all the Rocky movies; Duct tape solves everything, which we learned from watching MacGyver. In the end, it's the rules that every guy lives by and knows by heart has come to be known as man law.

Dee Dee Dee

Albert Einstein once said, ~The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits.~ Without a doubt, we all have issues about stupid people when it pertains to certain things that are either said or done that it just bugs you to the point it can get under your skin. It's the particular issues that we see and/or hear about on a semi-daily basis that inevitably has each one of us standing on our own individual soap box to give one's 2 cents, which hopefully makes you feel better afterwards once you get it off your chest. Let me ask you this question, do you have any particular issues of lat that concern the sheer "brilliance" of what certain people have said and/or done because I know I do.

We all grew up knowing that there are 9 planets in the solar system but recent events say otherwise as the powers that be of the scientific community in their infinite wisdom deemed Pluto not worthy enough to a planet. According to them, it doesn't live up to the three qualification one of them being is that it must be large enough to where it take on a nearly round shape. Pluto supposedly has been downgraded to a dwarf planet, which now changes the whole scheme of things in many school textbooks. For it's not only textbooks but also in mnemonic devices we all use and learned as kids that went by My Very Educated Mother Just Served Us Nine Pizzas or whatever you went by. All I'm saying is its planet profiling and that's just wrong.

It would be safe to say that many of you have probably been on some pretty bad dates and knew immediately beforehand that it was going to be a bad one. Listening to a popular, as well as, local radio station last week a man named Darren, a CEO of some company, went out on a date and essentially paid for her even though she offered. Ladies most definitely know beforehand if there will be another date and the lady in question knew it wasn't going to happen. Now what makes this man a complete douchebag is that he hired a lawyer, threatened legal action over a 100 dollar bill, and at one point called her place of employment to get her fired just because she said that she would call him. This so-called drama, as far as I know, is still ongoing.

For the question can be asked, is there a certain celebrity that you are sick and tired of not only hearing about but also seeing as well? I think we would all agree that the most annoying so-called celebrity who is basically known for doing and accomplishing absolutely nothing other than Kevin Federline, who stunk badly at the Teen Choice Awards with his performance, is Paris Hilton. Paris Hilton's attempt at becoming a pop star is not flying with many people because you can never take her seriously when she makes far out statements like she cried happy tears when she listened to her new album. Let me tell you something, we as music listeners cried too, but for a totally different reason altogether because of laughing too hard.

In retrospect, no matter how much you try to avoid stupidity or stupid people for that matter you will cross paths with it/them eventually. For it comes in many different forms and oftentimes it can be hard to spot at first because it can be so easily disguised and yet the question remains can it be highly contagious? My answer is as long as you have that one thing that certain people seem to be lacking in today's society, which is common sense, then no it can't. In the end, I end this therapeutic thought that best describes the individual mentioned above and others like them with a catch phrase made famous by one of my most favorite comedians Carlos Mencia which is they're all DEE DEE DEE!

May I Cut In

Someone once said, ~All our young lives we search for someone to love, someone who makes us complete. We choose our partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope all the while, wondering if someone is searching for us.~ In some aspect, life is considered one big dance and we're all on the so-called crowded dance floor grooving to the beat of the music that is felt from within our heart. For it’s our heart that metaphorically does the Carlton dance when we meet that special someone. If you think about it, when it comes to the dance known as true love each one of us are in search of/want a partner who can most definitely make one's heart dance for a lifetime.

Without a doubt, we've all done the proverbial back and forth dance that is flirting, as well as, playing hard to get when it comes to a potential or even a significant relationship. It's primarily one of those experiences you go through in life that makes love or relationships for that matter so interesting and yet at the same time can drive you crazy. Why? Even though you and that person may have chemistry, it doesn't necessarily mean that partnership between the two of you will be taken to the next level. What it comes down to is getting into a comfortable, as well as respectable rhythm in order to avoid not being able to keep up with him or her, which is just one of the many steps that will hopefully lead a relationship in the right direction.

Essentially, one of the most important steps in leading a relationship in the right direction is having complete focus. Eye contact is key as you're dancing through life, so to speak, with someone special who when you look into his or her eyes you know that you will be safe in his or her arms as you put your trust in the hands of that person. However, it can be a sad situation indeed as that trust is broken when a guy or girl's focus starts to falter because someone else caught his or her attention to the point that you're left dancing solo not only personally, but also emotionally as well within your heart. What it comes down to is having all the right moves both in yourself and in that person to keep each other focused on what is most truly important.

Let me ask you this question, do you have a partner who has not only honest and genuine chemistry, which can’t be faked, but also has all the right moves, in a manner of speaking. For when people look at you two together they say either to you, that person, themselves, or out loud to others that both of you make a great team. It's a partnership that even though one's toes can be stepped on, which happens from time to time, you continue to keep practicing to get the footwork between the two of you either absolutely perfect or close to to perfect. In other words, no matter how much you get on each other's nerves or mistakes are made, you both work hard to keep the love, as well as, chemistry you share with each other alive.

Someone said, ~True love is when you're still dancing long after the music has stopped.~ In retrospect, you can consider yourself one of the most luckiest people in the world for those who have a partner that has been able to keep the music fresh within your heart that you never get tired, as well as, pushing you in order to bring out your greatest potential. Unfortunately for some people, they haven't had the best of luck with past partners as they found themselves continually "dancing" with loneliness and/or heartbreak. In the end, it's when you least expect it, true love will step on to the dance floor of life, walk up behind you, tap you on the shoulder, and say with a smile on his or her face, may I cut in?