Henry David Thoreau once said. ~As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we hink over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.~ If you think about it, each time we metaphorically step foot into our own heart the inner mind games begins. A game in which our own thoughts start bouncing around in our heads to where its like we're playing a game of ping pong as we try to keep certain thoughts flowing and not let them fall of the proverbial ping pong table of life so to speak.
Without a doubt, pinog pong is a sport pf skill/technique/stamina but where it all starts is with the proper grip of the paddle. We all have our own way of gripping the paddle and for the most part, one usually sticks with what works for one's self. In some aspect, the paddle we all metaphorically hold in our hand is our heart and with each thought, we either let it bouce off the table or return it back to that particular person. For we all can be metnally fatigued at trying to keep one's thoughts steadily flowing and not letting those thoughts get to you, which can be a tough task indeed for anybody. Let me ask you this question, what type of grip do you have on your paddle as we speak?
When it comes to your "opponent", you don't want to be carless as to not to notice certain key shots and let them slip by you. Men, more so than women, tend to miss those signals that can initially have one lose points rather than gain them. Yet, its those shots that can sometimes be misconstrude as mixed signals by way of a look, touch, or a said word or words. For a person like myself whose job it is to observe, you notice things that a particular person is serving to you, to where you return it back, but not in a foreceful way. For its a similar return, but you hold back a little to see what you get back, which inevitably becomes a type of mental stamina for two minds.
In the game of ping pong its true that you shouldn't be careless; but careful, but too careful. Its a situation where a person can become overconfident and make mistakes both mentally and physically. Such mistakes that can be made are mentally messing up by overthinking situations that it becomes a problem to a point where the serves from that particular guy or girl is returned with such force that it stuns him or her to where it leave you totally or somewhat embaressed. For the question can be asked to each and every one of you, how many times have you been in that particular situation, whether it was in the past or present?
In retrospect, when it comes to the human heart each step we make is carefully made as thoughts and feelings are served to that particular person. Whether he or she returns those feelings are an unknown, but that doesn't mean one isn't answering those serves. For it can be a nonverbal return, which you have to notice in order to keep the ping pong match that is between two people alive. Ultimately, you have to make sure each and every shot you make count and when you see your shot take it. You see, I've taken my shot with a particular someone and hopefully I've made each shot count because in the end, this all this started several months back with just a thought.
Friday, December 30, 2005
Thursday, December 29, 2005
My Life
Someone once said, ~Being single has meant that I am free to take risks that I might not take. Being single has given me freedom to move around the world without having to pack up a household first. And this freedom has brought to me moments that I would not trade for anything else the side of eternity.~ When you're single, you tend to live your life thinking/worrying only about yourself to where it can be perceived as somewhat selfish. Selfish, in the sense, that one wants to feel free in taking risks as you meet someone new and not form any kind of attatchments within your heart for a particular guy or girl. Yet, it only takes on for you to form an attatchment and risk it all with your own heart.
Without a doubt, the single life has given many of us the freedom to like/dislike a particular guy or girl. Whether one's reasoning is valid or completely shallow, its that's person's preference as to what peaks his or her interest. As it has been said so many times before, its not what's the power he or she has on the outside that determines if you love someone, its the powere one has within one's heart that shows how how strong and real a person is. For the most part, you don't know if the feelings, emotions, and/or words are truly believeable and yet you have to trust your instincts but most importantly trust your own heart as to where or not you will take a trip around the world with him or her, so to speak.
Being a single person, one's heart can absolutely be taken on a trip of a lifetime. If you think about it, there have been people in one's past or present who metaphorically have taken or are taking your heart to the highest reaches of a mountain such as Mt. Everest. Its up at the highest point you feel like you've finally reached something totally unreachable as you look into that person eye's, hear his or her voice, or feel one's hearbeat in a warm embrace. Its at the top where seemingly you can breathe easier, the air smells so much sweeter, and when you look down life just makes a bit more sense. For all the worries that were bothering you mentally, physically, and/or emotionally, simple fade away as you take/breathe in all what you see before you.
Unfortunately, there also have been times as a single person, you were literally, as well as, metaphorically taken on one bad trip. A trip where you came back not quite the same person mentally, emotionally, and/or physically due in part to losing or having your heart disappear as if it went into the Bermuda Triangle and never was seen from again. Essentially, its that natural curiosity each of us have as a single people to go into the unknown knowing that we may never be same person coming out, which is a risk a person like myself is now taking. Let me ask yout this question, are you risking your own heart as you head into that so called "Bermuda Triangle" to someone special?
In retrospect, when it comes to the human heart, it can either step foward and be heard/noticed or it can simply be another "face" in the crowd that doesn't speak out. When you're single, sometimes fearing the unknown will take over your life and that's when you have to say to yourself, you have to live sooner or later. In some aspect, breaking through that roadblock, which is keeping you from the vast open highway within your own heart, may or may not pay dividends..who knows really except for you. In the end, when it comes to one's heart, you have to say to yourself I'm going to live as I'm going with what I feel and I will see who my heart leads me or already has lead me to because in the end, its my life.
Without a doubt, the single life has given many of us the freedom to like/dislike a particular guy or girl. Whether one's reasoning is valid or completely shallow, its that's person's preference as to what peaks his or her interest. As it has been said so many times before, its not what's the power he or she has on the outside that determines if you love someone, its the powere one has within one's heart that shows how how strong and real a person is. For the most part, you don't know if the feelings, emotions, and/or words are truly believeable and yet you have to trust your instincts but most importantly trust your own heart as to where or not you will take a trip around the world with him or her, so to speak.
Being a single person, one's heart can absolutely be taken on a trip of a lifetime. If you think about it, there have been people in one's past or present who metaphorically have taken or are taking your heart to the highest reaches of a mountain such as Mt. Everest. Its up at the highest point you feel like you've finally reached something totally unreachable as you look into that person eye's, hear his or her voice, or feel one's hearbeat in a warm embrace. Its at the top where seemingly you can breathe easier, the air smells so much sweeter, and when you look down life just makes a bit more sense. For all the worries that were bothering you mentally, physically, and/or emotionally, simple fade away as you take/breathe in all what you see before you.
Unfortunately, there also have been times as a single person, you were literally, as well as, metaphorically taken on one bad trip. A trip where you came back not quite the same person mentally, emotionally, and/or physically due in part to losing or having your heart disappear as if it went into the Bermuda Triangle and never was seen from again. Essentially, its that natural curiosity each of us have as a single people to go into the unknown knowing that we may never be same person coming out, which is a risk a person like myself is now taking. Let me ask yout this question, are you risking your own heart as you head into that so called "Bermuda Triangle" to someone special?
In retrospect, when it comes to the human heart, it can either step foward and be heard/noticed or it can simply be another "face" in the crowd that doesn't speak out. When you're single, sometimes fearing the unknown will take over your life and that's when you have to say to yourself, you have to live sooner or later. In some aspect, breaking through that roadblock, which is keeping you from the vast open highway within your own heart, may or may not pay dividends..who knows really except for you. In the end, when it comes to one's heart, you have to say to yourself I'm going to live as I'm going with what I feel and I will see who my heart leads me or already has lead me to because in the end, its my life.
Tuesday, December 27, 2005
Bye Bye Bye
An old Irish saying says, ~May the road rise up to meet you, may the wind be ever at your back. May the sun shine warm your face and the rain fall softly on your fields. And until we meet again, may God hold you in the hallow of his hands.~ Although we're not going anywhere, 2005 is and there have been many events this past year that have effected us either individually or as a whole. Its these particular events you would either gladly leave behind or keep with your depending on the event or events in question. For the most part, each of us have an event in mind and whether or not you want to keep it is up to you when 2006 ushers in a new beginning.
Politically speaking, 2005 was filled with some very news worthy stories that either made you cry, angry, confused, confrontational, be uplifted, or all of the above. One such tragedy is Hurricane Katrina that caused many people to not only lose their homes but their lives as well. Unfortunately, the immediate response to help was heard but aide arrived a little too late to where the blame game pointed fingers at the Bush Adminstration and to former FEMA director Mike Brown, who will and forever be considered a douche bag. Despite the controversy, we as a nation either welcomed may of the displaced families into our homes or provided them with food, clothing, and/or health related products which were so baldly needed.
For some, most, or all of us who are are sports fans, there were some events that happened that were either disappointing, awe-inspiring, or both. As many of you know, the Chicago White Sox won the 2005 World Series after 88 years, which vindicated them from a scandal where several players were accused of throwing the World Series against the Cincinnati Red back in 1919. On a side not, one of those men accused was baseball legend "Shoeless" Joe Hackson, who even though was acquitted of all criminal charges he received a lifetime ban from playing professional ball. Initially, what happened to them in the past was disappointed but it payed off big in the long run which kind of parallels their color counterparts the Boston Red Sox.
Personally speaking, there are two events that I will always remember and will keep not only in memory but in my heart as well. The first was opening the asylum doors and meeting the kids of Hurricane Katrina which, as said before, was a truly humbling experience. For myself and best friend were given the opportunity to spend several hours with these kids. What we gave back to them, for a few hours anyways, were smiles and laughter which I will never forget as long as I live. The second event was meeting a woman who unknowingly would give me two things back that I thought I lost years ago which were faith and hope in my own heart. As I tip my hat to you, I simply say thank you from the bottom of my heart.
In retrospect, there are many other events that happened in 2005 that touched the lives of many. The deaths of Pat Morita, Peter Jennings, Bob Denver, Johnny Carson, and comedy legend Richard Pryor were people who not only I grew up watching but you as well. Whether its Kanye West telling what he thinks of President Bush on live tv, voting in Iraq, the Tsunami, hurricanes in Florida, Lance Armstrong winning his 7th Tour De France, or Rafael Palmero getting his 3,000 hit but then lying to Congress about using steriods, these were some of the events that happened in 2005. In the end, we can collectively say welcome to 2006, but for 2005 three words come to mind...bye, bye, bye and its a song by Nsync that somewhat reflects this thought.
Politically speaking, 2005 was filled with some very news worthy stories that either made you cry, angry, confused, confrontational, be uplifted, or all of the above. One such tragedy is Hurricane Katrina that caused many people to not only lose their homes but their lives as well. Unfortunately, the immediate response to help was heard but aide arrived a little too late to where the blame game pointed fingers at the Bush Adminstration and to former FEMA director Mike Brown, who will and forever be considered a douche bag. Despite the controversy, we as a nation either welcomed may of the displaced families into our homes or provided them with food, clothing, and/or health related products which were so baldly needed.
For some, most, or all of us who are are sports fans, there were some events that happened that were either disappointing, awe-inspiring, or both. As many of you know, the Chicago White Sox won the 2005 World Series after 88 years, which vindicated them from a scandal where several players were accused of throwing the World Series against the Cincinnati Red back in 1919. On a side not, one of those men accused was baseball legend "Shoeless" Joe Hackson, who even though was acquitted of all criminal charges he received a lifetime ban from playing professional ball. Initially, what happened to them in the past was disappointed but it payed off big in the long run which kind of parallels their color counterparts the Boston Red Sox.
Personally speaking, there are two events that I will always remember and will keep not only in memory but in my heart as well. The first was opening the asylum doors and meeting the kids of Hurricane Katrina which, as said before, was a truly humbling experience. For myself and best friend were given the opportunity to spend several hours with these kids. What we gave back to them, for a few hours anyways, were smiles and laughter which I will never forget as long as I live. The second event was meeting a woman who unknowingly would give me two things back that I thought I lost years ago which were faith and hope in my own heart. As I tip my hat to you, I simply say thank you from the bottom of my heart.
In retrospect, there are many other events that happened in 2005 that touched the lives of many. The deaths of Pat Morita, Peter Jennings, Bob Denver, Johnny Carson, and comedy legend Richard Pryor were people who not only I grew up watching but you as well. Whether its Kanye West telling what he thinks of President Bush on live tv, voting in Iraq, the Tsunami, hurricanes in Florida, Lance Armstrong winning his 7th Tour De France, or Rafael Palmero getting his 3,000 hit but then lying to Congress about using steriods, these were some of the events that happened in 2005. In the end, we can collectively say welcome to 2006, but for 2005 three words come to mind...bye, bye, bye and its a song by Nsync that somewhat reflects this thought.
Sunday, December 25, 2005
Welcome Aboard
Socrates once said, ~Man must rise above the Earth--to the top of the atmosphere and beyond--for only thus will he fully understand the world which he live in.~ Without a doubt, air travel is the single most exhilerating experience that can bring joy, excitement, frustration, wonderment, anxiety, and fear all in one package. If you think about it, there's something about an airplance, whether you're looking at one up in the air, sitting in the runway as you look at it from the terminal, or sitting in one that brings out the little hyperactive kid inside you. Let me ask you this question, do you feel the same way I do or is it just my dorky and geeky self?
For some, most, or all people the aniticipation of getting ready to take off can be considered such an adrenaline rush. Yet, we've all had experiences where one's plane took seeminly forever to start its departure and there comes a point you start to get a bit edgy. Edgy, not in the sense of going ballistic to where you get beat up by the passengers, but edy in the sense that you want to be in the air amongst the clouds, birds, stars, etc. In any case, when you do finally depart you feel somewhat like Superman or Supergirl as you gradually rise up up and away into the wild blue yonder minus the cape and the tight fitting uniform, of course which wouldn't look good on someone like me...trust me on this.
Essentially, when you're in the air up there all your problems are left on the ground, but unfortunately they'll be waiting for. Anyways, when you look down at something so amazing from 30,000 ft or more, you see so much more than when you are on the ground. For the question can be asked, would you rather fly during the day or during at night? Personally speaking, I would rather fly during the night because at night you witness something so spectacular and beautiful as the bright lights illuminate the ground below. In those brief hourse you spend in the air, your problems are insignificant as you enjoy the entertainment outside and the inflight entertainment inside.
Being a military kid, flying was part of the routine and without failure I would sit next or near the wings. Before leaving Pensacola, the weather was rainy and there came a point where in the back of my mind I wanted to do something that was considered mischevious and a little bit twisted, but I didn't do it due in part to the passengers may beat me up for it. Now, if you're a fan of the Twilight Zone, you may remember the airplane episode with William Shatner and then later updated with John Lithgow. Yup, you guessed it as I wanted so badly to jump up out of my seat/scream out loud or tap the passenger sitting next to me and say that there is a monkey on the wing.
In retrospect, you are never too young or too old to enjoy flying on an airplane. Despite security checkpoints, passengers taking their sweet time putting their baggages away, people kicking your seat, mediorce meals, crying children, children who every ten seconds peek over the seat, waiting a lifetime to get your bags in the terminal, etc. it didn't take away from the fact that you were flying without wings. How many of us can truly say that we didn't have a smile on our face when we sat down in our seats, buckled our seatbelts, and waited with baited breath to take off. In the end, you're not officially flying until the captain comes over the loud speaker, greets the passengers, and says these two words which are welcome aboard.
For some, most, or all people the aniticipation of getting ready to take off can be considered such an adrenaline rush. Yet, we've all had experiences where one's plane took seeminly forever to start its departure and there comes a point you start to get a bit edgy. Edgy, not in the sense of going ballistic to where you get beat up by the passengers, but edy in the sense that you want to be in the air amongst the clouds, birds, stars, etc. In any case, when you do finally depart you feel somewhat like Superman or Supergirl as you gradually rise up up and away into the wild blue yonder minus the cape and the tight fitting uniform, of course which wouldn't look good on someone like me...trust me on this.
Essentially, when you're in the air up there all your problems are left on the ground, but unfortunately they'll be waiting for. Anyways, when you look down at something so amazing from 30,000 ft or more, you see so much more than when you are on the ground. For the question can be asked, would you rather fly during the day or during at night? Personally speaking, I would rather fly during the night because at night you witness something so spectacular and beautiful as the bright lights illuminate the ground below. In those brief hourse you spend in the air, your problems are insignificant as you enjoy the entertainment outside and the inflight entertainment inside.
Being a military kid, flying was part of the routine and without failure I would sit next or near the wings. Before leaving Pensacola, the weather was rainy and there came a point where in the back of my mind I wanted to do something that was considered mischevious and a little bit twisted, but I didn't do it due in part to the passengers may beat me up for it. Now, if you're a fan of the Twilight Zone, you may remember the airplane episode with William Shatner and then later updated with John Lithgow. Yup, you guessed it as I wanted so badly to jump up out of my seat/scream out loud or tap the passenger sitting next to me and say that there is a monkey on the wing.
In retrospect, you are never too young or too old to enjoy flying on an airplane. Despite security checkpoints, passengers taking their sweet time putting their baggages away, people kicking your seat, mediorce meals, crying children, children who every ten seconds peek over the seat, waiting a lifetime to get your bags in the terminal, etc. it didn't take away from the fact that you were flying without wings. How many of us can truly say that we didn't have a smile on our face when we sat down in our seats, buckled our seatbelts, and waited with baited breath to take off. In the end, you're not officially flying until the captain comes over the loud speaker, greets the passengers, and says these two words which are welcome aboard.
Friday, December 23, 2005
Believe
Someone once said, ~Faith is being willing to trust God, turning your hopes and problems over to Him and trusting in His wisdom and knowing that somehow everything will turn out for the best. No matter how difficult or dark things become, there is always a light. Its staying focused on the positive and being grateful for what you have. Its trusting that the right answer to a problem will come to you. It's waiting patiently until things get resolved. Its knowing that prayer can be answered in many ways.~ There comes a point in every person's life where they get real not only about themselves but also the faith one has when it falls under certain areas of life.
Personally speaking, I'm as real as anyone can be and all the words that I write down come from the core of my own beating heart to where they speak to you. Yet, there's one area in my life I've never fully kept my faith in and that's in the area of love. Having faith that it would one day come my way or people telling me that it will come my way was just something I didn't put much stock in and yet the questions remains, do I believe in the words that I write? My answer...yes, but you see for the past 12 years, I became a jaded person as I witnessed/heard people breaking up and/or go completely crazy due to it to a point where I put up a wall, closely guarded my own heart, and kept my distance to anyone who I got close to.
Let me share something with you, I'm the type of person who is analytical and will think things through to the ground. Not once have I truly let my heart speak because of what my mind was telling me to do, which was to always hold back and keep the feelings that I've kept hidden go free. Why? For the simple reason of not wanting to be/get hurt and go through the emotional rollercoaster that can metaphorically tear your own heart into pieces. Being a private person, it was my decision and my decision alone to not get close to anyone and even though it was hard, I managed to survive up to this point in my life.
Why don't you have a girlfriend or when you are getting married are two questions that I'm always asked? Its those two question that I'm sick and tired of hearing especially why I'm not married due to me turning 30 in two years. For every response I gave to that question I got back the response of you're not getting any younger you know which got really annoying, but I digress. Somewhere along the lines I basically stopped praying to where I lost faith and the belief that God would send someone into my life who is like me or somewhat close to it, which sounds funny and weird to hear but that's who I prayed for. For past 9 years, I've been metaphorically/emotionally lost within my own heart to where I also lost something very valuable...hope.
In the past several months, I slowly began to regain faith and hope that I thought I lost years ago due in part because of a truly special lady. Its been along time since I prayed for guidance on what to do when it involved matters of my own heart. In a way, God is testing my faith as to whether or not I will walk away or stand firm. I'm going for the latter as I am following my heart for a change and I'm scared to death I'm putting my faith in God because He knows what He is doing. In the end, a close and trusted friend said this to me ~Give the feelings you have wings, let them fly, and if they come back to you then you're meant to be; if not have faith as you pray to God because love will happen for you and all you have to simply do is believe.~
Personally speaking, I'm as real as anyone can be and all the words that I write down come from the core of my own beating heart to where they speak to you. Yet, there's one area in my life I've never fully kept my faith in and that's in the area of love. Having faith that it would one day come my way or people telling me that it will come my way was just something I didn't put much stock in and yet the questions remains, do I believe in the words that I write? My answer...yes, but you see for the past 12 years, I became a jaded person as I witnessed/heard people breaking up and/or go completely crazy due to it to a point where I put up a wall, closely guarded my own heart, and kept my distance to anyone who I got close to.
Let me share something with you, I'm the type of person who is analytical and will think things through to the ground. Not once have I truly let my heart speak because of what my mind was telling me to do, which was to always hold back and keep the feelings that I've kept hidden go free. Why? For the simple reason of not wanting to be/get hurt and go through the emotional rollercoaster that can metaphorically tear your own heart into pieces. Being a private person, it was my decision and my decision alone to not get close to anyone and even though it was hard, I managed to survive up to this point in my life.
Why don't you have a girlfriend or when you are getting married are two questions that I'm always asked? Its those two question that I'm sick and tired of hearing especially why I'm not married due to me turning 30 in two years. For every response I gave to that question I got back the response of you're not getting any younger you know which got really annoying, but I digress. Somewhere along the lines I basically stopped praying to where I lost faith and the belief that God would send someone into my life who is like me or somewhat close to it, which sounds funny and weird to hear but that's who I prayed for. For past 9 years, I've been metaphorically/emotionally lost within my own heart to where I also lost something very valuable...hope.
In the past several months, I slowly began to regain faith and hope that I thought I lost years ago due in part because of a truly special lady. Its been along time since I prayed for guidance on what to do when it involved matters of my own heart. In a way, God is testing my faith as to whether or not I will walk away or stand firm. I'm going for the latter as I am following my heart for a change and I'm scared to death I'm putting my faith in God because He knows what He is doing. In the end, a close and trusted friend said this to me ~Give the feelings you have wings, let them fly, and if they come back to you then you're meant to be; if not have faith as you pray to God because love will happen for you and all you have to simply do is believe.~
Wednesday, December 21, 2005
The Perfect Gift
Someone once said, ~The joy of brightening others lives, bearing each other's burdens, easing other's loads and supplanting empty hearts and lives with generous gifts become for us the magic of Christmas.~ Without a doubt, you can feel in the air as there is excitement and anticipation on an upcoming event that not only brings children joy but also the little kid inside every grown adult as well. You can't help but love Christmas as we all look forward to give and receive gifts for/from family, friends, a significant other, co-workers, and/or acquaintances. Let me ask you this question, when it comes to gift giving is money no object for that person or persons?
Essentially, every person knows what to get that certain someone who he or she has known or worked with for quite some time. Its just a matter of picking up on the clues as to what that particular persons interest are or interested in and working your way from there. Personally speaking, there have been two people that I work with who have been at the Asylum since I started and I know them pretty well to give them gifts they both would like. My best friend is a huge miami fan and anything that involves miami is his cup of tea, so to speak. My mentor, who taught me everything I know, loves Dr. Suess and anything that smells good such as incense, perfume, candles, soaps which she has already gotten by way of the kids of the Asylum.
Here's a little known fact, did you its toughest to shop for men that it is for women. Why? Well, men tend to get the same gifts when it falls either under their birthday, Father's Day, or Christmas, which are clothing such as ties or tools. If you think about its hard to shop for a man that sometimes says he doesn't want anything and for you just to save your money when you really need it, which gives that much more of an incentive to get dear old dad something that shows the family he is greatly appreciated. Whether its a BBQ grill the size of the Titanic or the George Forman Grill show the man in your life how you truly care about him.
Women, on the other hand, are typically easy to shop for because much of the products are advertized either on billbaords, tv, movies, the internet, as well as, magazines. As a guy, you can't go two steps without something hitting your peripheral vision on what a woman would like. On of those things that usually gets every guy's attention in commercials pertains to a woman's best friend which are diamonds. It would be safe to say that when I immediately said that, every woman's eyes immediately lit up with a smile and every guy, who may be reading this beside her, just slapped themselves in the forehead. Sorry guys, my bad.
In retrospect, gifts can come in all shapes, forms, and sizes to where the price tag is from reasonable to down right rediculious. So rediculous that you either have to put your house up as collateral or be a very rich person like Donald Trump. However the best gift you can every receive or give doesn't cost anything due to the fact it comes from your heart to people or that special someone. Its a gift that shows you're thinking about him or her and that you truly care enough that you simply gave of yourself. This Christmas 2005 give the gift that keeps on giving, for that gifts is love, which is, in the end, considered the perfect gift and a song that reflects this thought is by 98 Degress entitled This Gift.
Essentially, every person knows what to get that certain someone who he or she has known or worked with for quite some time. Its just a matter of picking up on the clues as to what that particular persons interest are or interested in and working your way from there. Personally speaking, there have been two people that I work with who have been at the Asylum since I started and I know them pretty well to give them gifts they both would like. My best friend is a huge miami fan and anything that involves miami is his cup of tea, so to speak. My mentor, who taught me everything I know, loves Dr. Suess and anything that smells good such as incense, perfume, candles, soaps which she has already gotten by way of the kids of the Asylum.
Here's a little known fact, did you its toughest to shop for men that it is for women. Why? Well, men tend to get the same gifts when it falls either under their birthday, Father's Day, or Christmas, which are clothing such as ties or tools. If you think about its hard to shop for a man that sometimes says he doesn't want anything and for you just to save your money when you really need it, which gives that much more of an incentive to get dear old dad something that shows the family he is greatly appreciated. Whether its a BBQ grill the size of the Titanic or the George Forman Grill show the man in your life how you truly care about him.
Women, on the other hand, are typically easy to shop for because much of the products are advertized either on billbaords, tv, movies, the internet, as well as, magazines. As a guy, you can't go two steps without something hitting your peripheral vision on what a woman would like. On of those things that usually gets every guy's attention in commercials pertains to a woman's best friend which are diamonds. It would be safe to say that when I immediately said that, every woman's eyes immediately lit up with a smile and every guy, who may be reading this beside her, just slapped themselves in the forehead. Sorry guys, my bad.
In retrospect, gifts can come in all shapes, forms, and sizes to where the price tag is from reasonable to down right rediculious. So rediculous that you either have to put your house up as collateral or be a very rich person like Donald Trump. However the best gift you can every receive or give doesn't cost anything due to the fact it comes from your heart to people or that special someone. Its a gift that shows you're thinking about him or her and that you truly care enough that you simply gave of yourself. This Christmas 2005 give the gift that keeps on giving, for that gifts is love, which is, in the end, considered the perfect gift and a song that reflects this thought is by 98 Degress entitled This Gift.
Sunday, December 18, 2005
Stick With You
Sigmund Frued once said, ~The great question...which I have not been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine sou, is what does a woman want? So...What does a woman want? That is the single most toughest question guys have been trying to figure out the answer to for years and the answer is every changing. As far as I know, what a woman wants when it pertains to that so called perfect guy is honesty, a sense of humor, intelligence, thoughfulness, a caring heart, notices the little things, etc. Let me ask you this question ladies, have you met this guy who makes you feel good, makes you feel happy, and makes you feel absolutely feel special in your heart, mind, and soul or are you still waiting for him?
Every woman wants a guy that will make her feel good inside to where the proverbial butterflies in her stomach will always be there. Its that warm and fuzzy feeling within one's heart that each time you it beats, it beats with for him every time you see, hear, and/or touch him. Unfortunately, that feeling is at times temporary due to the fact that certain women can have it and then lose it with just a snap of a finger like the wast of paste billionaire princess Paris Hilton. Fot it takes a real, special, genuine guy to keep that feeling alive in one's heart and soul to where its considered love at first sight every time you see him.
Love and happiness go hand in hand to a woman who finds a guy that will not only make her smile on the outside, but on the inside as well. Its doesn't take a lot to make a woman happy because all a man can ever give is himself and what women will get is something far more than she ever bargained for. For the question can be asked to you ladies, which kind of happiness would you rather have? The love of a manthat will make you happy for a lifetime or the happiness that money can bring to where you buy such material possessions such as jewelry, clothes, and/or clothes related accessories? Pick wisely because one will truly make you happy and the other will make you temporarily happy to where all you left is an empty voind in your heart.
Without a doubt, there is a guy who make you feel absolutely special each time you are around him andif you haven't met him yet...you will just be patient. If you want a description, he's the guy that will call for no reason just to say hi, send you flowers for appreciating your company, call you beautiful when you don't feel like or don't see it, will see how you are doing when you don't feel that well, will make you laugh when you are down just to see the smile on your face, and most of all he is the guy that will be there for you when you didn't even ask as a friend as he lends an ear to listen to you or shoulder to cry on.
In retrospect, when it seems like everybody around you is breaking up there is one constant and he is standing right there beside you. When it seems as if everyone is breaking up and throw their love away, he is the one that will stay by your side, not give up on you, and love you always. When it seems as though hearts are crashing and burning to the ground around you, he is the one that will you take your heart far beyond the clouds. In the end, its a rare thing indeed to find/meet a guy who meets every expectation and then some; but when it does finally happen you will look him in the eyes and say I love you and I going to forever stick with you which is a song by the female singing group PCD.
Every woman wants a guy that will make her feel good inside to where the proverbial butterflies in her stomach will always be there. Its that warm and fuzzy feeling within one's heart that each time you it beats, it beats with for him every time you see, hear, and/or touch him. Unfortunately, that feeling is at times temporary due to the fact that certain women can have it and then lose it with just a snap of a finger like the wast of paste billionaire princess Paris Hilton. Fot it takes a real, special, genuine guy to keep that feeling alive in one's heart and soul to where its considered love at first sight every time you see him.
Love and happiness go hand in hand to a woman who finds a guy that will not only make her smile on the outside, but on the inside as well. Its doesn't take a lot to make a woman happy because all a man can ever give is himself and what women will get is something far more than she ever bargained for. For the question can be asked to you ladies, which kind of happiness would you rather have? The love of a manthat will make you happy for a lifetime or the happiness that money can bring to where you buy such material possessions such as jewelry, clothes, and/or clothes related accessories? Pick wisely because one will truly make you happy and the other will make you temporarily happy to where all you left is an empty voind in your heart.
Without a doubt, there is a guy who make you feel absolutely special each time you are around him andif you haven't met him yet...you will just be patient. If you want a description, he's the guy that will call for no reason just to say hi, send you flowers for appreciating your company, call you beautiful when you don't feel like or don't see it, will see how you are doing when you don't feel that well, will make you laugh when you are down just to see the smile on your face, and most of all he is the guy that will be there for you when you didn't even ask as a friend as he lends an ear to listen to you or shoulder to cry on.
In retrospect, when it seems like everybody around you is breaking up there is one constant and he is standing right there beside you. When it seems as if everyone is breaking up and throw their love away, he is the one that will stay by your side, not give up on you, and love you always. When it seems as though hearts are crashing and burning to the ground around you, he is the one that will you take your heart far beyond the clouds. In the end, its a rare thing indeed to find/meet a guy who meets every expectation and then some; but when it does finally happen you will look him in the eyes and say I love you and I going to forever stick with you which is a song by the female singing group PCD.
Saturday, December 17, 2005
Wax On, Wax Off
Gichin Funakoshi said, ~You may train for along time, but if you merely move your hands and feelt and jump and dwon like a puppet, learning karate is not very different from learning to dance. You will never have reached the heart of the matter; you will have failed to gras the essence of karate.~ When it comes to learning marital arts there is a lot of time, patience, and discipline that is involved in a graceful but deadly artform. Whether its Kung Fu, Tae Kwon Do, Judo, Tai Chi, Aikido, Ninjitsu, Ju Jistu, Kick Boxing, Capoeria, etc. Whatever style it may be it should be taken serioulsy and not use what you were taught for personal vendetas or to start fights.
For the most part, every guy growing up learned martial arts the fun and old fashioned way, which was by way of osmosis through old classic dubbed kungu movies. Movies that when you came out the movie theater you started immitating the movies, jumping off the furniture, kicking/chopping whoever is near you like your own brother, and making sounds/noises like every guy's favorite martial arts legend Bruce Lee. As a guy, my favorite movie of his is Enter The Dragon with Game Of Death a close second. Undeniably, he was, is, and will always be THE MAN that every guy idolized and wanted to be as kid including myself.
Without a doubt, there won't be any other guy like him as his style, mannerisms, and phylosophy were both unique, as well as, one of a kind. For those that preceeded him have their own styles that make each of them unique to where hypthetical battles would be thought up to see who people think would win. Such names that would always be thrown into the proverbial hat are Jackie Chan, Jet Li, Marc Dacascos, and of course the legend himself Bruce Lee. A dream battle between these respected men that have been debated on can oftentimes turn into arguments as to who can kick whose butt. My personal opinion, my pick is Jet Li because he has the speed and quickness to kick butt within a blink of an eye.
Personally speaking, my brother and I took Tae Kwon Do for several months but I had to quit due to hyperextending my left knee, which hasn't been quite right since. On the upside, I can tell what the weather will be like by feeling my knee and to be perfectly honest it can be either wrong, right, or somewhere in the middle. Even though I quit, my brother didn't as he won several trophies in tournaments and made all the way to red belt before he decided to venture into something more challenging such as Kung Fu. Let me tell you something, as adults my brother and I have never gotten into a physical fight, but if we did I would get my head knocked off.
On Thanksgiving Day, Pat Morita died leaving behind many fans who grew up watching him, like myself. Even though he didn't teach martial arts off screen he was considered a true sensei on screen. He was and still is the quintessential television icon who will be best remembered as Mr. Miyagi the teacher/mentor to Ralph Machio's character Daniel-san in the 3 of 4 Karate Kid movies. It was the character of Mr. Miyagi that kids back in the day, me included, learned the crane kick and karate moves by doing a simple task like painting the fence. In the end, for me anyways, it all started with 4 words that became a classic catch phrase and those for words are wax on, wax off.
For the most part, every guy growing up learned martial arts the fun and old fashioned way, which was by way of osmosis through old classic dubbed kungu movies. Movies that when you came out the movie theater you started immitating the movies, jumping off the furniture, kicking/chopping whoever is near you like your own brother, and making sounds/noises like every guy's favorite martial arts legend Bruce Lee. As a guy, my favorite movie of his is Enter The Dragon with Game Of Death a close second. Undeniably, he was, is, and will always be THE MAN that every guy idolized and wanted to be as kid including myself.
Without a doubt, there won't be any other guy like him as his style, mannerisms, and phylosophy were both unique, as well as, one of a kind. For those that preceeded him have their own styles that make each of them unique to where hypthetical battles would be thought up to see who people think would win. Such names that would always be thrown into the proverbial hat are Jackie Chan, Jet Li, Marc Dacascos, and of course the legend himself Bruce Lee. A dream battle between these respected men that have been debated on can oftentimes turn into arguments as to who can kick whose butt. My personal opinion, my pick is Jet Li because he has the speed and quickness to kick butt within a blink of an eye.
Personally speaking, my brother and I took Tae Kwon Do for several months but I had to quit due to hyperextending my left knee, which hasn't been quite right since. On the upside, I can tell what the weather will be like by feeling my knee and to be perfectly honest it can be either wrong, right, or somewhere in the middle. Even though I quit, my brother didn't as he won several trophies in tournaments and made all the way to red belt before he decided to venture into something more challenging such as Kung Fu. Let me tell you something, as adults my brother and I have never gotten into a physical fight, but if we did I would get my head knocked off.
On Thanksgiving Day, Pat Morita died leaving behind many fans who grew up watching him, like myself. Even though he didn't teach martial arts off screen he was considered a true sensei on screen. He was and still is the quintessential television icon who will be best remembered as Mr. Miyagi the teacher/mentor to Ralph Machio's character Daniel-san in the 3 of 4 Karate Kid movies. It was the character of Mr. Miyagi that kids back in the day, me included, learned the crane kick and karate moves by doing a simple task like painting the fence. In the end, for me anyways, it all started with 4 words that became a classic catch phrase and those for words are wax on, wax off.
Thursday, December 15, 2005
That's Cool
Sheila G. Flaxman once said, ~Children engage in such (free) play because they enjoy it--it's self-directed. They do not play for rewards; they enjoy the doing, not the end result. Once they get bored, they go on to do something else--and continue to learn and grow.~ When it came to play back in the day, we ask kids never got bored doing what we did unlike the kids of today who get bored too easily because its not entertaining enough for them. Let me ask you this question, what did or do you enjoy doing that its considered fun/entertaining to where its a learning experience and made you grow as a person?
Personally speaking, working with kids for the past 9 years is truly entertaining and fun...most of the time. Its these kids who have endless amounts of energy as they run around to their hearts content like miniature energizer bunnies as they keep going and going and going. You oftentimes forget what its like to be a kid and not have so many responsibilites place on you, as well as, things to worry about. What's to worry about at 7 years old? I say nothing because their care free attitudes about life that makes you envious to switch places just for a moment or two to where doing something so childish to someone such as repeating every word or mimicking every movement would be an absolutely liberating experience.
Without a doubt, the funnest part about my job is the one on one interaction with "my kids" because you get to know each of them on an individual basis. As you get to know them you get to know their likes, dislikes, temperments, weaknesses, strengths, etc. Essentially, you become something more to that child or group of children than just a person who simply clocks in, does one's job, and then clocks out. It's that connection you have with children doesn't happen overnight, but sometimes it does and kids know immediately if they dislike you or welcome you with open arms. For it takes somenoe who genuinely likes being around kids to show others someone that there are people who still care about the youth of the nation.
However, its not only the connection you have with the kids that makes what I do awesome, its the connection you have with the parents as well. When it comes to parents or a parent they see the impact/influence you have on them to where they thank you personally for being part of his or her life. In a way myself and my fellow co-workers/ friends are second as an extended family member, though not blooded related because they talk about us at home. For Its that type of gratitude from a parent that makes all the headaches we go through well worth it all because you making a difference in his or her life even if it is for several hours each week.
About a month ago, one of my 6 & 7 year old girls invited my best friend and I to her birthday party on Saturday, which coincided with us seeing the movie Aeon Flux ealier that afternoon. By the way, it was a excellent movie that I highly recommend go seeing and buying when it comes out on DVD. Anyways, when we arrived and walked through the door her face lit up bright as can be and in that short time we spent with her it made not only her day but her mom's as well, which she thanked us for. We gave her gift, wished her a happy birthday, and took a picture with her. In retrospect, you never really know how big or small of an impact you make on children until you personally hear and/or see it firsthand and to me that's cool
Personally speaking, working with kids for the past 9 years is truly entertaining and fun...most of the time. Its these kids who have endless amounts of energy as they run around to their hearts content like miniature energizer bunnies as they keep going and going and going. You oftentimes forget what its like to be a kid and not have so many responsibilites place on you, as well as, things to worry about. What's to worry about at 7 years old? I say nothing because their care free attitudes about life that makes you envious to switch places just for a moment or two to where doing something so childish to someone such as repeating every word or mimicking every movement would be an absolutely liberating experience.
Without a doubt, the funnest part about my job is the one on one interaction with "my kids" because you get to know each of them on an individual basis. As you get to know them you get to know their likes, dislikes, temperments, weaknesses, strengths, etc. Essentially, you become something more to that child or group of children than just a person who simply clocks in, does one's job, and then clocks out. It's that connection you have with children doesn't happen overnight, but sometimes it does and kids know immediately if they dislike you or welcome you with open arms. For it takes somenoe who genuinely likes being around kids to show others someone that there are people who still care about the youth of the nation.
However, its not only the connection you have with the kids that makes what I do awesome, its the connection you have with the parents as well. When it comes to parents or a parent they see the impact/influence you have on them to where they thank you personally for being part of his or her life. In a way myself and my fellow co-workers/ friends are second as an extended family member, though not blooded related because they talk about us at home. For Its that type of gratitude from a parent that makes all the headaches we go through well worth it all because you making a difference in his or her life even if it is for several hours each week.
About a month ago, one of my 6 & 7 year old girls invited my best friend and I to her birthday party on Saturday, which coincided with us seeing the movie Aeon Flux ealier that afternoon. By the way, it was a excellent movie that I highly recommend go seeing and buying when it comes out on DVD. Anyways, when we arrived and walked through the door her face lit up bright as can be and in that short time we spent with her it made not only her day but her mom's as well, which she thanked us for. We gave her gift, wished her a happy birthday, and took a picture with her. In retrospect, you never really know how big or small of an impact you make on children until you personally hear and/or see it firsthand and to me that's cool
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
Collide
Someone once said, ~Two hearts, two minds, in time, did find, one love, one aim, two paths, the same. Rejoice! Hold fast! And love with last.~ If you think about it, each of us have spent or are spending time exploring the one place that nobody else can physically go but yourself and that is within your own heart. Its a journey that we all seem to go on as we metaphorically wander from within figuring out what our heart is telling us, as well as, who its pointing/directing you to someone else's heart. For its in that time of soul searching, you will find yourself going over who you are as a person. Let me ask you this question, when was the last time you did some quality soul searching?
The human heart is a small organ that can fit in the palm of your hand but has an absolute vastness to it as it stores feelings and emotions that are oftentimes overwhelming. For some, most or all people, it can truly be emotionally exhausting to keep hidden what's in your heart for a particular someone to where they eventually go away. Yet, they never really do go away as you still have small pieces of those feelings left that stick with you for either a short or long period of time. Each one of us have someone, either from our past or present, who we keep in a very special place in our heart and when you think about him or her it brings not a smile to your face but also tears as well.
In some aspect, a person's heart is like a time capsule as it holds certain feelings and emotions for a particular someone that you deem/deemed special in your life now or in the past. Its within that time capsule you tend to hold close the connection you had or still have with that person even though he or she may not be in your life. Whether it be a first love, an ex, a past or current crush, the feelings and the emotions that go with him or her will inevitably be brought to the surface no matter how deep you try to bury them. Essentially, it takes something such as looking at a yearbook, reading a letter, listening to a song, etc. that brings those feelings and emotions right back.
Thinking about it, love is basically a four letter word that is seemingly harmless, but when its attatched to someone special its considered dangerous. Why? Its due to the fact you're potentially letting go of all your feelings and emotions, as you let someone get so close to you that you are comfortable sharing everything such as your hopes, dreams, fears, goals for the future, etc. To perfectly honest, love is scary to me and its not the committment aspect of it because I'm willing to committ. Is the falling in love part tha does because I have never been in love and its that unknown which scares me. Yet it gives me assures me that I will one day experience it to the fullest with some that will love me back.
In the past few months, I did some serious soul searching as to who I am as a person. What I came up with was that I'm laid back, funny, non-judgemental, hard working, sarcastic, goofy, a loyal friend, and have a corny sense of humor. Yet, I'm shy, cautious, serious, quiet at times, and reserved to where I hold back certain thoughts, emotions and feelings that I have. Its within those thoughts, emotions and feelings that I use writing as an outlet to express myself. In the end, when it comes to being the person I am and the love I have within my heart, I will one day collide or already did collide with special someone, which is a song by Howie Day that somewhat reflects this thought.
The human heart is a small organ that can fit in the palm of your hand but has an absolute vastness to it as it stores feelings and emotions that are oftentimes overwhelming. For some, most or all people, it can truly be emotionally exhausting to keep hidden what's in your heart for a particular someone to where they eventually go away. Yet, they never really do go away as you still have small pieces of those feelings left that stick with you for either a short or long period of time. Each one of us have someone, either from our past or present, who we keep in a very special place in our heart and when you think about him or her it brings not a smile to your face but also tears as well.
In some aspect, a person's heart is like a time capsule as it holds certain feelings and emotions for a particular someone that you deem/deemed special in your life now or in the past. Its within that time capsule you tend to hold close the connection you had or still have with that person even though he or she may not be in your life. Whether it be a first love, an ex, a past or current crush, the feelings and the emotions that go with him or her will inevitably be brought to the surface no matter how deep you try to bury them. Essentially, it takes something such as looking at a yearbook, reading a letter, listening to a song, etc. that brings those feelings and emotions right back.
Thinking about it, love is basically a four letter word that is seemingly harmless, but when its attatched to someone special its considered dangerous. Why? Its due to the fact you're potentially letting go of all your feelings and emotions, as you let someone get so close to you that you are comfortable sharing everything such as your hopes, dreams, fears, goals for the future, etc. To perfectly honest, love is scary to me and its not the committment aspect of it because I'm willing to committ. Is the falling in love part tha does because I have never been in love and its that unknown which scares me. Yet it gives me assures me that I will one day experience it to the fullest with some that will love me back.
In the past few months, I did some serious soul searching as to who I am as a person. What I came up with was that I'm laid back, funny, non-judgemental, hard working, sarcastic, goofy, a loyal friend, and have a corny sense of humor. Yet, I'm shy, cautious, serious, quiet at times, and reserved to where I hold back certain thoughts, emotions and feelings that I have. Its within those thoughts, emotions and feelings that I use writing as an outlet to express myself. In the end, when it comes to being the person I am and the love I have within my heart, I will one day collide or already did collide with special someone, which is a song by Howie Day that somewhat reflects this thought.
Sunday, December 11, 2005
Behind These Eyes
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, ~He who is in love is wise and is becoming wiser, sees newly every time he look as the object beloved, drawing it with his eyes and his mind those virtues which it possesses.~ Essentially, every person has looked either at a drawing or a painting but let me ask you this question. When you look at a drawing or a painting what do you see? For some, most or all people they just see whats on the surface but for others they see something much more meaningful thats behind the painting itself, which keeps you interested. When it comes to love, whether you're a man or woman, it takes a person to continually see with fresh eyes the love you have within your heart, which never grows old no matter how old both of you get.
Without a doubt, the human body can break down to where certain areas of the body don't work like they used to or not at all. One particular part that usually goes is a person's vision and whether you're far sighted or near sighted, glasses or contacts are needed. In a sense, when there is a confusion in a person's heart as to whether he or she is in love, one's vision can be impaired to where you don't know which direction you heart is going. Every person has gone or is going through this and let me tell you something its no picnic to experience. For it takes someone real special to metaphorically put glasses on your heart to see clear as day to who you want to be with.
When it comes to relationships, potential and.or significant, ever person sees their significant other, but does he or she actually see him or her? Let me give you this challenge, ask you significat other to describe you and vice versa, but here's the catch you can't go by the physical features. Why? Primarily, its what a person usually goes by first and, in my opinion, in order for a potential and/or significant relationship to flourish you have to see beyond the person. In other words, look past the painting and see what makes that person special, unique, and worth loving. As with a painting, it takes a lot of time and patience to see what's there and when you truly see what's in front of you're eyes, you won't be dissapointed.
If you think about it, love is like a painting as it start off as a blank canvas and in some aspect two people's heart can be that way as well. As two people meet the colors on the palette of life start to be placed and as they get to know one another the friendship grows to where the colors are mixed together. Inevitably tha friendship turns from like to love and before you know it that metaphorical paintbrush has turned several brush strokes into something both can look back on and smile because no words can oftentimes describe what's been created. You can only just stand back, pray, and be thankful to the Master Painter, GOD, for painting a perfect portrait that you get to see and spend time with every day.
Someone once said, ~Love is like a painting in the beginning its only an idea, but over time, it is built up through errors and corrections till you have a breath taking work of art for all to see.~ In retrospect, love can be frustating as you can just stand there looking at a blank canvas for months or even years. Its not until you meet someone that totally inspires you that ideas will form to where something will be created from that inspiration. For the question can be asked, who is your inspiration than keeps your blank canvas constantly colorful? In the end, its when you look at that person you love and say, its behind these eyes that I see something new every day that nobody else can to where its love at first sight each time I see you.
Without a doubt, the human body can break down to where certain areas of the body don't work like they used to or not at all. One particular part that usually goes is a person's vision and whether you're far sighted or near sighted, glasses or contacts are needed. In a sense, when there is a confusion in a person's heart as to whether he or she is in love, one's vision can be impaired to where you don't know which direction you heart is going. Every person has gone or is going through this and let me tell you something its no picnic to experience. For it takes someone real special to metaphorically put glasses on your heart to see clear as day to who you want to be with.
When it comes to relationships, potential and.or significant, ever person sees their significant other, but does he or she actually see him or her? Let me give you this challenge, ask you significat other to describe you and vice versa, but here's the catch you can't go by the physical features. Why? Primarily, its what a person usually goes by first and, in my opinion, in order for a potential and/or significant relationship to flourish you have to see beyond the person. In other words, look past the painting and see what makes that person special, unique, and worth loving. As with a painting, it takes a lot of time and patience to see what's there and when you truly see what's in front of you're eyes, you won't be dissapointed.
If you think about it, love is like a painting as it start off as a blank canvas and in some aspect two people's heart can be that way as well. As two people meet the colors on the palette of life start to be placed and as they get to know one another the friendship grows to where the colors are mixed together. Inevitably tha friendship turns from like to love and before you know it that metaphorical paintbrush has turned several brush strokes into something both can look back on and smile because no words can oftentimes describe what's been created. You can only just stand back, pray, and be thankful to the Master Painter, GOD, for painting a perfect portrait that you get to see and spend time with every day.
Someone once said, ~Love is like a painting in the beginning its only an idea, but over time, it is built up through errors and corrections till you have a breath taking work of art for all to see.~ In retrospect, love can be frustating as you can just stand there looking at a blank canvas for months or even years. Its not until you meet someone that totally inspires you that ideas will form to where something will be created from that inspiration. For the question can be asked, who is your inspiration than keeps your blank canvas constantly colorful? In the end, its when you look at that person you love and say, its behind these eyes that I see something new every day that nobody else can to where its love at first sight each time I see you.
Friday, December 09, 2005
One Wish
Someone once said, ~When you think about it, life is strange. Some people believe in preordination, although I don't. Still, you grow up knowing that somewhere out there is a person you are going to fall in love with. You wonder what the person will be like. How she will look. How she will walk, talk, and what she will think. How she will smile. How will she laugh. There's no way of knowing of course, until you meet her. The realization that you finally met her comes as a wonderous discovery a peek into the works of life. This person is in your thoughts most of the time-all the time actually. You see her when you close your eyes, when you look off into the distance, and when you pause from what you are doing and take a deep breath.
Without a doubt, life can be strange when it comes to eventually meeting that special someone you will fall in love with for a lifetime. As a guy, you tend to walk through life telling/thinking to yourself that not having anybody special in your life is the best way to go for many different reasons which may or may not have merit. Oftentimes those reasons can turn into excuses and one of those excuses is that you're too busy so there is no time to pursue a relationship or to be in one for that matter. However, the strange thing about using that excuse is its not true and yet you can start to believe what your're saying for so long that its sounds true in your own mind, but in reality you're just scared.
When it comes to falling in love or liking a particular female of interest, its always scary particularly for the guy. Why? You have to look at it from our own perspective, its that intimidation factor combined with trying to figure out what she is thinking added with that two words every guy hates to hear which are "just friends." that makes it such a lethal 1-2-3 combo. From our standpoint, we can hear so many failed attempts at trying to cross over from "just friends" to more than friends that there comes a point where you just give up ever attempting to follow your heart to potential happiness. Its not until you meet that one woman you realize she's the one who is truly worth conquering you're fear for.
The question can be asked, how many guys can truly say they have someone truly special right in front of them and hopefully not mess it up for themselves? The answer is not many and you can bet there are guys out there who are beating themselves up, as well as, regretting what they did or said to the one that got away. Undeniably, women can truly appreciate the fact they they have a guy who is all that she ever expected and more. For a woman its that certain kind of magic that has the same familiar feeling and yet they experience something totally different from someone that is not like any other guy they've met, which is a rarity these days.
In retrospect, every guy will meet a woman who can make you lose your mind and yet can make you totally focused. A woman who can make you act all weird and yet can make you calm beyond belief. A woman who can paralyze you with a smile and yet can make your heart melt at the same time because of that smile. A woman who you can make you feel weak in the knees for and yet can make you stronger every time you are around her. A woman who can make you forget how to breathe and yet can breathe new life into you. In the end, with Christmas being around the corner, my one wish is to meet this woman and you know what, I may already have.
Without a doubt, life can be strange when it comes to eventually meeting that special someone you will fall in love with for a lifetime. As a guy, you tend to walk through life telling/thinking to yourself that not having anybody special in your life is the best way to go for many different reasons which may or may not have merit. Oftentimes those reasons can turn into excuses and one of those excuses is that you're too busy so there is no time to pursue a relationship or to be in one for that matter. However, the strange thing about using that excuse is its not true and yet you can start to believe what your're saying for so long that its sounds true in your own mind, but in reality you're just scared.
When it comes to falling in love or liking a particular female of interest, its always scary particularly for the guy. Why? You have to look at it from our own perspective, its that intimidation factor combined with trying to figure out what she is thinking added with that two words every guy hates to hear which are "just friends." that makes it such a lethal 1-2-3 combo. From our standpoint, we can hear so many failed attempts at trying to cross over from "just friends" to more than friends that there comes a point where you just give up ever attempting to follow your heart to potential happiness. Its not until you meet that one woman you realize she's the one who is truly worth conquering you're fear for.
The question can be asked, how many guys can truly say they have someone truly special right in front of them and hopefully not mess it up for themselves? The answer is not many and you can bet there are guys out there who are beating themselves up, as well as, regretting what they did or said to the one that got away. Undeniably, women can truly appreciate the fact they they have a guy who is all that she ever expected and more. For a woman its that certain kind of magic that has the same familiar feeling and yet they experience something totally different from someone that is not like any other guy they've met, which is a rarity these days.
In retrospect, every guy will meet a woman who can make you lose your mind and yet can make you totally focused. A woman who can make you act all weird and yet can make you calm beyond belief. A woman who can paralyze you with a smile and yet can make your heart melt at the same time because of that smile. A woman who you can make you feel weak in the knees for and yet can make you stronger every time you are around her. A woman who can make you forget how to breathe and yet can breathe new life into you. In the end, with Christmas being around the corner, my one wish is to meet this woman and you know what, I may already have.
Tuesday, December 06, 2005
More Than Meets The Eye
Khalil Gibran once said, ~Your children are not your children. They are thes sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, and yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love, but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls. For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backwards, not tarries with yesterday.~ When or if you ever get a chance to visit the asylum, you will see us interact and have fun with the kids, but its what you don't see that makes our job such a challenge.
For some, most, or all people working as a youth program specialist, a more fancier term than saying recreational aide, is considered to them an easy and fun job where you can basically goof off, as well as, reconnect with your inner child. To a certain extent that's true but a lot of hard work goes on behind the scenes, so to speak, as there are many facets of the job not too many people get to see and/or experience when one either signs up to work at the insane asylum or just merely an observer and/or parent. For if the asylum were given the opportunity to showed the other side of the spectrum like in a documentary type setting such MTV Diaries, we would do it to show the so called "outsiders" that its not always fun and games.
Without a doubt, a person will experience the full force of insanity once you are thrown to the wolves so to speak, and when I mean the wolves I mean the kids. However, that just a small taste compared to the hours of required training, cpr/first aide classes, weekly meeting, making daily schedules, finishing modules which can be oh so fun and yet if you have the right staff attending, a potentially boring situation turns into hilarity and mischeviousness. Its within those hours of training we brush up on apsects of the job such as health preparedness, customer relations with kids and adults, spotting child abuse, and let me tell you something there are countless stories can be told concerning child abuse that can make you angry or cry.
Yet, the question remains what do you do when all the training you have received doesn't prepare you to hear news that a child who attends or once attended the asylum passed away. Personally speaking, it can truly be a tough situation for not only us as their counselors to take that bit of news, but also to their friends as we have to be the bearer of bad news. Its at that point, where the training goes out the window and you are there for them as just a friend to have a shoulder to cry on or simply talk to if they want to. In some ways, you lose a piece of yourself as they take a piece of you to a better off place, but you know you'll see that child again someday.
In retrospect, when you become part of the asylum family you basically play a small part in the lives of the kids who you see on a semi-daily basis. I often refer to "my kids" as "children of the corn" which I use as a term of endearment but they do grow on you as they show you love and you reciprocate that love back. There have been many days where I have felt absolutely crappy and its "my kids" who have picked me up and put a smile on my face when I needed one. Its these same kids who at time don't listen, talk back, and have temper tantrums seemingly every day. Ultimately, even though they aren't my kids, they will always be "my kids" in my eyes no matter how old they are. In the end, if you're an "outsider" looking in, there is more than meets the eye going on when you think/see its just an easy job that we have fun at.
For some, most, or all people working as a youth program specialist, a more fancier term than saying recreational aide, is considered to them an easy and fun job where you can basically goof off, as well as, reconnect with your inner child. To a certain extent that's true but a lot of hard work goes on behind the scenes, so to speak, as there are many facets of the job not too many people get to see and/or experience when one either signs up to work at the insane asylum or just merely an observer and/or parent. For if the asylum were given the opportunity to showed the other side of the spectrum like in a documentary type setting such MTV Diaries, we would do it to show the so called "outsiders" that its not always fun and games.
Without a doubt, a person will experience the full force of insanity once you are thrown to the wolves so to speak, and when I mean the wolves I mean the kids. However, that just a small taste compared to the hours of required training, cpr/first aide classes, weekly meeting, making daily schedules, finishing modules which can be oh so fun and yet if you have the right staff attending, a potentially boring situation turns into hilarity and mischeviousness. Its within those hours of training we brush up on apsects of the job such as health preparedness, customer relations with kids and adults, spotting child abuse, and let me tell you something there are countless stories can be told concerning child abuse that can make you angry or cry.
Yet, the question remains what do you do when all the training you have received doesn't prepare you to hear news that a child who attends or once attended the asylum passed away. Personally speaking, it can truly be a tough situation for not only us as their counselors to take that bit of news, but also to their friends as we have to be the bearer of bad news. Its at that point, where the training goes out the window and you are there for them as just a friend to have a shoulder to cry on or simply talk to if they want to. In some ways, you lose a piece of yourself as they take a piece of you to a better off place, but you know you'll see that child again someday.
In retrospect, when you become part of the asylum family you basically play a small part in the lives of the kids who you see on a semi-daily basis. I often refer to "my kids" as "children of the corn" which I use as a term of endearment but they do grow on you as they show you love and you reciprocate that love back. There have been many days where I have felt absolutely crappy and its "my kids" who have picked me up and put a smile on my face when I needed one. Its these same kids who at time don't listen, talk back, and have temper tantrums seemingly every day. Ultimately, even though they aren't my kids, they will always be "my kids" in my eyes no matter how old they are. In the end, if you're an "outsider" looking in, there is more than meets the eye going on when you think/see its just an easy job that we have fun at.
Friday, December 02, 2005
I'll Be
Someone once said, ~When you love someone, say it. Say it loud. Say it right away, or the moment just passes you by.~ Without a doubt, the three words that can make the biggest impact and mean so much are I LOVE YOU. It can most definitely stop a person from what one is doing as it pierces his or her heart not only personally but also emotionally as well. Let me ask you this question, who was the last person who said those three very deep meaning words to you (besides mom and dad) and did you say it back to that special someone who means so much to you? Essentially, when it comes to saying I love you there is a growing debate as to who should say first: men, women, or whoever feels it the most in his or her heart?
For a guy's perspective, times have now changed where the girl can say I love you to the guy. You have to look at it from our point of view as we're basic/simplistic and let's be honest here we're alos stupid. As a guy, we will wonder if that woman of interest actually cares for us deeply to where when of if she says it we will do something totally off the wall such as do flips, scream out loud, hug/hig five total strangers, or do all of the above. Let me tell you something ladies, there is so much going in our heads that its impossible to focus on one complete thought let alone other thoughts concerning you that it actually hurts our heads and you wonder why there are so many guys messed up in the head out there.
Yet, from a woman's standpoint, its the guy who should say I love you first. Why? In their minds, its the guy who should ask the woman out, the guy who should as the woman to marry him, and most definitely its the guy who should ask the woman father for her daughter's hand in marriage, which is tradition and that's what I will do someday. In a woman's mind, it means so much more that the guy says for the simple reason that you want to know how he truly feels for you and genuinely means it, which can be an unknown for some, most, or all women. However, it really depends on the guy who considered to be "too good to be true" for you and you are in amazement that he is in your life or you want that guy personally in your life, as well as, in your heart.
When it comes to saying I love you, there are those who believe that whoever feels it the most in his or her heart should say it first. In their own thinking, if you truly, madly, deeply love someone you should say/speak it from your heart and soul only if you've known that guy or girl for several months/years rather than days/weeks. For the most part, it doesn't even have to be the actual words I love you. As a matter of fact, it can be something heartfelt such as you captured my heart, you're my world, I think I'm falling in love with you, etc. whatever the case may be. Its all in how you convey those words and how you look at him or her that makes the "L" word so powerful to so many people who are in love.
George Jean Nathan said, ~A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.~ In retrospect, that is how love oftentimes is for both men and woman as you eventually find that one special person who you can open with about everything not be afraid. In my honest opinion, it doesn't matter whether a man or woman says it first, if its true love between both of them then he, she, or both will say to each other, I'll be loving you forever and its song by Westlife which I am dedicating to those couples, married or dating, who are truly in love.
For a guy's perspective, times have now changed where the girl can say I love you to the guy. You have to look at it from our point of view as we're basic/simplistic and let's be honest here we're alos stupid. As a guy, we will wonder if that woman of interest actually cares for us deeply to where when of if she says it we will do something totally off the wall such as do flips, scream out loud, hug/hig five total strangers, or do all of the above. Let me tell you something ladies, there is so much going in our heads that its impossible to focus on one complete thought let alone other thoughts concerning you that it actually hurts our heads and you wonder why there are so many guys messed up in the head out there.
Yet, from a woman's standpoint, its the guy who should say I love you first. Why? In their minds, its the guy who should ask the woman out, the guy who should as the woman to marry him, and most definitely its the guy who should ask the woman father for her daughter's hand in marriage, which is tradition and that's what I will do someday. In a woman's mind, it means so much more that the guy says for the simple reason that you want to know how he truly feels for you and genuinely means it, which can be an unknown for some, most, or all women. However, it really depends on the guy who considered to be "too good to be true" for you and you are in amazement that he is in your life or you want that guy personally in your life, as well as, in your heart.
When it comes to saying I love you, there are those who believe that whoever feels it the most in his or her heart should say it first. In their own thinking, if you truly, madly, deeply love someone you should say/speak it from your heart and soul only if you've known that guy or girl for several months/years rather than days/weeks. For the most part, it doesn't even have to be the actual words I love you. As a matter of fact, it can be something heartfelt such as you captured my heart, you're my world, I think I'm falling in love with you, etc. whatever the case may be. Its all in how you convey those words and how you look at him or her that makes the "L" word so powerful to so many people who are in love.
George Jean Nathan said, ~A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.~ In retrospect, that is how love oftentimes is for both men and woman as you eventually find that one special person who you can open with about everything not be afraid. In my honest opinion, it doesn't matter whether a man or woman says it first, if its true love between both of them then he, she, or both will say to each other, I'll be loving you forever and its song by Westlife which I am dedicating to those couples, married or dating, who are truly in love.
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