Scratching The Surface

If you think about it, love can take shape in many different forms, big or small it really doesn't matter. For it's been said that if you stop looking then that will be the time it will show up at your doorstep so to speak. Do you think this is true? Let me ask you this question, when one is in search of that so-called perfect person, he or she will sometimes settle for someone that doesn't really make him or her happy. One can witness so many relationships fail and in turn second guess your own potential relationship that will one day become a serious relationship. As it has been said before, a person can have a sense of false hope that will have a person get one's heart broken every time.

Every guy at some point has tried to hook up with a female friend, but in the end it is the decision to be "just friends" in her eyes alone. Though that unrequited love was never reciprocated, that friendship is still intact. Yet, it can be truly disconcerting when you become the proverbial shoulder to cry on when dates or that significant relationship didn't work out well. The go-to-guy to hear all the qualities that didn't necessarily make that particular guy the prince charming that he turned out to be, which was known all along and warned about about several times. It can be a frustrating situation indeed when she says she wants someone like you, but not you and that can be taken as a compliment, as well as, an insult.

In any case, life can be considered great, but when that one person you fall in love with shows up, life just gets even better. It's that one person that you unknowingly send a vibe that sends a message to him or her that you are absolutely comfortable with yourself to be around that person. He or she is the one that will tell you to continue to be who you are, which make you unique and distinguishable among the rest of the pack. A person has to learn to be able to accept one's idiosyncrasies, however strange or annoying it may be to me, which shows a growing love for each other. Inevitably, that person will absolutely appreciate and hopefully not take for granted what one has in front of him or her.

Undoubtedly, each of us would like to think that the person we fall in love with is the one that we spend the rest of our nights and days with. It can be a daunting task to keep wasting one's time opening up one's heart to that guy or girl and just have that person break it all over again. It basically comes back to the issue of trust as you are placing your heart in that person's hands. A person just has to learn from experience and hopefully one's heart doesn't turn black as night to the possibility that he or she will find true love. Though the pain we each suffer at times is disguised as that so-called handsome guy or beautiful woman, one will ultimately get stronger in mind, body, soul and especially in your heart.

In retrospect, I don't claim to be an expert in these matters. I just say what I feel and observe what is around me on a semi-daily basis. The past Yodaisms that I've written and sent out are thoughts written down on paper to help grasp a sometimes confusing thing such as life, love, family, and/or relationships. Oftentimes, when it comes to love you have to give a little to get more back. Ladies will encounter jerks and guys will cross paths with that heartbreaker, it's a given. One just has to truly see the person who is standing in front of you and what you might find can scare you, but make you smile. In the end, a person just has to keep scratching the surface until what is revealed underneath is the guy or girl one has been waiting a lifetime for.