For Better Or For Worse

Anthony Storr once said, ~A happy marriage perhaps represents the ideal of human relationship - a setting in which each partner, while acknowledges the need of the other, feels free to be what he or she by nature is: a relationship in which instincts as well as intellect can find _expression; in which giving and taking are equal, in which each accepts the other, and I confronts Thou.~ Many topics that have come to my mind and in turn have been formulated into Yoda-isms. The one topic that I have somewhat avoid, due to my *poptomistic view on it, and has gotten my grears a movin' in the old noggin' is the topic of marriage." *poptomistic- a combination of pessimistic and optimistic

In some aspect, marriage is like building a house, because if you think about it, it takes the right kind of materials to build a strong, sturdy, house that will not fall down or be destroyed by elements such as anger, resentment, jealousy, etc. In a way, both a husband and a wife can be somewhat compared to building contracts. Together, they have floor plan/blueprint of a union that will continually change as time goes on. It's a change that is hopefully for the better, rather than no change at all, which can sometimes be a bad sign indeed. In today's society, some people give up so easily on marriage; but it's nice to see couples who have stuck with it and lasted more than 40 years.

Primarily what holds a house together is the cement and/or nails depending on what type of house the two are building. Think about this, what continually holds a marriage together is the keeping the romance alive and keeping the passions within that marriage burning. Ways to keep the romance alive is continually noticing the little things, which women will remember and never forget about. Other ways are giving flowers just to show that one's thoughts are always on his or her spouse. Another way to keep proverbial fires burning within is taking one's spouse on a date, which shows that one still knows how to be romantic. Ultimately, what will continually keep the romance alive is looking deep into your true love's eyes each day and saying these three little words, I LOVE YOU.

With every house, in order for it be built, it needs a solid foundation. That solid foundation in building one's house is communication, because it takes two people to take to each other and work out problems that will either patch up the damages or make the damages even greater. It's a sad situation indeed when you see a house that is poorly built because the romance has faded, the passion has burned out, and there is no longer communcation between the contractors. Inevitably, what is need is an extreme makeover: home edition; am am extreme makeover in which both spouses go back to square one and build back up what they gradually lost.

Someone once said, ~The easiest part of marriage is falling in love and walking down the aisle. The most difficult part of marriage is 10 years later when the problems have ensued and issues have come about and still find love. Marriage is not about the beginning, marriage is about the process and still being able to love through all things.~ In retrospect, two seperate souls walking the earth but are intertwined and it only takes a small tangle in the thread of life to have two souls meet, fall in love, and get married. For better or for worse, till death do you part, as long as you both shall live; a vow that each of us is holding true or will someday day hold true.