In some aspect, life can be considered a relay race which each of us is preparing to run the greatest race of our lives. Yet, there will be circumstance that will hold us back from either finishing the race or crossing the finishing line and attaining a medal. One such circumstance is the past because, in a way, it's a giant weight that will slow us down and keep us from moving forward with the present and into the future. Someone once said, ~What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment, you can choose to to make everything new, right now.~
If you think about it, from brith to our teenage years our parents are immediately training and guiding us to something much greater in life. As one's proverbial track coaches, they push us to excel even though experience has somewhat taught that parents tend to relive their past youth through their kids. Oftentimes, the training and guidance that they give can bring resentment, as well as pain, both mentally and physically; but that's the past. For the expectations that were pushed beyond one's limits, are put to the test as the gun sounds. One must continue to look straight ahead as one will eventually pass the baton, which signifies a handing over of a childhood that is past to adulthood that is present.
As one run straight forward into adulthood, he or she will hopefully not drop the baton, a mistake that can sometimes haunt a person. It's a matter of keeping focus on the task at hand but sometimes pictures of the past will tend to pop from time to time. Images, which represent certain people that have made an impact in one life both personally and professionally, will flash in one's mind. Yet, if one reminices too long, a person will become distracted and lose focus on where he or she is. Inevitably, all that one has worked hard for will be lost, for a great deal of time and effort will be wasted as the baton is passed from the present to the future.
Joe Henderson once said, ~Your toughness is made up of equal pars of persistance and experience. You don't so much outrun your opponent as outlast and outsmart them and the toughest opponent of all is the one inside our head.~ In a way, as the baton is passed on into our latter years, the past mistakes and pain that we have endured and/or inflicted, both mentally and physically, will be forgotten. It's just a matter of taking each step stride by stride, as one is getting ever so much closer to that finish line of life. Ultimately, it's not about winning that matters; what matters is that you were prepared to win and never gave up on the relay race of life.
In retrospect, as one gets older the race of life, though strenuous; is the most rewarding experience a person will ever be a part of. Though, one's time will become slower as one gets older in mind, body and soul; the experiences of the racing is simply unforgettable. Each step in the race represented our own personal drama that each of us endured, challenges that pulled us in ever possible direction or another, but most of all it helped us learn more about us and others. In the end, our greatest rival when running the relay race of life will always be the past; so when it comes to the past, don't look back because you may just stumble and/or fall.
Tuesday, November 30, 2004
Ultimate Goal
Claude M. Bristol said, ~The person with a fixed goal, a clear picture of his desire, or an ideal always before him, causes it, through repetition, to be buried deeply in his subconscious mind and is thus enabled, thanks to its generative and sustaining power, to realize his goal in a minimum of time and with a minimum of physical effort. Just pursue the thought unceasingly. Step by step you will achieve realization, for all your faculties and powers become directed to that end.~ Every person from the time that he or she was a teenager has had or still has an ultimate goal in life. A goal that is a burning desire in one's mind, heart, and soul; and though it's far off in the distance, one can clearly see it from where he or she is.
Let me ask you this question, what is your ultimate goal in life and have you achieved it or are you still trying to achieve that particular goal? It's somewhat of a great motivator for a person as he or she wakes up each morning and strives to be the very best at one does and in turn one's specific door of opportunity will be opened. Yet, for some people short cuts are the way to go as one wants to find that back door in; but what will that accomplish? It's just a stepping stone to nowhere that will locked out of the house, in a manner of speaking. Fot that person didn't earn the blood, sweat, and tears that other people worked their tails off, so to speak, to get to the pinnacle of one's personal and/or professional life.
In a way, each of us can be considered Indiana Jones trying to attain that proverbial Holy Grail. That Holy Grail, which is different for each of us can somewhat signify making a mark in one's personal history book of life. Though it may not mean any importance in the annuals of what is going on in the world today, it is important to each of us who wants to prove something. In some aspect, it's not so much proving it to others, it's proving it to yourself that if you set your mind to it, work hard, and not give up one's ultimate goal will be achieved. It's just a matter of have that one basic commodity that is precious to each and every one of us and that is patience.
Sometimes a person can literally be obsessed with getting that ultimate goal, as well as, achieving it. If compared to, it would be like the Lord of the Rings' character Smeagol who couldn't live without having his one and only precious which would be the ring. He would do anything to have it back in his hands because it contained absolute power. That obsession, as you know, was his downfall because it overtook his mindset. If you think about it, each of us can be like Smeagol in a way, because one's absolute power is our own ambition which can either attain absolute victory and/or absolute defeat as one tries or is trying to achieve his or her ultimate goal, whatever it may be.
In the whole scheme of things, the ultimate goal or goals that we have set for ourselves will always be there. It's not going to simply walk away or disappear when you close your eyes or turn around. Ultimately, the best course of action for each of us is to continue on our own personal journey of life. A journey, in which you will experience what life has to offer, seeing the world and what it has to offer, as well as, meeting that one special person who will make an unknowingly definite impact in one's seemingly complicated, yet simplistic life. I'll end this Yoda-ism with a quote that best sums up this particular thought which is: ~Never be consumed with goal that you fail to enjoy the journey.~
Let me ask you this question, what is your ultimate goal in life and have you achieved it or are you still trying to achieve that particular goal? It's somewhat of a great motivator for a person as he or she wakes up each morning and strives to be the very best at one does and in turn one's specific door of opportunity will be opened. Yet, for some people short cuts are the way to go as one wants to find that back door in; but what will that accomplish? It's just a stepping stone to nowhere that will locked out of the house, in a manner of speaking. Fot that person didn't earn the blood, sweat, and tears that other people worked their tails off, so to speak, to get to the pinnacle of one's personal and/or professional life.
In a way, each of us can be considered Indiana Jones trying to attain that proverbial Holy Grail. That Holy Grail, which is different for each of us can somewhat signify making a mark in one's personal history book of life. Though it may not mean any importance in the annuals of what is going on in the world today, it is important to each of us who wants to prove something. In some aspect, it's not so much proving it to others, it's proving it to yourself that if you set your mind to it, work hard, and not give up one's ultimate goal will be achieved. It's just a matter of have that one basic commodity that is precious to each and every one of us and that is patience.
Sometimes a person can literally be obsessed with getting that ultimate goal, as well as, achieving it. If compared to, it would be like the Lord of the Rings' character Smeagol who couldn't live without having his one and only precious which would be the ring. He would do anything to have it back in his hands because it contained absolute power. That obsession, as you know, was his downfall because it overtook his mindset. If you think about it, each of us can be like Smeagol in a way, because one's absolute power is our own ambition which can either attain absolute victory and/or absolute defeat as one tries or is trying to achieve his or her ultimate goal, whatever it may be.
In the whole scheme of things, the ultimate goal or goals that we have set for ourselves will always be there. It's not going to simply walk away or disappear when you close your eyes or turn around. Ultimately, the best course of action for each of us is to continue on our own personal journey of life. A journey, in which you will experience what life has to offer, seeing the world and what it has to offer, as well as, meeting that one special person who will make an unknowingly definite impact in one's seemingly complicated, yet simplistic life. I'll end this Yoda-ism with a quote that best sums up this particular thought which is: ~Never be consumed with goal that you fail to enjoy the journey.~
Sunday, November 28, 2004
For Better Or For Worse
Anthony Storr once said, ~A happy marriage perhaps represents the ideal of human relationship - a setting in which each partner, while acknowledges the need of the other, feels free to be what he or she by nature is: a relationship in which instincts as well as intellect can find _expression; in which giving and taking are equal, in which each accepts the other, and I confronts Thou.~ Many topics that have come to my mind and in turn have been formulated into Yoda-isms. The one topic that I have somewhat avoid, due to my *poptomistic view on it, and has gotten my grears a movin' in the old noggin' is the topic of marriage." *poptomistic- a combination of pessimistic and optimistic
In some aspect, marriage is like building a house, because if you think about it, it takes the right kind of materials to build a strong, sturdy, house that will not fall down or be destroyed by elements such as anger, resentment, jealousy, etc. In a way, both a husband and a wife can be somewhat compared to building contracts. Together, they have floor plan/blueprint of a union that will continually change as time goes on. It's a change that is hopefully for the better, rather than no change at all, which can sometimes be a bad sign indeed. In today's society, some people give up so easily on marriage; but it's nice to see couples who have stuck with it and lasted more than 40 years.
Primarily what holds a house together is the cement and/or nails depending on what type of house the two are building. Think about this, what continually holds a marriage together is the keeping the romance alive and keeping the passions within that marriage burning. Ways to keep the romance alive is continually noticing the little things, which women will remember and never forget about. Other ways are giving flowers just to show that one's thoughts are always on his or her spouse. Another way to keep proverbial fires burning within is taking one's spouse on a date, which shows that one still knows how to be romantic. Ultimately, what will continually keep the romance alive is looking deep into your true love's eyes each day and saying these three little words, I LOVE YOU.
With every house, in order for it be built, it needs a solid foundation. That solid foundation in building one's house is communication, because it takes two people to take to each other and work out problems that will either patch up the damages or make the damages even greater. It's a sad situation indeed when you see a house that is poorly built because the romance has faded, the passion has burned out, and there is no longer communcation between the contractors. Inevitably, what is need is an extreme makeover: home edition; am am extreme makeover in which both spouses go back to square one and build back up what they gradually lost.
Someone once said, ~The easiest part of marriage is falling in love and walking down the aisle. The most difficult part of marriage is 10 years later when the problems have ensued and issues have come about and still find love. Marriage is not about the beginning, marriage is about the process and still being able to love through all things.~ In retrospect, two seperate souls walking the earth but are intertwined and it only takes a small tangle in the thread of life to have two souls meet, fall in love, and get married. For better or for worse, till death do you part, as long as you both shall live; a vow that each of us is holding true or will someday day hold true.
In some aspect, marriage is like building a house, because if you think about it, it takes the right kind of materials to build a strong, sturdy, house that will not fall down or be destroyed by elements such as anger, resentment, jealousy, etc. In a way, both a husband and a wife can be somewhat compared to building contracts. Together, they have floor plan/blueprint of a union that will continually change as time goes on. It's a change that is hopefully for the better, rather than no change at all, which can sometimes be a bad sign indeed. In today's society, some people give up so easily on marriage; but it's nice to see couples who have stuck with it and lasted more than 40 years.
Primarily what holds a house together is the cement and/or nails depending on what type of house the two are building. Think about this, what continually holds a marriage together is the keeping the romance alive and keeping the passions within that marriage burning. Ways to keep the romance alive is continually noticing the little things, which women will remember and never forget about. Other ways are giving flowers just to show that one's thoughts are always on his or her spouse. Another way to keep proverbial fires burning within is taking one's spouse on a date, which shows that one still knows how to be romantic. Ultimately, what will continually keep the romance alive is looking deep into your true love's eyes each day and saying these three little words, I LOVE YOU.
With every house, in order for it be built, it needs a solid foundation. That solid foundation in building one's house is communication, because it takes two people to take to each other and work out problems that will either patch up the damages or make the damages even greater. It's a sad situation indeed when you see a house that is poorly built because the romance has faded, the passion has burned out, and there is no longer communcation between the contractors. Inevitably, what is need is an extreme makeover: home edition; am am extreme makeover in which both spouses go back to square one and build back up what they gradually lost.
Someone once said, ~The easiest part of marriage is falling in love and walking down the aisle. The most difficult part of marriage is 10 years later when the problems have ensued and issues have come about and still find love. Marriage is not about the beginning, marriage is about the process and still being able to love through all things.~ In retrospect, two seperate souls walking the earth but are intertwined and it only takes a small tangle in the thread of life to have two souls meet, fall in love, and get married. For better or for worse, till death do you part, as long as you both shall live; a vow that each of us is holding true or will someday day hold true.
Friday, November 26, 2004
Making A Difference
Every person comes to a point in one's own profession in which he or she wonders if there is anything being accomplished at all. I've often asked myself if there is any self gratification for working in a place that will contribute to his or her hearing loss, add to the growing number of gray hairs, and possibly reconsider having kids in the near future. Working at the asylum for a long period of time will turn any happy-go-lucky person into a cynical and sarcastic person, a transformation that doesn't happen in an instant, but through time. It's a combination of broken promises, friction amongst friend and/or wo-workers, and seemingly long hours doing the same thing over and over again.
It's that constant cycle that can make a person feel edgy and somwhat frustrated that things, in one's own mind, will never change. In a way, it's like being stuck in the middle of a deserted island and you have no way of getting off it. Each one of us has a routine that one goes through andif that particular routine is broken then the shiznit hits the fan, in a manner of speaking. In some way, a person welcomes the mediocrity that is oftentimes a seemingly never ending cycle of telling the same kids to do the same thing time and time again. One can get somewhat stuck and in order to get out of it, something has to happen to pull that person out of that particular rut.
Inevitably, it will spill over into one's personal life as well. For some people, one's journey, though adventerous, has been considered a lonely road indeed. As he or she travels down that the road of life, it seems that one been passing the same signs, billboards, and places. On can have that feeling, that one has been completely going around in circles and there is absolutely no opening to get out. To venture off the beaten path, in a manner of speaking, amd meet new people that will peak one's interest. One starts to feel invisible and has that mentality that he or she is truly missing out on that one great adventure that one should be a part of.
In any case, the pressures of dealing with kids on a daily basis can take it's toll on a person. You spend countless hours telling them what they should and shouldn't do; but it can quite clear that it's going in one and out the other. Oftentimes there is skewed line inwhich can't destinguish if there is absolute success or absolute defeat when trying to get though to kids. One's ego can take the brunt of it; but ultimately what it boils down to is the absolute challenge to getting through to a child by any means necessary. For me personally, it's the challenge of connecting with kids in several different ways that the kids have responded in a more positive than a negative way.
In retrospect, you know you are making a difference in a child's life when they have seen you completely angry, frustrated, and totally stressed out; BUT at the end of the day, they still want to give you a hug and that is best reward I can ever receive. I end this thought with a quote by George Bernard Shaw and he says, ~This is the true joy of life, the being used up for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clot of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the community, and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it what I can.~
It's that constant cycle that can make a person feel edgy and somwhat frustrated that things, in one's own mind, will never change. In a way, it's like being stuck in the middle of a deserted island and you have no way of getting off it. Each one of us has a routine that one goes through andif that particular routine is broken then the shiznit hits the fan, in a manner of speaking. In some way, a person welcomes the mediocrity that is oftentimes a seemingly never ending cycle of telling the same kids to do the same thing time and time again. One can get somewhat stuck and in order to get out of it, something has to happen to pull that person out of that particular rut.
Inevitably, it will spill over into one's personal life as well. For some people, one's journey, though adventerous, has been considered a lonely road indeed. As he or she travels down that the road of life, it seems that one been passing the same signs, billboards, and places. On can have that feeling, that one has been completely going around in circles and there is absolutely no opening to get out. To venture off the beaten path, in a manner of speaking, amd meet new people that will peak one's interest. One starts to feel invisible and has that mentality that he or she is truly missing out on that one great adventure that one should be a part of.
In any case, the pressures of dealing with kids on a daily basis can take it's toll on a person. You spend countless hours telling them what they should and shouldn't do; but it can quite clear that it's going in one and out the other. Oftentimes there is skewed line inwhich can't destinguish if there is absolute success or absolute defeat when trying to get though to kids. One's ego can take the brunt of it; but ultimately what it boils down to is the absolute challenge to getting through to a child by any means necessary. For me personally, it's the challenge of connecting with kids in several different ways that the kids have responded in a more positive than a negative way.
In retrospect, you know you are making a difference in a child's life when they have seen you completely angry, frustrated, and totally stressed out; BUT at the end of the day, they still want to give you a hug and that is best reward I can ever receive. I end this thought with a quote by George Bernard Shaw and he says, ~This is the true joy of life, the being used up for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clot of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the community, and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it what I can.~
Thursday, November 25, 2004
The Truth Is
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said,~The soul is the perceiver and revealer of truth. We know truth when we see it, let skeptic and scoffer say what they choose. Foolish people ask you, when you have spoken what they do not wish to hear, 'How do you know it is truth, and not an error of your own?' We know truth when we see it, from opinion, as we know when we are awake that we are awake.~ Think about it, when one finally meets that one particular person that you truly know is right for you, one can oftentimes feel he or she is in a dream world. A dream world, in which a person thinks is absolutely to good to be true and hopes he or she doesn't wake up from it ever.
If you think about it, men and women deserve to truth and honest, even though he or she may not want to hear it. It's those two that are considered the best one-two punch combos when it comes to meeting and keeping that potentially new and hopefully lasting relationship. It's those two combos, so to speak, that will ultimately give a person the courage to face the possible defeats that may occur in an unknown and unpredictable area that is love. Let me ask you this question and be truthfull with yourself. Have you ever been in a relationship where you knew the fire wasn't there anymore; but told yourself that it could be rekindled? What did you do and did you face the truth?
Someone once said, ~The TRUTH, it may not lead you to where you thought you were going, but it will always lead you somewhere better. When ignored, it will eventually show itself. The closeness of your relationship is directly professional to the degree to which you have revealed the truth about yourself. It can be painful.~ Each on of us has had to endure some painfully hard truths when it comes life, relationships, and especially love. In a way, it can be a great learning experience even though at the time one heart was going through a downward spiral of emotions. It's at a person's lowest point that he or she will inevitably see who one really is.
Every person is in pusuit of finding the truth when it pertains to their own heart. It's that particular truth that will, in some way, set him or her free from the bonds of self doubt that will hold back a person from doing or saying something to that one person of interest. In a way, it's like having that dream where you are running towards something or someone, but you can't seem to get there. It's simply unttainable because something in your subconcious is holding you back from completely opening one's proverbial flood gates of emotions. It's those particular emotions, which can be compared to a rollercoaster, can either be one's downfall or one's saving grace.
In retrospect, when you look into a person eyes and that person looks back into yours, an unxplainable truth will be revealed. When one look into each other's eyes, you look into each other's soul and what you find is something absolutely truly amazing. It's something that isn't quite right because you feel weak and scared but at the same time you feel stronger and excited. In whole scheme of things, it's a totally confusing feeling; but its a feeling in which you absolutely know that you want to be better person that you want to be for him or her. The truth is, in the end, it's like reaching the top of the highest mountain, but you weren't quite ready for the climb up.
If you think about it, men and women deserve to truth and honest, even though he or she may not want to hear it. It's those two that are considered the best one-two punch combos when it comes to meeting and keeping that potentially new and hopefully lasting relationship. It's those two combos, so to speak, that will ultimately give a person the courage to face the possible defeats that may occur in an unknown and unpredictable area that is love. Let me ask you this question and be truthfull with yourself. Have you ever been in a relationship where you knew the fire wasn't there anymore; but told yourself that it could be rekindled? What did you do and did you face the truth?
Someone once said, ~The TRUTH, it may not lead you to where you thought you were going, but it will always lead you somewhere better. When ignored, it will eventually show itself. The closeness of your relationship is directly professional to the degree to which you have revealed the truth about yourself. It can be painful.~ Each on of us has had to endure some painfully hard truths when it comes life, relationships, and especially love. In a way, it can be a great learning experience even though at the time one heart was going through a downward spiral of emotions. It's at a person's lowest point that he or she will inevitably see who one really is.
Every person is in pusuit of finding the truth when it pertains to their own heart. It's that particular truth that will, in some way, set him or her free from the bonds of self doubt that will hold back a person from doing or saying something to that one person of interest. In a way, it's like having that dream where you are running towards something or someone, but you can't seem to get there. It's simply unttainable because something in your subconcious is holding you back from completely opening one's proverbial flood gates of emotions. It's those particular emotions, which can be compared to a rollercoaster, can either be one's downfall or one's saving grace.
In retrospect, when you look into a person eyes and that person looks back into yours, an unxplainable truth will be revealed. When one look into each other's eyes, you look into each other's soul and what you find is something absolutely truly amazing. It's something that isn't quite right because you feel weak and scared but at the same time you feel stronger and excited. In whole scheme of things, it's a totally confusing feeling; but its a feeling in which you absolutely know that you want to be better person that you want to be for him or her. The truth is, in the end, it's like reaching the top of the highest mountain, but you weren't quite ready for the climb up.
Tuesday, November 23, 2004
Second Chances
It's been said, ~Chance is mere chaos or an order that escapes our understanding? Chance can be experienced only in a total surrender to the unconscious. Enter a world of very real uncertainty. We live in close proximity with chance. Because it dwells inside of us no less than our intentions, we ARE chance - chance and intention. Inexplicable reasons. Some of the so-called greatest works of art were found by chance. To delve into the unknown and unexpected gives an opportunity for unseen creativity to present itself that might have gone unrecognized if searched for while under certain commands to find. True chance and intention can be the most beautiful and inspiring work because it was not searched for. Its innocence makes it original and unique within our organized world.~
We've all taken chances that have pertained to one's own personal and/or professional life. Yet, more often than not, each of us have taken more chances personally putting ourselves out there in order to be seen and inevitably meet that one person who we will spend a lifetime with. Someone once said, that it's better to have regret something you've done than something you didn't do because one doesn't have another chance to do it again. In other words, it is better to have been given the answer to what one has been interested or wondering about than to continually have to wonder whether or not he or she should have asked that particular person, which will be a regret that will surface in the back of one's own mind from time to time.
If you think about it, it's a rarity to be given another chance when it pertains to finding love again. Every person has been at that proverbial rock and a hard place when he or she wished for that do-over after saying or doing something stupid that either put you or that particular person in an awkward position that you never really intended to be in. One's intentions were purely from the heart but the timing was way off and in turn, one's hopes and/or expectations can be dashed in an instant. In a way, it's like running with that person but unsure where he or she is running to. Once one's momentum is pushed forward, it's hard to stop until we hit that proverbial wall of embarrassment and/or disappointment.
Let me ask you this question, if you that one chance to turn back time and be with that one person that truly made you happy, would you do it? It's that one person, who you considered a best friend, the one that got away, and he or she absolutely knew the real you. He or she is that one person who saw through the façade, all the BS, knew you inside and out, plus found things about yourself that you didn't know you possessed. On a subconscious level, it's that one person who one often tries to find in another person, but as the saying goes you truly can't replace that one person who you loved will all your heart. Oftentimes, one wonders why certain things happen and never really see coming, but that's life and we have to deal with it.
In retrospect, a person can have that mentality that when it comes to love, there will be only ONE chance at ever finding true happiness. It's that true happiness that will never be able to be duplicated because it was different, unique, and special. What made it different, unique, and special was that particular individual who one happened to cross paths with by chance. When you take a chance with you, it's the biggest gamble one will ever make in life. Though you might roll snake-eyes, at least you gave it your best shot. In the end, second chances come once in a lifetime; cherish it, don't throw it away, you only get it once and if you don't take advantage to whom your heart is leading you to, then it will truly be crushed.
We've all taken chances that have pertained to one's own personal and/or professional life. Yet, more often than not, each of us have taken more chances personally putting ourselves out there in order to be seen and inevitably meet that one person who we will spend a lifetime with. Someone once said, that it's better to have regret something you've done than something you didn't do because one doesn't have another chance to do it again. In other words, it is better to have been given the answer to what one has been interested or wondering about than to continually have to wonder whether or not he or she should have asked that particular person, which will be a regret that will surface in the back of one's own mind from time to time.
If you think about it, it's a rarity to be given another chance when it pertains to finding love again. Every person has been at that proverbial rock and a hard place when he or she wished for that do-over after saying or doing something stupid that either put you or that particular person in an awkward position that you never really intended to be in. One's intentions were purely from the heart but the timing was way off and in turn, one's hopes and/or expectations can be dashed in an instant. In a way, it's like running with that person but unsure where he or she is running to. Once one's momentum is pushed forward, it's hard to stop until we hit that proverbial wall of embarrassment and/or disappointment.
Let me ask you this question, if you that one chance to turn back time and be with that one person that truly made you happy, would you do it? It's that one person, who you considered a best friend, the one that got away, and he or she absolutely knew the real you. He or she is that one person who saw through the façade, all the BS, knew you inside and out, plus found things about yourself that you didn't know you possessed. On a subconscious level, it's that one person who one often tries to find in another person, but as the saying goes you truly can't replace that one person who you loved will all your heart. Oftentimes, one wonders why certain things happen and never really see coming, but that's life and we have to deal with it.
In retrospect, a person can have that mentality that when it comes to love, there will be only ONE chance at ever finding true happiness. It's that true happiness that will never be able to be duplicated because it was different, unique, and special. What made it different, unique, and special was that particular individual who one happened to cross paths with by chance. When you take a chance with you, it's the biggest gamble one will ever make in life. Though you might roll snake-eyes, at least you gave it your best shot. In the end, second chances come once in a lifetime; cherish it, don't throw it away, you only get it once and if you don't take advantage to whom your heart is leading you to, then it will truly be crushed.
Sunday, November 21, 2004
Alone In The Dark
Each one of us, while traveling down our proverbial journey of self, can become somewhat frustrated at certain aspects of one's life. The one aspect that every person can agree upon that can totally frustrate a person is seeking some kind of relationship with someone or being in a meaningful and significant relationship. Let me ask you this question, have you ever met someone that makes you so crazy and frustrated, but yet are attracted to him or her at the same time. I'm truly convinced that men and women were put on this Earth to mess with each other mentally to the point where we can go completely insane, but in a good way.
In some aspects, every person has hit that proverbial wall in which certain obstacles just get in the way. High hopes and/or great expectations are somewhat a given when a person thinks maybe that once lost smile can permenantly stay on his or her face. Yet, one's high hopes and/or great expectations turn into disappointment when that one particular person you are interested in lets you down. It's like having the door of opportunity slammed or closed in your face without ever actually stepping through it. BUT the question is, how long should a person stand at the door of opportunity before he or she should decide to walk away completely?
Women are truly an enigma, for they are mysterious and beautiful. Yet, they can be totally confusing at the same time which is like trying to put together a complete puzzle, but some of the pieces are missing. As a guy, we are glutton for punishment because even we know we may suffer hurt and disappointment, continue to try to walk through doors of opportunity knowing that it may or may not be closed. Doors of opportunity will open again, but the question remains, will that door of opportunity ever open if I close my eyes and step towards it? In a way it's like putting your finger in a light socket, you know you are going to get shocked but you do it any for the simple reason that socket is there.
Cy Eberhart one said, ~It is a fact of life that we find ourselves in unpleasant demoralizing situations which we can neither escape nor control. We can keep our morale and spirits high by using both "coping" and "hoping" humor. Coping humor laughs at the hopelessness in our situation. It gives us the courage to hang in there, but it does not bring hope. The uniqueness of hoping humor lies in its acceptance of life with all its dichotomies, contradictions, and incongruities. It celebrates the hope in human life. From one comes courage, from the other comes inspiration.~ Think about this, a person can continue to find humor in one's own siutation until he or she stops laughing completely.
About 8 years ago, if you had asked me if I was every ready to be in a relationship I would have laughed in your face. Since then, I have done a lot of growing and basically matured over these past 8 years. I've said before, I was a very different person than I was 8 years ago and for the most part, it was a change for the better. I clearly know that I have the potential to be a father, it's just a matter of finding that one missing ingredient, a women to share my life with. In retrospect frustration is like being alone in the dark; you have no idea where you are, but it only take that one ray of light to lead you in the direction one wants to go. Who is that ray of light for you?
In some aspects, every person has hit that proverbial wall in which certain obstacles just get in the way. High hopes and/or great expectations are somewhat a given when a person thinks maybe that once lost smile can permenantly stay on his or her face. Yet, one's high hopes and/or great expectations turn into disappointment when that one particular person you are interested in lets you down. It's like having the door of opportunity slammed or closed in your face without ever actually stepping through it. BUT the question is, how long should a person stand at the door of opportunity before he or she should decide to walk away completely?
Women are truly an enigma, for they are mysterious and beautiful. Yet, they can be totally confusing at the same time which is like trying to put together a complete puzzle, but some of the pieces are missing. As a guy, we are glutton for punishment because even we know we may suffer hurt and disappointment, continue to try to walk through doors of opportunity knowing that it may or may not be closed. Doors of opportunity will open again, but the question remains, will that door of opportunity ever open if I close my eyes and step towards it? In a way it's like putting your finger in a light socket, you know you are going to get shocked but you do it any for the simple reason that socket is there.
Cy Eberhart one said, ~It is a fact of life that we find ourselves in unpleasant demoralizing situations which we can neither escape nor control. We can keep our morale and spirits high by using both "coping" and "hoping" humor. Coping humor laughs at the hopelessness in our situation. It gives us the courage to hang in there, but it does not bring hope. The uniqueness of hoping humor lies in its acceptance of life with all its dichotomies, contradictions, and incongruities. It celebrates the hope in human life. From one comes courage, from the other comes inspiration.~ Think about this, a person can continue to find humor in one's own siutation until he or she stops laughing completely.
About 8 years ago, if you had asked me if I was every ready to be in a relationship I would have laughed in your face. Since then, I have done a lot of growing and basically matured over these past 8 years. I've said before, I was a very different person than I was 8 years ago and for the most part, it was a change for the better. I clearly know that I have the potential to be a father, it's just a matter of finding that one missing ingredient, a women to share my life with. In retrospect frustration is like being alone in the dark; you have no idea where you are, but it only take that one ray of light to lead you in the direction one wants to go. Who is that ray of light for you?
Saturday, November 20, 2004
From The Heart
Charles W. Chestnut once said, ~The workings of the human heart are the profoundest, mystery of the universe. One moment, they make us despair of our kind, and the next we see in them the reflection of the divine image.~ In some aspects, every person 's heart has eyes, though it can't visually see, touch, or feel what is in front of it. If you think about it, our hearts can be considered a separate being that one can't control sometimes because you never really know how greatly it will be affected. From a certain standpoint, the human heart is the most fragile thing a person has inside them because it can take only one small crack to have one's heart break into so many pieces.
Every person has experienced heartbreak, whether it be good or bad, it was a heartbreak nonetheless. The human heart is the most valuable commodity a person can share with another and the love that two people share is the greatest investment both can give one another as well. Yet, people sometimes lock their hearts away in a proverbial vault so he or she won't be able to be hurt again. It's basically to protect themselves from the dangers of giving your heart to someone else who may eventually stomp on and/or put it in a blender so to speak. You can't protect your heart forever, because there will be that one person who will have the right combination to open up one's personal vault.
Being wounded straight in one's heart can bring any person to his or her knees. It can take days, weeks, months, years, or even decades for one's one heart to fully heal depending on how that one person truly touched your heart. Inevitably, a person heart will be touched again, but he or she will be cautious because one doesn't want to get too attached and suffer the same wounds again. Wounds that oftentimes bring up past pain, anger, bitterness, sadness, and possibly even happiness. With all wounds, they heal but it leaves scars which be a constant reminder of how falling in and out of love can be like a battle, a battle that is truly worth fighting for.
In any case, the eyes our heart can actually see who our eyes sometimes can't visually see. We can be somewhat blind to what is standing right in front of us because we can get too distracted of that one person who is seemingly causing you to go blind. It merely takes a slap in the back of the head from one's own heart to wake up and open our eyes to see what we are missing out on. Our hearts can truly see that one true love that been so elusive to may of us who constantly wonder when our time. It's that one person that binds the ultimate vision when that other person's heart is staring right back at you. It's a stare that feels so familiar and feels absolutely comfortable.
In a romantic/sappy kind of way, that one person that one will meet or already has met will be or is the key to unlocking one's own heart. A poem by Rob Labrecque gives a best description of how one person is the key to unlocking a whole new world, and it's entitled A Key To My Heart:
I had once lost a key
a key that locked my heart
I thought the key was gone
for good but now I know where it is
The key to my heart is right in your hand
That is why I love you so
I never want to let you go
You had the key and now
I love you and you love me
and now we are happy
Inevitably, two hearts that are traveling in different directions, yet are searching for the same thing, will see each other. In the end true happiness will be found and all he or she needs to do is to just speak from the heart.
Every person has experienced heartbreak, whether it be good or bad, it was a heartbreak nonetheless. The human heart is the most valuable commodity a person can share with another and the love that two people share is the greatest investment both can give one another as well. Yet, people sometimes lock their hearts away in a proverbial vault so he or she won't be able to be hurt again. It's basically to protect themselves from the dangers of giving your heart to someone else who may eventually stomp on and/or put it in a blender so to speak. You can't protect your heart forever, because there will be that one person who will have the right combination to open up one's personal vault.
Being wounded straight in one's heart can bring any person to his or her knees. It can take days, weeks, months, years, or even decades for one's one heart to fully heal depending on how that one person truly touched your heart. Inevitably, a person heart will be touched again, but he or she will be cautious because one doesn't want to get too attached and suffer the same wounds again. Wounds that oftentimes bring up past pain, anger, bitterness, sadness, and possibly even happiness. With all wounds, they heal but it leaves scars which be a constant reminder of how falling in and out of love can be like a battle, a battle that is truly worth fighting for.
In any case, the eyes our heart can actually see who our eyes sometimes can't visually see. We can be somewhat blind to what is standing right in front of us because we can get too distracted of that one person who is seemingly causing you to go blind. It merely takes a slap in the back of the head from one's own heart to wake up and open our eyes to see what we are missing out on. Our hearts can truly see that one true love that been so elusive to may of us who constantly wonder when our time. It's that one person that binds the ultimate vision when that other person's heart is staring right back at you. It's a stare that feels so familiar and feels absolutely comfortable.
In a romantic/sappy kind of way, that one person that one will meet or already has met will be or is the key to unlocking one's own heart. A poem by Rob Labrecque gives a best description of how one person is the key to unlocking a whole new world, and it's entitled A Key To My Heart:
I had once lost a key
a key that locked my heart
I thought the key was gone
for good but now I know where it is
The key to my heart is right in your hand
That is why I love you so
I never want to let you go
You had the key and now
I love you and you love me
and now we are happy
Inevitably, two hearts that are traveling in different directions, yet are searching for the same thing, will see each other. In the end true happiness will be found and all he or she needs to do is to just speak from the heart.
Thursday, November 18, 2004
That One Great Power
Henry Miller once said, ~Every day we slaughter our final impulses. That is why we get a heartache when we read those lines written by the hand of a master and recognize them as our own, as the tender shoots which we stifled because we lack the faith to believe in our own powers, our own criteria of truth and beauty. Every man, whne he gets quiest, when he becomes desperately honest with himself is capable of suffering profound truths. We all desire from the same source. There is no mystery about the origin of things. We are all part of creation, all kings, all poets, all musicians, we have only to open up, to discover what is already there.~
Oftentimes, this so called power each of us posess can sap us of the strength we need to move forward in our intended goals. It's somewhat like Superman losing his own strength when he comes in contact with Kryptonite. The kryptonite is our own lives can be considered the "critics" and obstacles that can hinder one's quest, so to speak. In a way, these critics and obstacles can ultimately make us second guess ourselves in the decisions we make to the point where it saps our strength both mentally and physically. The strength, which comes from within ourselves, helps us believe that each of us can make it to that proverbial finish line.
Yet, there are times when a person has attainted a little or too much at that power and becomes arrogant and/or cock. Athletes, for example are a prime example, because their abilities either on the baseball diamond, football field, basketball court, and many other areas make their particular sport what it is today. Such athletes that exude arrogance are Barry Bonds, Deion Sanders, Terell Owens, Dennis Rodman, the entire New York Yankees, and many others; but it's that particular power that has them achieving their ultiamte goals and that is winning championship titles. He or she just has know when to turn it on and off like a light switch when the time is right.
Let me ask you this question, is there someone in your life that helps you build up your power to the point where you are back in the game so to speak? It could be a friend, family member, teacher/professor, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, or even a complete stranger. Sometimes each of us have to hit rock bottom in order to get back on that proverbial horse even though we may get thrown off that horse several times; but that is to be expected. For it's a particular person or group of people who will have your back cheering you on and one's power will start to build up. One just has to look in the mirror each day and in the words of Adam Sandler say to yourself, You Can Do It!
In retrospect, a team that personified this so called power are the Boston Red Sox. After being three games down in the American League division series and almost being eliminated yet again from possibly going to the World Series. For these underdogs, it's wasn't time for them to hear the fat lady sing and they fought for that decisive victory in game 4 which swung the moment back their way. The Yankees never really recovered after that and the Red Sox made history, in a good way of course. If you think about it, it takes small victories in certain areas of our own lives that will inevitably swing good fortune our way; it's just a matter of having that one great power...confidence.
Oftentimes, this so called power each of us posess can sap us of the strength we need to move forward in our intended goals. It's somewhat like Superman losing his own strength when he comes in contact with Kryptonite. The kryptonite is our own lives can be considered the "critics" and obstacles that can hinder one's quest, so to speak. In a way, these critics and obstacles can ultimately make us second guess ourselves in the decisions we make to the point where it saps our strength both mentally and physically. The strength, which comes from within ourselves, helps us believe that each of us can make it to that proverbial finish line.
Yet, there are times when a person has attainted a little or too much at that power and becomes arrogant and/or cock. Athletes, for example are a prime example, because their abilities either on the baseball diamond, football field, basketball court, and many other areas make their particular sport what it is today. Such athletes that exude arrogance are Barry Bonds, Deion Sanders, Terell Owens, Dennis Rodman, the entire New York Yankees, and many others; but it's that particular power that has them achieving their ultiamte goals and that is winning championship titles. He or she just has know when to turn it on and off like a light switch when the time is right.
Let me ask you this question, is there someone in your life that helps you build up your power to the point where you are back in the game so to speak? It could be a friend, family member, teacher/professor, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, or even a complete stranger. Sometimes each of us have to hit rock bottom in order to get back on that proverbial horse even though we may get thrown off that horse several times; but that is to be expected. For it's a particular person or group of people who will have your back cheering you on and one's power will start to build up. One just has to look in the mirror each day and in the words of Adam Sandler say to yourself, You Can Do It!
In retrospect, a team that personified this so called power are the Boston Red Sox. After being three games down in the American League division series and almost being eliminated yet again from possibly going to the World Series. For these underdogs, it's wasn't time for them to hear the fat lady sing and they fought for that decisive victory in game 4 which swung the moment back their way. The Yankees never really recovered after that and the Red Sox made history, in a good way of course. If you think about it, it takes small victories in certain areas of our own lives that will inevitably swing good fortune our way; it's just a matter of having that one great power...confidence.
Sunday, November 14, 2004
One Thing
Someone once said, ~We are all a little weird, and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.~ It's a rare and little bit scary when you meet someone that you truly click with and have certain things in common with that person that can make one just do the proverbial dance of joy. In some aspects, it's like putting together piece of a puzzle and those pieces represent a complete picture of that particular guy or girl who one thinks will fit perfectly in his or her life. It's jut a matter of getting to know that person both personally, intellectually, and emotionally.
The key to completing a puzzle is to locate the outside edges which is good starting off point; by doing that one can work from the outside in. If you think about it, we all have to start from square one when seeking a potential relationship with that particular person of interest. First impressions are a big part of the puzzle because it's a proverbial ice breaker can determine if he or she likes you just for being yourself. One way to find that out is to say something that is either stupid, funny, or stupidly funny that it actually makes that person genuinely laugh. By making a person laugh, you have your basic start off point to get know that person one on one.
As that potential relationship hopefully starts to progress nicely, he or she will get a better understanding of who that person is. Such as what are his or her likes and dislikes, favorite authors, and other aspects that particular people want to find out. By doing that, it will somewhat determine if one's relationship puzzle will start forming a complete picture. It's been said that a picture can say plenty than mere words ever can say. One of the qualities that every person is looking for in a person is intelligence. Not too smart or not too dumb but exactly right in the middle, a criteria which most people look for and for the most part have found.
Inevitably, one the major pieces to complete one's puzzle is the heart. To truly get to know a person is if you can touch him or her emotionally in one's heart. Emotions such as happiness and confusion are just a few aspects of what a person will go through when one's heart is touched. It's been said, that you can never really fall in love with someone until you find out what makes that person cry. Each of us have suffered heartache and those emotions stay with us and never really go away. In any case, when you stumble on a person that you start to fall in love with, you will get up every time; but when you fall completely in love with that person, you will never be able to get up ever again.
Natalie Clifford Bailey said, ~When you're in love you never really know whether your elation comes from the qualities of the one you love, or if it attributes them to her; whether the light which surrounds her like a halo comes from you, from her, or from the meeting of your sparks.~ It's truly amazing how people stumble upon each other by accident and find qualities in that person that he or she is absolutely looking for. It's like finding that perfect diamond among many, but that one particular diamond happened to find you. In retrospect, in order to complete one's puzzle that pertains to a potential relationship, a person has only to do one thing....just simply say, Hi.
The key to completing a puzzle is to locate the outside edges which is good starting off point; by doing that one can work from the outside in. If you think about it, we all have to start from square one when seeking a potential relationship with that particular person of interest. First impressions are a big part of the puzzle because it's a proverbial ice breaker can determine if he or she likes you just for being yourself. One way to find that out is to say something that is either stupid, funny, or stupidly funny that it actually makes that person genuinely laugh. By making a person laugh, you have your basic start off point to get know that person one on one.
As that potential relationship hopefully starts to progress nicely, he or she will get a better understanding of who that person is. Such as what are his or her likes and dislikes, favorite authors, and other aspects that particular people want to find out. By doing that, it will somewhat determine if one's relationship puzzle will start forming a complete picture. It's been said that a picture can say plenty than mere words ever can say. One of the qualities that every person is looking for in a person is intelligence. Not too smart or not too dumb but exactly right in the middle, a criteria which most people look for and for the most part have found.
Inevitably, one the major pieces to complete one's puzzle is the heart. To truly get to know a person is if you can touch him or her emotionally in one's heart. Emotions such as happiness and confusion are just a few aspects of what a person will go through when one's heart is touched. It's been said, that you can never really fall in love with someone until you find out what makes that person cry. Each of us have suffered heartache and those emotions stay with us and never really go away. In any case, when you stumble on a person that you start to fall in love with, you will get up every time; but when you fall completely in love with that person, you will never be able to get up ever again.
Natalie Clifford Bailey said, ~When you're in love you never really know whether your elation comes from the qualities of the one you love, or if it attributes them to her; whether the light which surrounds her like a halo comes from you, from her, or from the meeting of your sparks.~ It's truly amazing how people stumble upon each other by accident and find qualities in that person that he or she is absolutely looking for. It's like finding that perfect diamond among many, but that one particular diamond happened to find you. In retrospect, in order to complete one's puzzle that pertains to a potential relationship, a person has only to do one thing....just simply say, Hi.
Thursday, November 11, 2004
Thank You
As Thanksgiving vast approaches, one starts to notice a change in the weather, as well as, a person's demeanor. He or she realizes that we all will soon celebrate and enjoy the festivities of consuming mass quatntities of food and then passing out later while watching the Dallas Cowboys and Washington Redskins battle it out over supremecy. A battle that has been waged since the days of the old west, but now waged on a football field, and the weapon of choice is a football. In any case, Thanksgiving is about fulfilling time honored traditions in which families institute customs that have been either going on for years or just newly started.
Let me ask you this question, when your whole family gets together, is it a time of togetherness where people come share embaressing stories about one another? A time where lost connections of certain family members such as an uncle, aunt, brother, sisters, cousin, mother, and/or father connect once again. OR is it a time of togetherness where old wounds are opened up again that were once healed.. In a way, it's like having one's own personal Jerry Springer Show even though there is no studio audience, no steve, and most definitely no Jerry. Though, on the outside, it seems dysfunctional, it's one's own family and and family is forever.
If one's life were a Hollywood movie, as director, one could absolutely choose who you want to play as your family. But one's life isn't a movie and we have to accept the ties that bind us to family, which is blood, no matter how strange, weird, screwed up, and totally emberassing you consider them to be. Have you ever just looked at your own family and thought to yourself that there might be a possibilty that you were adopted; for his or her real family has been searching for you. Of course, everybody has and nobody wants to around when the shiznit hits the fan, as one's family frustrations get the better of him or her before, during, and/or after the day of thanks.
Thomas Moore once said, ~Family life is full of major and minor crises--the ups and downs of health, success, and failure in career, marriage, and divorce--and all kinds of characters. It is tied to places and events and histories. With all of these felt details, life etches itself into memory and personality. It's difficult to imagone anything more nourishing to the soul~ The resiliency a family has is not determined by how rich and physically strong they are but by how they continually hold on to hope and always come together when the a member of the family is in dire need of help, even though he or she doesn't want that help.
In retrospect, family is the link to our past and inevitably a bridge to his or her future. It's the memories that are both forgettable and unorgettable that each of us will always cherish and keep with us in our hearts and minds. We all will meet people that we will let into our lives gradually but surely. These people will become friends and then become a second family. A family that has had it's dysfunctional moments, but that is to be expected. Personally speaking, though I haven't met any of you in person, I am glad that I have crossed paths with each and every one of you. In the end, I thank you for taking time to read what I write and letting me share a piece of myself with you.
Let me ask you this question, when your whole family gets together, is it a time of togetherness where people come share embaressing stories about one another? A time where lost connections of certain family members such as an uncle, aunt, brother, sisters, cousin, mother, and/or father connect once again. OR is it a time of togetherness where old wounds are opened up again that were once healed.. In a way, it's like having one's own personal Jerry Springer Show even though there is no studio audience, no steve, and most definitely no Jerry. Though, on the outside, it seems dysfunctional, it's one's own family and and family is forever.
If one's life were a Hollywood movie, as director, one could absolutely choose who you want to play as your family. But one's life isn't a movie and we have to accept the ties that bind us to family, which is blood, no matter how strange, weird, screwed up, and totally emberassing you consider them to be. Have you ever just looked at your own family and thought to yourself that there might be a possibilty that you were adopted; for his or her real family has been searching for you. Of course, everybody has and nobody wants to around when the shiznit hits the fan, as one's family frustrations get the better of him or her before, during, and/or after the day of thanks.
Thomas Moore once said, ~Family life is full of major and minor crises--the ups and downs of health, success, and failure in career, marriage, and divorce--and all kinds of characters. It is tied to places and events and histories. With all of these felt details, life etches itself into memory and personality. It's difficult to imagone anything more nourishing to the soul~ The resiliency a family has is not determined by how rich and physically strong they are but by how they continually hold on to hope and always come together when the a member of the family is in dire need of help, even though he or she doesn't want that help.
In retrospect, family is the link to our past and inevitably a bridge to his or her future. It's the memories that are both forgettable and unorgettable that each of us will always cherish and keep with us in our hearts and minds. We all will meet people that we will let into our lives gradually but surely. These people will become friends and then become a second family. A family that has had it's dysfunctional moments, but that is to be expected. Personally speaking, though I haven't met any of you in person, I am glad that I have crossed paths with each and every one of you. In the end, I thank you for taking time to read what I write and letting me share a piece of myself with you.
Wednesday, November 10, 2004
One
Someone once said, ~Life is divided into 2 parts, what is and what should be. And that with a lot of effort, some hard hard work, and maybe a little luck, there are moments in your life when the two parts touch. When what is and what should be are one in the same.~ In some aspects, it can also decribe love as well, because each of know what love feels like and it only takes a feeling/vibe/connection to have an attraction to that guy or girl. Think about this, we all know what each of our lives are like, but what about the life of that unknown person. A life that is shrowded in mystery and will he or she somehow and/or someday interesect with ours?
Our lives are our own, and the reality of it is, that when it comes to life and love nobody has a clear prespective on the situation. Each of us continue to experience the highs and lows of love when it pertains to potential and/or significant relationships. Oftentimes, life and love somewhat parallet each other to a point where a person simply stands back and just lets out a giant size sigh of disbelief. For that person ultimately asks WHY ME when things don't necessarilt go in our favor. Ineveitably, life can give each of us the heardest reality check that nobody wants to face when it comes to finding that one person who has that proverbial last puzzle piece to one's heart.
Let me ask you this question, Are you or should you be at a certain point in your life where the goals one has set for yourself have been fulfilled? It's the ultimate goal of every person to meet, fall in love, and settle down with that guy or girl who is the last remaning key to achieving one's goal. The path of life and love that each of us are traveling on to reach one's speficied goal isn't as straight and smooth as one thought it would be; but rather it's a long, winding road that can sometimes lead a person to become completely lost. A feeling every person has had when he or she just wants to be taken by the hand and led in the right direction to where one's goal is located at.
We all want to meet that one particular person who each of us want to build our world around. In some aspect, it's a world that one has seen but only from his or her own perspective. Traveling the world, seeing the sights, experiencing the different cultures which can have a positive and/or negative effect on a person. In a way, when each of us have met or will finally meet that one person, he or she will metaphorically take our hearts on a magic carpet ride so to speak. Show us a side ourselves that we necessarily never new existed, and most importantly that one person will teach us that love is a powerful thing and it can hit you when you least expect it.
Michael Dorris said, ~At different stages in our lives, the signs of love may vary: dependence, attraction, contentment, worry, loyalty, grief, but at heart the source is always the same. Human beings have the rare capacity to connect with each other, against all odds.~ Every person has a motto in life, mine happens to be -Live life one day at a time, if you go through it too fast, you miss out on the special moments that make life interesting.- In retrospect, what are the odds that two people accidently meeting as each travels on seperate journies. In the end, two lives that traveled seperately will be intertwined and merge into one.
Our lives are our own, and the reality of it is, that when it comes to life and love nobody has a clear prespective on the situation. Each of us continue to experience the highs and lows of love when it pertains to potential and/or significant relationships. Oftentimes, life and love somewhat parallet each other to a point where a person simply stands back and just lets out a giant size sigh of disbelief. For that person ultimately asks WHY ME when things don't necessarilt go in our favor. Ineveitably, life can give each of us the heardest reality check that nobody wants to face when it comes to finding that one person who has that proverbial last puzzle piece to one's heart.
Let me ask you this question, Are you or should you be at a certain point in your life where the goals one has set for yourself have been fulfilled? It's the ultimate goal of every person to meet, fall in love, and settle down with that guy or girl who is the last remaning key to achieving one's goal. The path of life and love that each of us are traveling on to reach one's speficied goal isn't as straight and smooth as one thought it would be; but rather it's a long, winding road that can sometimes lead a person to become completely lost. A feeling every person has had when he or she just wants to be taken by the hand and led in the right direction to where one's goal is located at.
We all want to meet that one particular person who each of us want to build our world around. In some aspect, it's a world that one has seen but only from his or her own perspective. Traveling the world, seeing the sights, experiencing the different cultures which can have a positive and/or negative effect on a person. In a way, when each of us have met or will finally meet that one person, he or she will metaphorically take our hearts on a magic carpet ride so to speak. Show us a side ourselves that we necessarily never new existed, and most importantly that one person will teach us that love is a powerful thing and it can hit you when you least expect it.
Michael Dorris said, ~At different stages in our lives, the signs of love may vary: dependence, attraction, contentment, worry, loyalty, grief, but at heart the source is always the same. Human beings have the rare capacity to connect with each other, against all odds.~ Every person has a motto in life, mine happens to be -Live life one day at a time, if you go through it too fast, you miss out on the special moments that make life interesting.- In retrospect, what are the odds that two people accidently meeting as each travels on seperate journies. In the end, two lives that traveled seperately will be intertwined and merge into one.
Tuesday, November 09, 2004
Balance Of Power
As a guy, I've accepted the fact long ago that women have "the power". Every guy may think he is in control but in reality there is a woman lurking in the shadows running the show so to speak. It's really no big secret, for the proof is in the pudding because when kids ask their father for something fairly semi-important he would primarily tell him or her to wait for one's mom and see what see says. The power a women has is simply unexplainable and can't be figure out. For if it could be compared to something that a guy would understand, it would be compared to the power of the force, which a jedi master would yield.
Looking at it from a guy's perspective, the influence that a woman has over a man is unbelieveable. That basic influence doesn't come from a wave of the hand, it comes from her smile and the way she looks in one's direction. A women's smile and certain look that she perfects should be outlawed because guys will turn into mindless zombies that will say yes to anything. Every guy has been in a situation where he refused to do something that would compromise one's own masculinity, but would soon find himself doing it because it made her happy. It's that certain quality that makes women special, even though they drive us nuts.
In my own thinking, "the power" would balance out if guys and girls correctly picked that one person who truly makes one smile as well as your heart smile too. Each of us have had moments in life where you wanted our dream to come true when in concerned someone that you knew one wouldn't have a chance with. A dream where anything was possible and the chances one had were endless because in reality each of us have only one life and one chance to do and say all the things with that one person. Inevitably each of us must make the most of the opportunites that are placed in front us because second chances are sometimes hard to come by.
In the whole scheme of things, each one of us wants a relationship that is well balanced. A balance of friendship, romance, conversation, respect and love. It's been said that love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear. The brightest future is oftentimes determined by a painful past and sometimes a person can't move on to the future until one let goes of past failures and heartaches. Ultimately, telling someone that you care about and/or love him or her is never 100% guaranteed that he or she will return those feeling back. We're human and like the saying goes, what doesn't kill us will only make us stronger.
Someone once said, ~ Relationships are like a roses with endless beauty. To enjoy it's beauty one must love and care for it. Give it the things it needs to bloom. The feeling is much greater than to be pricked by it's hurting thorns.~ In other words, both men and women have to be prepared to work hard to keep the roses from losing all it's petals. Petals which represent the true beauty of a person and that beauty comes form a person's heart and In the end nobody wants to be left with a stem full of thorns. In retrospect, every person will find that one person who will bring a harmonious balance of power to a seemingly unbalanced life.
Looking at it from a guy's perspective, the influence that a woman has over a man is unbelieveable. That basic influence doesn't come from a wave of the hand, it comes from her smile and the way she looks in one's direction. A women's smile and certain look that she perfects should be outlawed because guys will turn into mindless zombies that will say yes to anything. Every guy has been in a situation where he refused to do something that would compromise one's own masculinity, but would soon find himself doing it because it made her happy. It's that certain quality that makes women special, even though they drive us nuts.
In my own thinking, "the power" would balance out if guys and girls correctly picked that one person who truly makes one smile as well as your heart smile too. Each of us have had moments in life where you wanted our dream to come true when in concerned someone that you knew one wouldn't have a chance with. A dream where anything was possible and the chances one had were endless because in reality each of us have only one life and one chance to do and say all the things with that one person. Inevitably each of us must make the most of the opportunites that are placed in front us because second chances are sometimes hard to come by.
In the whole scheme of things, each one of us wants a relationship that is well balanced. A balance of friendship, romance, conversation, respect and love. It's been said that love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear. The brightest future is oftentimes determined by a painful past and sometimes a person can't move on to the future until one let goes of past failures and heartaches. Ultimately, telling someone that you care about and/or love him or her is never 100% guaranteed that he or she will return those feeling back. We're human and like the saying goes, what doesn't kill us will only make us stronger.
Someone once said, ~ Relationships are like a roses with endless beauty. To enjoy it's beauty one must love and care for it. Give it the things it needs to bloom. The feeling is much greater than to be pricked by it's hurting thorns.~ In other words, both men and women have to be prepared to work hard to keep the roses from losing all it's petals. Petals which represent the true beauty of a person and that beauty comes form a person's heart and In the end nobody wants to be left with a stem full of thorns. In retrospect, every person will find that one person who will bring a harmonious balance of power to a seemingly unbalanced life.
Monday, November 08, 2004
Meaning Of Life
What is the meaning of life? Every person, whether he or she wants to admit or not, has down alone or with a group of friends and pondered this question from dusk till dawn. For most people one immediately know the answer but for others it's different to figure out. If you think about it, it's a question that has many different answer for each person, but absolutely no wrong answeres. Inevitably, while each of us tries to figure out that particular question, we all experience what life has to offer while traveling on our proverbial journey. A journey in which we ask ourselves what is life really all about and what's our purpose for being here?
For some people the meaning of life is attaining as much knowledge as possible. It's been said, that knowedge is power and is the key for certain people who spend their entire lives seraching for answers to questions that that have been asked and debated on countless times. Such questions in particular are: What do women want? Is there another from of life out in space than our own? Is there an afterlife? Does God really exist? One may not even come up with the answers, but for that particular person it is a challenge to figure it out. Let me ask you this question though, when a person does finally come up with the answers to these questions, what's next?
In some cases, what brings meaning to a person's life is making that all might dollar. Every person wants to be secure in the fact that he or she has enough money to be set in the latter years of one's life. Yet, there is a saying that money is the root of all evil. For particular people, money can consume him or her and ultimately it can change a person's personality. A change in which one becomes someone that one's friends and family don't recognizes and may not want to be around. The material things that one wants in life are semi-important; but when it becomes all about the benjamins so to speak, he or she will sacrifice the most important thing he or she has and that is one's family.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, ~The purpse of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.~ In a way what he says is true, BUT a person doesn't have to give up one's happiness in order to find meaning in one's life. One can absolutely go through life spreading happiness to others even though one's own personal happiness hasn't quite been fulfilled. Ultimately one can stumble upon it because the answer to one's purpose in life has always been staring that person in the face. Call it an epiphany or an eye opening moment, one's meaning/purpose of life will be eventually realized.
I started this thought by asking the question what is the meaning of life? The better quetsion to ask is what is the meaning of your own life? You basically have to ask yourself who or what makes you happy in life? About 2 months ago, without power for seven days after Hurricane Ivan, I reflected on what has meant most to me and does it give me purpose. After 6 nights looking up into this stars I came up with this answer. In the last 8 years I have connected with so many kid, that I realized I was miserable not being in a place that drove me nuts. In restrospect, what has given me meaning and purpose has been "my kids" because they make me happy...most of the time.
For some people the meaning of life is attaining as much knowledge as possible. It's been said, that knowedge is power and is the key for certain people who spend their entire lives seraching for answers to questions that that have been asked and debated on countless times. Such questions in particular are: What do women want? Is there another from of life out in space than our own? Is there an afterlife? Does God really exist? One may not even come up with the answers, but for that particular person it is a challenge to figure it out. Let me ask you this question though, when a person does finally come up with the answers to these questions, what's next?
In some cases, what brings meaning to a person's life is making that all might dollar. Every person wants to be secure in the fact that he or she has enough money to be set in the latter years of one's life. Yet, there is a saying that money is the root of all evil. For particular people, money can consume him or her and ultimately it can change a person's personality. A change in which one becomes someone that one's friends and family don't recognizes and may not want to be around. The material things that one wants in life are semi-important; but when it becomes all about the benjamins so to speak, he or she will sacrifice the most important thing he or she has and that is one's family.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, ~The purpse of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.~ In a way what he says is true, BUT a person doesn't have to give up one's happiness in order to find meaning in one's life. One can absolutely go through life spreading happiness to others even though one's own personal happiness hasn't quite been fulfilled. Ultimately one can stumble upon it because the answer to one's purpose in life has always been staring that person in the face. Call it an epiphany or an eye opening moment, one's meaning/purpose of life will be eventually realized.
I started this thought by asking the question what is the meaning of life? The better quetsion to ask is what is the meaning of your own life? You basically have to ask yourself who or what makes you happy in life? About 2 months ago, without power for seven days after Hurricane Ivan, I reflected on what has meant most to me and does it give me purpose. After 6 nights looking up into this stars I came up with this answer. In the last 8 years I have connected with so many kid, that I realized I was miserable not being in a place that drove me nuts. In restrospect, what has given me meaning and purpose has been "my kids" because they make me happy...most of the time.
Saturday, November 06, 2004
Walk Tall
Each of us have struggled or continue to struggle in certain aspects of our lives. The struggles that we all go through are the same for many, but the situation may be different. If you think about it, as one grows up a person will in some ways be graduating from the school of hard knocks and be initiated in adulthood. A type of initiation, in which he or she will be toughened up as life itself gets tougher and tougher. In a way, these struggles are considered gauntlets and anyone and/or anything will be standing in our way; beating us down as each of us are trying to get to the other side.
Childhood is considered one of the toughests gauntlets one faces because it's basically a search for individuality. In some ways, we battled our way through many obstacles to get to the other side not emotionally or physically scarred. Remember back in your middle/high school days trying to basically fit in, but yet one felt like you didn't belong. Think about it, our own middle/high school years were tests that took us beyond our limits of mental and physical pain and/or tuture in order to find out who will be standing at the end of the gauntlet, and will we lik the person we have become in the end?
Potential and/or significant relationships are considered gauntlets as well because one faces tough challenges ahead in order to meet Mr./Ms. Right. Let me ask you this question, have you ever had to go through so many obstacles in order to try to be with that one person you wanted to be with? Let me ask another question, was it worth it in the end going through that relationship gauntlet knowing all that you did to get to that point? We all have a comfort zone that we like to stay in but each of us will step out of that zone and risk being battered and bruised in order to find out if that particular person will be standing at the end of one's gauntlet.
If you think about it, a person faces their own personal problems as one walks the gauntlet of life so to speak. The problems that each of us face can either have a positive or negative effect. One can avoid them but for how long? It's these particular expectations that can beat a person down to the ground where one can either do things: 1.) stay down, give up, and let your own person gauntlet defeat you OR 2.) get up batter and bruised and push yourself to the end with the remaining strength you have. Which do you choose and will you or have you overcome your own personal problems?
Theodore Roosevelt once said, ~A person whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who at best, knows the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.~ In the end in the gauntlet that is our life, whether you succeed or fail, keep your head up and continue to walk tall.
Childhood is considered one of the toughests gauntlets one faces because it's basically a search for individuality. In some ways, we battled our way through many obstacles to get to the other side not emotionally or physically scarred. Remember back in your middle/high school days trying to basically fit in, but yet one felt like you didn't belong. Think about it, our own middle/high school years were tests that took us beyond our limits of mental and physical pain and/or tuture in order to find out who will be standing at the end of the gauntlet, and will we lik the person we have become in the end?
Potential and/or significant relationships are considered gauntlets as well because one faces tough challenges ahead in order to meet Mr./Ms. Right. Let me ask you this question, have you ever had to go through so many obstacles in order to try to be with that one person you wanted to be with? Let me ask another question, was it worth it in the end going through that relationship gauntlet knowing all that you did to get to that point? We all have a comfort zone that we like to stay in but each of us will step out of that zone and risk being battered and bruised in order to find out if that particular person will be standing at the end of one's gauntlet.
If you think about it, a person faces their own personal problems as one walks the gauntlet of life so to speak. The problems that each of us face can either have a positive or negative effect. One can avoid them but for how long? It's these particular expectations that can beat a person down to the ground where one can either do things: 1.) stay down, give up, and let your own person gauntlet defeat you OR 2.) get up batter and bruised and push yourself to the end with the remaining strength you have. Which do you choose and will you or have you overcome your own personal problems?
Theodore Roosevelt once said, ~A person whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again, who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who at best, knows the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.~ In the end in the gauntlet that is our life, whether you succeed or fail, keep your head up and continue to walk tall.
Thursday, November 04, 2004
Believe It Or Not
Kids can do and say things that are pretty outrageous, take it from me. I've practically heard and seen everything that has crossed my path. It's the totally unbelieveable that can make myself and my fellow co-workers put our hands over our faces in disbelief, all-the-while laughing on the inside. Yet, it's those same kids that are part of untold stories that can make any person cry and tug at one's heart strings. Inevitably, a person doesn't really understand why we do the job that we do until he or she experiences it for themselves. It's a certain unknown connection one has with kids that somewhat determines if that child considers you a trusted friend or a bitter enemy.
In some aspects, the kids are like a pack of wolves waiting for fresh meat to walk through those hallowed halls of the asylum. These mini-Hannibal Lectres will immediately walk up to a newbie and size him or her up and mentally try to figure out what damage he or she can to this person. In a way, it's like walking through a gauntlet set up by the kids, and if one gets thru the day without having a nervous breakdown then one has survived his or her first day. A day, in which one will be mentally fatigued on trying to figure which name belongs with which face and which child will take one's patience to the limit and beyond.
As time goes by, one will have to figure out for themselves what kind of counselor he or she will be. I've learned over the past 8 years, one has to have some middle ground when dealing with kids. A person has to a combination of meanness ad coolness, plus an added mix of totally insanity sprinkled in. By combining these three qualities, I'm considered on the top four favorite counselors, which can change on a daily basis. One has to understand that a child can love you and think you cool one day, but then turn right around and simply loathe you and think you need to seek professional help the next day. Kids will be opinionated and will share their thoughts even if one doesn't ask for it.
Ultimately, those who are in the child care profession will become attatched to these kids. In my 8 years working at the Asylum, I have seen every kid grow up in front of my eyes and I feel like a proud parent. It's a tough situation indeed when kids leave the roost, so to speak and venture off to places that are truly unknown to him or her. Yet, what makes it doubly tough is when a child, we as counselors help raise suddenly passes away. In a way, it's like losing a little bit of yourself and nothing can prepare a person to hear that bit of news. Thinking about it, our paths will cross again one day and as I once said, it's not a matter of saying goodbye, that's just not my style; it's a matter of saying see you later.
Jean De La Bryuere once said, ~Children are contemptuous, haughty, irritable, envious, sneaky, selfish, lazy, flighty, timid, liars and hypocrites, quick to laugh and cry, extreme in expressing joy and sorrow, especially about trivial things, they'll do anything to avoid pain but they enjoy inflicting it.~ A person may ask why do it in the first place and have attatchments to these kids that you know don't listen, talk back to you, and on any given day tell you that he or she doesn't like you. In all honestly, I do it because I love "my kids", though they drive me totally insane. Believe it or not, if I had the chance to do again knowing what I'd be getting myself into, I would absolutely do it in a heartbeat.
In some aspects, the kids are like a pack of wolves waiting for fresh meat to walk through those hallowed halls of the asylum. These mini-Hannibal Lectres will immediately walk up to a newbie and size him or her up and mentally try to figure out what damage he or she can to this person. In a way, it's like walking through a gauntlet set up by the kids, and if one gets thru the day without having a nervous breakdown then one has survived his or her first day. A day, in which one will be mentally fatigued on trying to figure which name belongs with which face and which child will take one's patience to the limit and beyond.
As time goes by, one will have to figure out for themselves what kind of counselor he or she will be. I've learned over the past 8 years, one has to have some middle ground when dealing with kids. A person has to a combination of meanness ad coolness, plus an added mix of totally insanity sprinkled in. By combining these three qualities, I'm considered on the top four favorite counselors, which can change on a daily basis. One has to understand that a child can love you and think you cool one day, but then turn right around and simply loathe you and think you need to seek professional help the next day. Kids will be opinionated and will share their thoughts even if one doesn't ask for it.
Ultimately, those who are in the child care profession will become attatched to these kids. In my 8 years working at the Asylum, I have seen every kid grow up in front of my eyes and I feel like a proud parent. It's a tough situation indeed when kids leave the roost, so to speak and venture off to places that are truly unknown to him or her. Yet, what makes it doubly tough is when a child, we as counselors help raise suddenly passes away. In a way, it's like losing a little bit of yourself and nothing can prepare a person to hear that bit of news. Thinking about it, our paths will cross again one day and as I once said, it's not a matter of saying goodbye, that's just not my style; it's a matter of saying see you later.
Jean De La Bryuere once said, ~Children are contemptuous, haughty, irritable, envious, sneaky, selfish, lazy, flighty, timid, liars and hypocrites, quick to laugh and cry, extreme in expressing joy and sorrow, especially about trivial things, they'll do anything to avoid pain but they enjoy inflicting it.~ A person may ask why do it in the first place and have attatchments to these kids that you know don't listen, talk back to you, and on any given day tell you that he or she doesn't like you. In all honestly, I do it because I love "my kids", though they drive me totally insane. Believe it or not, if I had the chance to do again knowing what I'd be getting myself into, I would absolutely do it in a heartbeat.
Tuesday, November 02, 2004
Let It Ride
Sir Hugh Walpoe once said, ~The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one's relationship has a glowing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous things, it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It's sort of a divine accident.~ Let me ask you this question, do you think there is someone out there who is meant for every person? It's basically a simple question that has been asked themselves over and over again on occasion. For some the answers come quickly, yet for others the answer to is truly an unknown.
In some aspect, potential relationships are primarily a gamble and every roll of the dice determines how far or how close each of us will find true happiness. Oftentimes, one may think he or she has either a great roll or a great hand that being dealt to that person. yet, those proverbial dice that represent a possible potential relationship usually land on disappointment and one's cards will reveal a dead man's hand. Inevitably, each of us lose much more than money and the shirt of our backs so to speak, one loses a little bit of confidence. One just has to keep rolling the dice and hope he or she doesn't go completely broke in the end.
We've all chased after that dream guy or girl who, in some people's mind is a long shot, but it's a gamble of lifetime. It's that dream guy/girl who makes you tongue tied and made you somewhat feel like Kramer, a feeling most of us know all too well. It's the random acts of stupidity each of us go through in order to find out if there is a slight chance, if any, of coming up aces so to speak. Though we have left our middle/high school days behind, that juvenile mentality stays with us for years to come and never really outgrow it. The odds of succeed may not be in our favor, but a person can overcome those odds just by winning back one's own confidence.
In any case, a person that is having this sort of unlucky streak in one's life, it's nice to have that guy or girl friend to be sort of sponsor for one's addiction in a manner of speaking. In some ways, it's easier to talk to that person than trying to talk to that other person who you would risk gambling your whole life for. That one person who is supporting in your quest is friend that will laugh at your corny jokes, be absolutely comfortable around, and just be yourself. Inevitably, it's at that point maybe he or she has been placing the wrong bet on who one wants to be with, and it doesn't take a slap to the back of the head to realize that, which every person has come to in the end.
Anna Louise Strong said, ~To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult, our human loneliness is cause enough. But it's a hard quest worth making to find a comrade though whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be.~ In retrospect, when you do stumble upon "the one" you don't necessarily change you your are, but rather be a better person for meeting him or her. If you think about it, it's the person you least expect that will make you believe that luck is on your side and things about to change for the better. Ultimately, when you gamble with your own heart, the thing to do is just close your eyes, throw the dice, and simply let it ride.
In some aspect, potential relationships are primarily a gamble and every roll of the dice determines how far or how close each of us will find true happiness. Oftentimes, one may think he or she has either a great roll or a great hand that being dealt to that person. yet, those proverbial dice that represent a possible potential relationship usually land on disappointment and one's cards will reveal a dead man's hand. Inevitably, each of us lose much more than money and the shirt of our backs so to speak, one loses a little bit of confidence. One just has to keep rolling the dice and hope he or she doesn't go completely broke in the end.
We've all chased after that dream guy or girl who, in some people's mind is a long shot, but it's a gamble of lifetime. It's that dream guy/girl who makes you tongue tied and made you somewhat feel like Kramer, a feeling most of us know all too well. It's the random acts of stupidity each of us go through in order to find out if there is a slight chance, if any, of coming up aces so to speak. Though we have left our middle/high school days behind, that juvenile mentality stays with us for years to come and never really outgrow it. The odds of succeed may not be in our favor, but a person can overcome those odds just by winning back one's own confidence.
In any case, a person that is having this sort of unlucky streak in one's life, it's nice to have that guy or girl friend to be sort of sponsor for one's addiction in a manner of speaking. In some ways, it's easier to talk to that person than trying to talk to that other person who you would risk gambling your whole life for. That one person who is supporting in your quest is friend that will laugh at your corny jokes, be absolutely comfortable around, and just be yourself. Inevitably, it's at that point maybe he or she has been placing the wrong bet on who one wants to be with, and it doesn't take a slap to the back of the head to realize that, which every person has come to in the end.
Anna Louise Strong said, ~To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult, our human loneliness is cause enough. But it's a hard quest worth making to find a comrade though whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be.~ In retrospect, when you do stumble upon "the one" you don't necessarily change you your are, but rather be a better person for meeting him or her. If you think about it, it's the person you least expect that will make you believe that luck is on your side and things about to change for the better. Ultimately, when you gamble with your own heart, the thing to do is just close your eyes, throw the dice, and simply let it ride.
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