The Age Old Question

A wise man once said, ~As a man you have to die once in order to live.~ Most guys never fully understand what that means until he experiences firsthand to him. You may be asking yourself what on earth am I talking about and is it relevant. Well, since the dawn of time there have been many epic battles such as Boston Red Sox vs. The New York Yankess, Army vs. Navy, Florida vs. Florida State are just a few battles that are still going on to this day. Several days ago, my best friend and I brought up an age old batle that has been brewing for a very long time and it is between BAD BOYS and NICE GUYS. It's a subject that both myself and my best friend still scratch our heads over.

The number one thing that bad boys have or pretend to have is confidence. Yet that confidence can be perceived as arrogant charm that is a defining character trait that these guys share. It's one's arrogance that produces a gigantic, egotistical, all about me attitude whose only interest is the superficiality of a lady. Think about this , that arrogance, which oftentimes brands these guys jerks, doesn't possess a high self esteem and have a mentality that all women, in their eyes, are merely conquests, These so called "players" or "ladies men" think they are God's gift to women, but that fixation doesn't usually last that long and once her eyes are open, he is kicked to the curb.

There is a saying that goes nice guys always finish last and it will always pertain to seeking a relationship with someone you truly like or love. Every man has experienced unrequited feelings of love for someone only to have it spurned or crushed. It's that experience of constant heartache that can make nice just wave the proverbial white flag and just give up on ever meeting that one women to spend the rest of his days with. In any case, it's that knight in shining armor mentality when a certain lady of interest needs a shoulder to cry on and vent about why she isn't able to find the right guy. Primarily what you get from a nice guy is respect and a solid, equal grounded relationship.

If you think about it, it's not only a guy thing it's a girl thing as well with the bad girls and the nice girls. Guys are searching for that diamond in the rough that is the perfect girl, which in reality doesn't really exist but only in mind. It's that weird irresitable attratction that both men and women sense in a proverbial bad boy or bad girl. Ultimately these bad boys/bad girls love the thrill of the chase which means one thing and that it's all about him or her. For he or she isn't the slightest bit concerned about how is is trating that person. In the end, that nice girl or nice guy will be left heartbroken and will start to wonder whether or not he or she is worthy to a boyfriend or girlfriend.

In the whole scheme of things, men and women have know idea what they want when it comes to potential relationships. Women, more so than men, act on impulse and emotion and that is why they pass up the nice guy and go after the dangerous boy thinking she can change him, a feeling I know all too well. In restrospect, nobody wants to get hurt in a potential or significant relationship. Inevitably, both men and and women need to look past the superficial and look at what truly matters most in the end and that is a person's heart. It's the age old question, who do men and women want more, a bad boy/bad girl or a nice girl/bad girl? (Feedback is welcomed on this)