Fade To Black

If you think about it, it's easy to fall in love with someone without being committed to that person. Every person has done it in his or her own lifetime with a person one oftentimes can't be with such as a celebrity in sports and/ or entertainment. It's somewhat of a fantasy for each of us to meet a certain singer, actor, sports star and marry him or her. One just has to wake up from dreaming and realize that each of us will eventually settle down with that one person who we consider bigger than any celebrity you meet.

It's all about commitment and that promise to keep the fires of love continually burning for his or her true love. It's sometimes not easy for a man or a woman because it means closing one's heart to the possibility of falling in love with someone else more attractive and loveable. As cruel as that sounds, that’s how the cookie crumbles so to speak. Love is not easy, it just gets more complicated as time goes by. It's been said, love will make you do crazy things and when you're totally committed, two become one.

Oftentimes, one person is more committed than the other and it can be seen in many relationships. One person gives more of himself/herself than the other person and that love isn't being reciprocated. I once wrote that life can be considered a one way street, if you're not paying attention you can be hit head on. A person can never really tell how much a man loves a woman and vice versa. Love isn't an object that can be measured which causes problems. How can a person know if he or she is telling the truth....you can't.

A person can say that he or she is in love with him or her but how far is that person will to go to prove it? Courting, which in my opinion is a lost artform and marriage, a sign of full commitment. A person says all the right words and does all the right things in a potential or significant relationship and pledges his or her love forever, but only leaves that person high and dry later down the road, so to speak. The question can be asked: were they in love? Yes, but not enough to hold it together and then the pain of heartache begins.

In retrospect, when two people are in a totally committed and loving relationship, things seem brighter and more colorful. In a way, it's like being on a proverbial high without taking any actual drugs. But one will always get that sinking feeling that something is not right in the relationship. A sixth sense, if you will, that mostly women have and that strong commitment is loosening up and doubt creeps into his or her head. In the end, the once bright and colorful relationship will ultimately fade to black.